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Questions to Answer After A Slip
slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action.



have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
yeah

what had happened just before?
it was last night. same as every night lately...transfered to a new job. new place.

what were you thinking and feeling?
not sure.. I'm kinda sad...but not sure why exactly

why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
it's not been an option for 4 years.
I don't know. I saw something in a movie that was a trigger. Haven't worried about those in some time

how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
I think I am afraid of my new position and being so far away from friends and family

were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
a glass of wine on top of ambien. but I've done that before

what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
focus on the finish of the move...getting organized. Getting my home back. I'm having trouble outside of me with that.

in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?


name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.


how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
NO. I'm scared

are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?


what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.

I hope someone is reading. I'm not sure if I answered the right questions.

I think I am afraid of my new position and being so far away from friends and family
--between that & seeing self-harm as more of an option now than it's been in years... I can see how it'd be tough.

what could you do to lessen the stress of the new position?

can you call friends/family? have you looked into places you could go to be around people & maybe meet people?

what did you use during those 4 years in terms of dealing with stress & not self-harming?

I was too busy with my new job...the one I have now..and my divorce. I was "Beyond" the cutting. I was trying to be 'Normal'. I'm not though. Who wants to be that stereo type anyway?

I just want to be myself again...after the cutting.

To answer..I think I was just pretending until it stuck..the coping thing.
Now, I think I have been holding my breath lately.

My Family is 2 states or more away.
My friends are at my job...not much time for cultivating.
I am working on some new ones now

I'm not though. Who wants to be that stereo type anyway?
--I'm not sure I'm following that part..... What I'm seeing is that cutting is a fine alternative to being "normal..." am I reading that correctly? is self-harm something you'd like to stop?

To answer..I think I was just pretending until it stuck..the coping thing.
--what do you mean by "pretend?"
what sorts of things did you do to cope?

I was too busy with my new job...the one I have now..and my divorce.
--so becoming less busy.... less stressed..... has ended up with self-harm coming back? is that what you mean?

I'm not normal..I guess I am OK with that. My past defines me.
I don't want cutting to be a part of that. I am here because of my past..inspite of it even.

I don't want to cut. I just don't understand why I did last night.

The job I have is an incline. Not moving up is not an option for me. I love that about it. Maybe it is scary too. The company knows nothing about my past...I'm afraid I will let it out.

Just talking to someone helps.
Thanks

WasDoin'Fine wrote: My past defines me.
I don't want cutting to be a part of that. I am here because of my past..inspite of it even.

i'll have to say i disagree. it doesn't have to. that's' a trap. i have fallen (and still do) into many times. only recently have i begun to understand that. 4 years is a long long time. that's amazing.