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Posted: Wed Jun 27, 2007 2:04 am
Questions to Answer After A Slip
slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action.
have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
there not life threatning
what had happened just before?
mom kept aking about my long sleaves after i got out of summer school
what were you thinking and feeling?
i was thinking it would help and feeling lonly and traped
why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
i did it then because i was alone and i do it almost every chance i get no there was no final straw just alot of small thungs
how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
if i could prevnt this repeated secwence of events i would
were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
not any that play a major roll
what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
i havn't
in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
no
name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
i can't
how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
i hate the stiuation, it's not resolved and i woul talk to someone but i bearly ever ge a computer
are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
yes, because i have been in it for 1 1/2 mounths
what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
1.find a more dull knife
2.go on bus if i can
3.umm....
About Opportunities to SI
Opportunity to Self-Harm seems to be a common theme. Think about why opportunities are important to slips and learn why opportunity is important to you.
What made that opportunity more appealing than any other?
nothin realy
Did you make an opportunity or was it there for the taking?
it's was there for the taking
What would you have done if there was no opportunity, how would you have handled your urge?
i would have made one or egnored it until i could
If there had been no opportunity would your urge to self-harm have increased or decreased?
neither i would have stayed the same
What consitutes opportunity for you? Being alone? having new tools? waiting for the right feeling?
being alone
If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel?
i would feal haribule
After You Beat an Urge
How do you beat your urges? Examine how you beat the last one so it can help you beat the next one.
i've never beaten on
Did I identify what feelings were leading me to want to SI?
yes
If Yes - What were they, and how did I figure them out?
depresion lonlyness unloved unatractive and traped i have had them for awile
What coping skills did I use to deal with these feelings?
sliting my wrist
Were these coping skills the most effective I could have used?
i don't know
If No - What coping skills got me through?
i don't know
Why do I think they worked?
thy didn't
How can I deal with these feelings more effectively next time, before the urge to SI sets in?
thats what i was wondering
slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action.
have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
there not life threatning
what had happened just before?
mom kept aking about my long sleaves after i got out of summer school
what were you thinking and feeling?
i was thinking it would help and feeling lonly and traped
why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
i did it then because i was alone and i do it almost every chance i get no there was no final straw just alot of small thungs
how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
if i could prevnt this repeated secwence of events i would
were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
not any that play a major roll
what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
i havn't
in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
no
name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
i can't
how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
i hate the stiuation, it's not resolved and i woul talk to someone but i bearly ever ge a computer
are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
yes, because i have been in it for 1 1/2 mounths
what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
1.find a more dull knife
2.go on bus if i can
3.umm....
About Opportunities to SI
Opportunity to Self-Harm seems to be a common theme. Think about why opportunities are important to slips and learn why opportunity is important to you.
What made that opportunity more appealing than any other?
nothin realy
Did you make an opportunity or was it there for the taking?
it's was there for the taking
What would you have done if there was no opportunity, how would you have handled your urge?
i would have made one or egnored it until i could
If there had been no opportunity would your urge to self-harm have increased or decreased?
neither i would have stayed the same
What consitutes opportunity for you? Being alone? having new tools? waiting for the right feeling?
being alone
If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel?
i would feal haribule
After You Beat an Urge
How do you beat your urges? Examine how you beat the last one so it can help you beat the next one.
i've never beaten on
Did I identify what feelings were leading me to want to SI?
yes
If Yes - What were they, and how did I figure them out?
depresion lonlyness unloved unatractive and traped i have had them for awile
What coping skills did I use to deal with these feelings?
sliting my wrist
Were these coping skills the most effective I could have used?
i don't know
If No - What coping skills got me through?
i don't know
Why do I think they worked?
thy didn't
How can I deal with these feelings more effectively next time, before the urge to SI sets in?
thats what i was wondering
