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Post by christine1993 » Sat Feb 21, 2009 11:01 pm

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
- It won't.

what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
- It will bring hideous scars and an angry mother.

how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
- Closer.

if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
- Two seconds - I'll probably do it again.

what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
- Sing, it always calms me down. I don't know.

how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?
- Sore. I'll still want to.

what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
- I want to run. By not doing it.

Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
- I just need it. I miss my best friend.

Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
- Yes, I ended up hurting myself. Horrible.

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
- Sing.

How do I feel right now?
- Numb.

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
- Relieved, like all of my stress is coming out instead of blood.

How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
- Disgusting.

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
- I can't avoid it.

Do I need to hurt myself?
- No.
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Post by sixtyfoothigh » Mon Feb 23, 2009 3:11 pm

I hope singing helps. Is there anything else that helps? Like, listening to music or getting out for a walk? x
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