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tools to help you assess your urges before you give in to them, and to help you understand and learn from slips after they happen. by posting here, you're saying that you are serious about exploring the feelings behind your self-harm in depth, whether you're ready to stop hurting yourself or not. to request posting access, click usergroups above and join before and after.

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Post by styled_wrong » Sat May 24, 2008 1:51 pm

how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?
it will help me calm down to re address the situation more rationally.

what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?
it will bring a calmer, more relaxed situation

how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?
i want to feel better about myself and no it probably wont

if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?
it will last about an hour im not sure what ill do then

what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?
i could watch a dvd or try and distract by colouring or something

how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself?
i will probably be annoyed but ill get over that.


Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has brought me to this point?
because i cant think of any other way to fix this

Have I been here before? What did I do to deal with it? How did I feel then?
yes i si'ed

What I have done to ease this discomfort so far? What else can I do that won't hurt me?
i have been on here

How do I feel right now?
hurt

How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
relieved

How will I feel after hurting myself? How will I feel tomorrow morning?
annoyed perhaps

Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?
cant aviod it i dont think

Do I need to hurt myself?
yes
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Post by ChaseThisLight » Sat May 24, 2008 7:15 pm

It sounds like you are dead set on hurting yourself. That of course is your decision to make...however since you did take the time to fill out the before questions, it makes me think that somewhere in the back of your mind you don't really want to hurt yourself. Is there anything you can do to distract yourself or work through the situation that is stressing you?
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