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Questions to Answer After A Slip
slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action.

• have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait. Yeah I took care of em
• what had happened just before?
  My mind started to race and I started to shake
• what were you thinking and feeling?
  I started getting manic, and started thinking about killing myself, and it scared me...I needed something to snap me back to reality
• why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
  I started thinking in ways I didn't want to think and it was scaring me...and I knew cutting was a surefire way to get myself back to reality and calm my mania a little
• how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
  I could have called Dustin, even though I'm frustrated with him (story for another day). Talking to him might have calmed me down. He knows what to say when I'm like this....I just hate dumping this shit on him
• were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
  Yeahhh, lets see....change in meds...lack of sleep....1 month post partum, getting depressed.....I should call my pdoc way sooner....and attempt to sleep during the day with my baby instead of trying to scrape by with 5 hrs of interrupted sleep at night..
• what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
  I was pacing for a while, I posted on main, and I briefly tried to concentrate on breathing. I tried the 15 minute game but got to 3 minutes and said fuck it....they all didn't work well...I was just too far gone I think....
• in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
  Calling Dustin maybe....hot shower without razors in there? Fuck, I don't know. I've never cut when I'm loosing control. I literally couldn't think straight and all I could think of was to cut.
• name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
  
  I..I don't know. Post something in my room, a list of things to do? I can't think of any right now
• how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution? It's not really resolved. These episodes will happen again. They used to a lot, and I'd always end up cutting. Now with meds they don't but apparently something isn't working. I see my pdoc in a little over a week.
  
  
• are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
  Probably/most definitely....I'm not sure right now...i still can't really think
  
  
• what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.

Calling Dustin even if I feel like an ass, cuddling with my baby, and posting on here

About Opportunities to SI
Opportunity to Self-Harm seems to be a common theme. Think about why opportunities are important to slips and learn why opportunity is important to you.

• What made that opportunity more appealing than any other?
  There was no thinking
• Did you make an opportunity or was it there for the taking?
  mom and baby were sleeping
• What would you have done if there was no opportunity, how would you have handled your urge?
  I'm not sure
• If there had been no opportunity would your urge to self-harm have increased or decreased?
  Increased
• What consitutes opportunity for you? Being alone? having new tools? waiting for the right feeling?
  alone, feelings, and having first aid stuff
• If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel?

Completely out of control.....
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