slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action.
have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait. yep taken care of
what had happened just before?
I was sitting at home thinking
what were you thinking and feeling?
thinking about whats been going on in my life
why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
I dunno, its like something snapped then i went blank
how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
I have been holding things in
were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
Lack of sleep and not eating at all........I dont do those when I am stressed
what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
I didnt
in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
I should have played violin or something
name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
go into my music room and do something in there
go get my journal
how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
no....it still has me stressed as hell......
are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
yeah but i sometimes dont feel it come on
what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
reading or grabbing an ice cube to hold, suck it up and deal with it
About Opportunities to SI
Opportunity to Self-Harm seems to be a common theme. Think about why opportunities are important to slips and learn why opportunity is important to you.
What made that opportunity more appealing than any other?
not sure....was easily there?
Did you make an opportunity or was it there for the taking?
it was there for the taking
What would you have done if there was no opportunity, how would you have handled your urge?
I would have held it in until there was a chance
If there had been no opportunity would your urge to self-harm have increased or decreased?
increased
What consitutes opportunity for you? Being alone? having new tools? waiting for the right feeling?
being alone
If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel?
anxious and stressed