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Post by volta » Fri Dec 28, 2007 2:54 am

Questions to Answer After A Slip
slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action.

[*]have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
yes. soap and water, neosporin later

[*]what had happened just before?
i was talking to a friend who had just si-ed and feeling really urgey

[*]what were you thinking and feeling?
"she slipped, i can too." i had a lot of pent up emotion.

[*]why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
the final straw was hanging up with my friend. i just couldn't control myself.

[*]how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
i don't know . . .

[*]were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
i was worn out because i just got off work. i can rest after i get home.

[*]what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
i called a friend and left a voicemail for her to call me, but other than that i didn't try any other ways this time.

[*]in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
i could've drawn on myself.

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Post by teacher2B » Sat Dec 29, 2007 5:35 am

I find it really hard to hear that a friend's SI'd too and I know how triggering that can be.

I know you want to support her, but in the future, is there any way you can ask her to not call you immediately after she's SI'd?

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