After (positive)

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Post by Glockenspiel » Wed Oct 17, 2007 2:55 am

After You Beat an Urge

How do you beat your urges? Examine how you beat the last one so it can help you beat the next one.



Did I identify what feelings were leading me to want to SI?

Yes

If Yes - What were they, and how did I figure them out?

Loneliness. I felt alone like nobody wanted to speak to me. At least not any of my close friends.

What coping skills did I use to deal with these feelings?

I emailed a close friend I hadn’t talk to in a while. I also exercised.

Were these coping skills the most effective I could have used?

Yes

If No - What coping skills got me through?

Why do I think they worked?

Because they reminded me of what’s good in my life.

How can I deal with these feelings more effectively next time, before the urge to SI sets in?

Stay in contact with people.

Maybe.
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Post by plantt » Fri Oct 19, 2007 3:43 am

I'm curious as to why you put "positive" in the subject line. What about this experience was positive for you?

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Post by Glockenspiel » Fri Oct 19, 2007 3:52 pm

I didn't hurt myself. :D
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Post by plantt » Fri Oct 19, 2007 5:11 pm

lol Ok :) That makes perfect sense now!
Most people use "after" to mean "after I hurt myself" & I was rather stumped as to which bit of the post was the positive part :roll:

Glad you made it through :)

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Post by Glockenspiel » Fri Oct 19, 2007 6:58 pm

I should have put the "After You Beat an Urge" heading above it.

I edited it so that it's there now.
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