before SI trigg
Posted: Mon Dec 17, 2007 4:28 am
Before You Self-Harm
write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself:
how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
nothing will change
what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
it will bring punishment
how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way? closer
if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
cut again
what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
do the house work
how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? sore
how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
still the same
what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
i want to cut but i need to try not to
Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
feeling confussed , ashamed , messed up
feelings that i dont want
Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
yes talked to husband
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
nothing
How do I feel right now?
confussed ashamed
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
pain relize
How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
sore maybe numb ness
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
talk to some one
Do I need to hurt myself?
i think i do but am going to try not to
write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself:
how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
nothing will change
what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
it will bring punishment
how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way? closer
if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
cut again
what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
do the house work
how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? sore
how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
still the same
what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
i want to cut but i need to try not to
Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
feeling confussed , ashamed , messed up
feelings that i dont want
Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
yes talked to husband
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
nothing
How do I feel right now?
confussed ashamed
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
pain relize
How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
sore maybe numb ness
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
talk to some one
Do I need to hurt myself?
i think i do but am going to try not to