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Questions to Answer After A Slip
slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action.


* have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
Yes

* what had happened just before?
Listening to depressing Music and Thinking about the weekend and how shitty it was


* what were you thinking and feeling?
that i really needed to cut and that it would make me feel better

* why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?

Had a really bad weekend and although music was on of my coping strategies the one song i picked was a bad choice because it made me zone out and forget about the music but focus on the thoughts in my mind. The final straw was being ignored by my friends

* how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
I ignored what i was feeling and went back to my room i thought that i could forget about it and move on

* were there outside factors like drugs, alcohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
No

* what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
i tried listening to music and going to socialize but neither worked

* in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
Yeah i could have gone to talk to a friend or called a crisis line to talk to someone

* name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
Look at my list of things to do when feeling overwhelmed and talk to someone

* how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
i am angry and upset with myself for letting it get to that point. No. talk to my counselor tomorrow and talk to my parents

* are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
Not tonight.... find someone to talk to immediately and make sure I'm not alone

* what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
Take a walk, Talk to a friend and call a crisis line



About Opportunities to SI
Opportunity to Self-Harm seems to be a common theme. Think about why opportunities are important to slips and learn why opportunity is important to you.


* What made that opportunity more appealing than any other?
i had the means to do it and i want to test my boundaries on how far i would go

* Did you make an opportunity or was it there for the taking
both

* What would you have done if there was no opportunity, how would you have handled your urge?
No. Ignored it and maybe gone to sleep or called a crisis line


* If there had been no opportunity would your urge to self-harm have increased or decreased?
Increased temporarily but would decrease with time

* What consitutes opportunity for you? Being alone? having new tools? waiting for the right feeling?
Being alone and waiting for the right feeling

* If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel?
Lost and empty



After You Beat an Urge
How do you beat your urges? Examine how you beat the last one so it can help you beat the next one.


* Did I identify what feelings were leading me to want to SI?
Yes

* If Yes - What were they, and how did I figure them out?
I was frustrated and upset and pissed off but i had a right to be and it was ok . I Had help from my counselor

* What coping skills did I use to deal with these feelings?
talking to a friend, talking to my counselor, writing listening to music watching Gilmore girls.

* Were these coping skills the most effective I could have used?
Yes

* If No - What coping skills got me through?

* Why do I think they worked?
I was persistent in the use of them and when one stopped working or wasn't right for the situation in switched

* How can I deal with these feelings more effectively next time, before the urge to SI sets in?
I can do the above things and it that doesn't work call a crisis line and if i need to call the emerge department