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Post by xStarBright » Sun Apr 19, 2009 2:58 am

sorry, answering all the questions.
  • how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
    The situation won't change, but I'll feel guilty and mess up a lot of things
  • what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
    There is no situation. It won't do anything
  • how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
    I want to be comfortable. but that scares me. probably farther.
  • if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
    I don't know - a while, then i have to hurt again.
  • what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
    I could read or go on here. I can read and that would be enough of a distraction
  • how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
    I dont know. Ashamed and what Ive messed up
  • what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
    I want to talk and be acknowledged

More Before Questions To Answer
  • Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
    Because I'm upset. And because I suck at talking...
  • Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
    No, I dont remember being so
  • What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
    Write this. i can read.
  • How do I feel right now?
    Upset, rejected [although i really havent been], like i've gone too far.
  • How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
    I feel... strange
  • How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
    After hurting myself my mood stabalises. Tomorrow morning I would feel awful
  • Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
    Spell things out clearly, have a rutein & sleeping pattern
  • Do I need to hurt myself?
    No.
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Post by sixtyfoothigh » Sun Apr 19, 2009 7:07 pm

Have you seen the scarily long list of coping strategies in coping: http://buslist.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=34500

Or go to the distractions forum if distractions help you.

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