Questions to Answer After A Slip
slips are chances to learn. you figure out what stresses are still too hard for you and you can work on how you'll deal with them next time you run into them. so instead of beating yourself up, take action.
- have you taken care of your physical wounds? if not, go do that now. we'll wait.
yup, im good - what had happened just before?
nothing really - what were you thinking and feeling?
was feeling alone and lost and thinking that i have no freinds and no one likes me - why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
no not really i just go with it - how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
- were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?
was drinking, not drunk tho. nope. - what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?
not really i posted here, but i left right away, so no. they didint - in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?
no, i dont think so, maybe though? - name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.
come back and stay around BUS for a bit - how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?
nothiung is resolved. nothing at all
- are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?
yep. i hate myself. i can recogmize it but cant fix it.
- what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again? list three specific things you will commit to trying.
i dont know ,please help me.
About Opportunities to SI
Opportunity to Self-Harm seems to be a common theme. Think about why opportunities are important to slips and learn why opportunity is important to you.
- What made that opportunity more appealing than any other?
nothing - Did you make an opportunity or was it there for the taking?
stayed wake til my roomates were sleeping - What would you have done if there was no opportunity, how would you have handled your urge?
stayed up later - If there had been no opportunity would your urge to self-harm have increased or decreased?
increased - What consitutes opportunity for you? Being alone? having new tools? waiting for the right feeling?
alone, tools are no problem. - If your opportunties were taken away, how would you feel?
sad, more lonely, more pissy tommorow
