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by Priceless » Mon Jul 09, 2007 8:34 pm
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Before You Self-Harm
write down the shadow that's hiding behind the urge. look at it. ask yourself:
- how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
The situation will not change, and i would proberly feel worse
- what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
It will take away stress and it will and quilt
- how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
it will bring me further away from what i wanna feel.
- if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
it will proberly last some time, proberly till tomorow and i dont know what i will do tomorow
- what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
I could txt my bf, read a boook, watch some tv, paint/draw and delay delay delay till the feeling goes away
- how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
I would feel sad if i cut today and if i use other coping strategies i will feel proud that i didnt cut.
- what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
I think i will txt my bf to see when we can talk, i will contuínue making the painting ive started, or read or watch tv. and try to delay
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by LBC » Mon Jul 09, 2007 8:42 pm
Hi Priceless
It seems like you've got a good handle on this...waiting out the urge is the best way for you to go?
It sounds like you've come up with some good distractions, and I hope they help...maybe painting will help to release some of the feelings that have brought you to this place.
Take gentle care.
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If you believe that nothing ever goes wrong
If you believe that deep down inside you're really falling apart
Know that everybody's weak and everyone can be strong. - Sloan
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by Priceless » Tue Jul 10, 2007 6:13 pm
thank you for youre reply lbc.
postponing is a good technike for me because at some point i get tired and go to sleep.
i found things that i like as they distract more and it did work, and today i dont feel that bad anymore.
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