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Post by Cellardoor » Tue May 06, 2008 8:34 pm



:star: how will this situation or feeling change if i hurt myself?

I'll feel relieved, this build up in my chest will go, I'll be able to sleep easy.


:star: what will hurting myself bring to the situation? what will it take away from the situation?


It'll make me feel able for tomorrow, but it will make me feel slightly defated also.

:star: how do i want to feel about this in the long run? is hurting myself likely to get me closer to or farther from feeling that way?

I want to be si free in the long run, hurting myself will not help this at all, and take me further away from my goal.


:star: if hurting myself seems like my best option right now, how long will the relief it brings last? what will i do then?

It'll last for a day or two, then, i'll probly do it again.

:star: what is something i could do now instead of hurting myself? how will it change the situation i'm in? how long will that change last, and what will i do then?

I could just NOT. THat would change the situation in that i would not feel relief, i would not sleep well, and i would not be able to concentrate
tomorrow.

:star: how will i feel tomorrow if i hurt myself? how will i feel tomorrow if i do the other thing i came up with?

I will feel better. If i just don't, i would not feel better tomorrow.

:star: what do i really want to do right now? how can i best honor the self-protective instinct that has me wanting to self-injure right now?
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Post by herebedragons » Tue May 06, 2008 8:58 pm

THat would change the situation in that i would not feel relief, i would not sleep well, and i would not be able to concentrate
tomorrow.
Is there absolutely no other thing that will bring you either a bit of relief or help you to sleep (but be safe, of course)? What helps you sleep? A warm bath? Some tea? A boring book?
Let me think about the people who I care about the most. And how when they fail or disappoint me, I still love them, I still give them chances, and I still see the best in them. Let me extend that generosity to myself.” — Ze Frank

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