After

[black_23]

Feedback welcome, any ideas to help....................

what had happened just before?
Everything felt like it had gone wrong. I had my mum in floods of tears, my bro not well, no support from my boyfriend even though was trying so say I felt triggery. Just couldnt keep images/feelings out of my head, was panicing.

what were you thinking and feeling?
Desperately sad, there seemed to be no way out of the situation and the only thing i could focus on was cutting. the feelings had been building up for days.

why did you end up hurting yourself then instead of some other time? was there an event that was the final straw? what was it?
I'd just been holding off for ages, actually managed 3weeks before i messed it up again. Just too much in one go.

how did the situation get to the final straw stage? trace it back through the events that led up to the last event. look for some point at which you could have made a different decision and not arrived at the final straw.
I'm not sure I think I was so intent on making sure everyone around me ok, I got lost in it myself and then everything hit me. Is it selfsish to feel so sensitive to everything? I managed to talk some of it out but never actually admited outloud that I wanted to cut if had done maybe coulda helped myself more. Was scared to admit it in case i gave in...but then I did anyway...

were there outside factors like drugs, alsohol, being off your meds, lack of sleep, etc? can you address those in the future? how?

Alcohol played an element I hate to admit...and lack of sleep in big way. Just kinda sunk last few days..cant stop crying at stupid things....which find very frustrating....

what other ways of coping did you try besides self-harm? how well did they work?

Well I made the ice cubes just forgot about them when it came to the point. Posted on BUS for a bit just couldnt concentrate enough.

in retrospect, are there coping methods that you now realize might have helped? what were they?

I think i need to learn to talk and let people know when not feeling too good. I need to know that I can tell and not be shouted at, cos having someone with me works sometimes.

name at least two things you will do to help yourself remember those coping methods if you end up in this situation again.

Well, I bought a nw notebk at week and gona start listing things down to keep me safer, if i can, keep saying it need to do it!

how do you feel about the situation that led to self-harm now? is it resolved? if not, what are some steps you might take toward resolution?

The situation is on going, my brothers got to have an assesment which has made everything very scarey and worrying, but im going home at weekend to see him and tyr and calm things. Givign up on interviews to decided there rubbish for your confidence

are you likely to be in that emotional place again? how will you recognize it when you're in that situation?

Most likely, feel like falling at the moment should do something or tell someone irl just so scared.

what will you try before you resort to self-harm if you're in that situation again?

Not drink...keep myself safe and calm...talk well try....

[balletomane]

It sounds like being especially careful about alcohol and sleep are concrete things that you can control.

It's good that you made ice cubes. What can you do to remember them next time? Can you put a list of alternatives where you keep your tools?

I know these suggestions are sort of superficial.

It sounds like talking to people could be a really big help. are there people who would be willing to talk to you? It might take some working out how to talk about stuff but it could be very valuable.

[black_23]

Well Im working on the sleep and alcohol im trying at limiting, Im usually ok till things started going wrong.

I might try putting a post-it note on the fridge or something to remember the ice cubes I dont know. really trying at the miment but feel like im walking along a very thin line and im so scared im gona fall badly right now. Thank-you its not superficial im getting desperate for ideas!

I used to be able to talk to someone close but now I dont get any reply....I dont think i can do this anymore on my own I need something/someone....sorry