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Only I control my pain *lang*

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2012 2:32 am
by ambivalent red
Before:

Before You Self-Harm
write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself:
the fight
  • how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
    itll go away, i will have control
  • what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
    itll bring peace and a new fucking scar
  • how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way? I want to feel like I triuphmed, just not sure which battle to fight more.
  • if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
    itll keep me thru the night
  • what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?im fucking drinking. take it away!
  • how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
    Im damaged goods anyways
  • what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
Im lost and have no protective instinct


urges aren't necessarily the enemy. they happen for reasons, and they're an expression of a desire to stay alive and stay sane and keep coping. remember that.

More Before Questions To Answer
  • Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
    the fight
  • Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
    the same the same the same the same
  • What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
    i dont have another answer other than BUS
  • How do I feel right now?
    Im buring with anger and pain, I wanna make it stop
  • How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
    in fucking control god damnit
  • How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
    in control, relaxed, elevated

    That I will need to go to the Dr. with my mood and tools right now
  • Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
    he left!!! How can I deal when he wont give me a chance. I will do it my self
  • Do I need to hurt myself?
most likely


Remember you don't have to answer all the questions if you don't feel up to it.