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• how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
  
  
  It would make me stop thinking about and imagining SI - temporarily. It would make me feel something which I understand instead of something which I don't (even though both are negative emotions - how I feel after SI is something I understand and can deal with). . .
• what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
  
  Temporarily it would help. Longer term it would make stuff worse and harder.
• how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
  
  I want to work on things. I want to get somewhere. I want to change. SIing is going to take me further from that.
• if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
  
  Not long. I would probably then want to SI more. And it would be harder to not give in to it since I already had. . . I don't want to give in to wanting to SI.
• what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
  
  I want to sleep. But I've been trying and I can't sleep. If I could sleep then I wouldn't have to think and feel until tomorrow. Tomorrow stuff would be hard again. I don't know what else I can do - I don't want to get up and try distraction type things because I really just want to sleep.
• how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
  
  If I give in I would be dissapponted and it would make things harder. If I don't, stuff is still going to be hard, but I won't have to add dealing with SI on top of it.
• what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?

More Before Questions To Answer

• Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
  
  I can't sleep. Stuff hurts. I can't think. Stuff has been hurting all day . . . And the past few days have been hard.
• Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
  
  Probably. I don't know.
• What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
  
  I'm trying to sleep now. All day - I've been distracting myself - reading stuff on the Internet. Watching DVDs.
• How do I feel right now?
  
  It hurts. And I don't know what it is - I don't know what emotions I'm feeling other than it hurts and I can't think.
• How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
• How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
• Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
• Do I need to hurt myself?

Hey,

Sounds like you can think of some really good reasons to not hurt yourself. I hope sleeping helps.

Does it help to try and label your emotions more? Sometimes when I know what I'm feeling that helps me manage it better.

Thank you for your reply. Yeah - it does help me more when I identify my emotions so that I know what they are. But I find it really hard to do that - like I feel stuff, but I don't know what emotion it is.

i've been having trouble sleeping lately. i often listen to guided meditations and they help a lot to relax me and stop me thinking so much. i really like satify (android or online), excel at life and isleep easy (android).

I can't do this. It hurts. I feel stuff . . . I still want to SI. And it just hurts. . .

have you cried? i think sometimes we hold in the pain and crying can help let it happen naturally.

i'm sorry it hurts.