Before
Posted: Sun Jul 22, 2007 3:23 am
How will this situation or feeling change if I hurt myself?
-Honestly, it won't - I just feel I deserve it because I'm a failure and a disappointment to myself and others
What will hurting myself bring to the situation? What will it take away from the situation?
-Pain and relief
How do I want to feel about this in the long run? Is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
-About the same
If hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? What will I do then?
-For awhile
-Then I'll freak out - hopefully calm down enough to sit and read
What is something I could do now instead of hurting myself? How will it change the situation I'm in? How long will that change last, and what will I do then?
-I know the drill, I've got my coping workbook that I received during one of my IP stays - nothing is working
-Read
-Cry
How will I feel tomorrow if I hurt myself? How will I feel tomorrow if I do the other thing I came up with?
-I think I will feel that my actions were justifiable
-I will be disappointed in myself
-I know the pain and suffering will still be there tomorrow with or without harming
What do I really want to do right now? How can I best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
-I want to sleep
-I want to read
-I want these horrible thoughts/flashbacks to go away
-I want to be healthy
-I don't want to think about going back to work
Urges aren't necessarily the enemy. They happen for reasons, and they're an expression of a desire to stay alive and stay sane and keep coping. Remember that.
More Before Questions To Answer
Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
-I'm sick - They don't know what is wrong with me - maybe I'm crazy
-Having flashbacks about watching my father die
-Thinking about going back to my horrible working situation
-My mother hates me, my sister doesn't care about me, my brother is away and I can't talk to him
-Distract me from the pain I'm having from being sick
-Terribly anxious and paranoid
Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
-Yes - I hurt myself
-I felt like I deserved it
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
-Sleep, rock, pace, tried to read, tried watcing TV, messing around on the computer, trying the strategies in my Coping Workbook
-I don't know...I'm about out of ideas
How do I feel right now?
-Words can not explain the sadness, grief, remorse, self-hatred, depression,....that I feel right now
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
-It will make my feel better - I'd rather make myself feel pain then others making me feel terrible
How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
-I will still be sad, but I deserve the pain - I blame myself, I can't do anythings right according to certain people, and I will prove that to them
-I will be upset, but feel that my actions were justifiable
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
-Be healthy
-Get a transfer to another school (which doesn't look good)
-Move
-Get my mother out of my life
Do I need to hurt myself?
-I think so....but I don't want to. Why can't I throw the blades away???
Remember you don't have to answer all the questions if you don't feel up to it.
-Honestly, it won't - I just feel I deserve it because I'm a failure and a disappointment to myself and others
What will hurting myself bring to the situation? What will it take away from the situation?
-Pain and relief
How do I want to feel about this in the long run? Is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
-About the same
If hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? What will I do then?
-For awhile
-Then I'll freak out - hopefully calm down enough to sit and read
What is something I could do now instead of hurting myself? How will it change the situation I'm in? How long will that change last, and what will I do then?
-I know the drill, I've got my coping workbook that I received during one of my IP stays - nothing is working
-Read
-Cry
How will I feel tomorrow if I hurt myself? How will I feel tomorrow if I do the other thing I came up with?
-I think I will feel that my actions were justifiable
-I will be disappointed in myself
-I know the pain and suffering will still be there tomorrow with or without harming
What do I really want to do right now? How can I best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
-I want to sleep
-I want to read
-I want these horrible thoughts/flashbacks to go away
-I want to be healthy
-I don't want to think about going back to work
Urges aren't necessarily the enemy. They happen for reasons, and they're an expression of a desire to stay alive and stay sane and keep coping. Remember that.
More Before Questions To Answer
Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
-I'm sick - They don't know what is wrong with me - maybe I'm crazy
-Having flashbacks about watching my father die
-Thinking about going back to my horrible working situation
-My mother hates me, my sister doesn't care about me, my brother is away and I can't talk to him
-Distract me from the pain I'm having from being sick
-Terribly anxious and paranoid
Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
-Yes - I hurt myself
-I felt like I deserved it
What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
-Sleep, rock, pace, tried to read, tried watcing TV, messing around on the computer, trying the strategies in my Coping Workbook
-I don't know...I'm about out of ideas
How do I feel right now?
-Words can not explain the sadness, grief, remorse, self-hatred, depression,....that I feel right now
How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
-It will make my feel better - I'd rather make myself feel pain then others making me feel terrible
How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
-I will still be sad, but I deserve the pain - I blame myself, I can't do anythings right according to certain people, and I will prove that to them
-I will be upset, but feel that my actions were justifiable
Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
-Be healthy
-Get a transfer to another school (which doesn't look good)
-Move
-Get my mother out of my life
Do I need to hurt myself?
-I think so....but I don't want to. Why can't I throw the blades away???
Remember you don't have to answer all the questions if you don't feel up to it.
