thinking of your future family?

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thinking of your future family?

Post by Unleash the Bats » Tue Aug 09, 2005 12:10 pm

does anyone else plot and plan thier future family as a way of coping? i always think to the future when im feelin down, and for the past year ive been thinking of my future family.
i want 4 kids-

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rosie
roxy

and i want a house in the suburbs. and all my children will be rockers. no chavs allowed in my house!
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Post by DarkTigress » Tue Aug 09, 2005 6:56 pm

Yup, not all the time but quite a bit. The only problem is, it makes me slightly more depressed because I feel like I'll never get straightened out enough to have a family or what will i do if i want to sh and i can't because of the kids. Overall it's positive though and does help get through some things.
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Post by sassy koala » Tue Aug 09, 2005 8:06 pm

Unleash the Bats wrote:
and i want a house in the suburbs. and all my children will be rockers. no chavs allowed in my house!
what's a chav?

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Post by près de vous » Tue Aug 09, 2005 8:24 pm

Yeah I think about my future family. I want two or four children

Chester
Kharis
Millie
Joshua

They will be rockers, and my daughters will be little fairy ballerinas. My sons will have shoulder lenght air. And I wanna live in a nice house in the country.
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Post by Green Beauty » Tue Aug 09, 2005 8:50 pm

sassy koala wrote:
Unleash the Bats wrote:
and i want a house in the suburbs. and all my children will be rockers. no chavs allowed in my house!
what's a chav?
www.chavscum.co.uk

Basically they are just nasty pieces of work. :-?

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I don't see how you will make your children into 'rockers', let them be thereselves, i only consider chavs to come from bad homes, where the parents basically ignore them and treat them like crap, so as long as you dont treat your kids crap the chances are you wont get any chavs :wink:

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Post by amarganth » Tue Aug 09, 2005 8:53 pm

I can't imagine ever finding someone wanting to spend a lifetime with me, so these sort of thoughts are just negative for me. However I do think about where I want to live at times. No suburbs for me, either completely out in the wilderness or city! And never a fitted carpet ever ever again (curse of Britain).

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Post by jamie28 » Wed Aug 10, 2005 2:45 am

hopefully, by late next year my wife will be pregnant again.

*feels hopelessly manly and desperately wants a boy*.

i want a son. and i will name him roderick usher.

and yes, sometimes thinking of this distracts me.

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Post by DecemberLivy » Wed Aug 10, 2005 4:23 am

yeah i do... it helps alot. if i can't live for myself i need to live for my children, and my children's children.

I want three kids,
Genevieve (Vevie)
Amelia (Mia)
Nathan (Nat)

:) they will all be rockers as well, and defo no chavs!

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Post by Unleash the Bats » Wed Aug 10, 2005 10:58 am

my mum tried to raise me as a chav- wen i left her's for my dads i actually got some individuality. i would force any identity upon my children, but they will not be cavs- i point blank refuse it!
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Post by sassy koala » Wed Aug 10, 2005 2:23 pm

oh. ok (in regards to the chav thing).

I've always had trouble imagining I have a future. I know what I want to name kids, if I ever have them.

Olivia Rose
Isabella Grace
Michael Timothy or Andrew Michael

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Post by DecemberLivy » Wed Aug 10, 2005 2:38 pm

hey my names Olivia :)

my little brother said 'innit' the other day, i nearly died of shock.
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Post by katja » Wed Aug 10, 2005 2:52 pm

i want 2 boys an a girl and lots of rabbits an i want to live in a nice flat in the city, so my kids dont get bored. an im gonna get divorced when im 50 and move to paris so i can be an eccentric old lady.

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Post by DecemberLivy » Wed Aug 10, 2005 4:00 pm

sounds like a plan :P
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Post by Unleash the Bats » Wed Aug 10, 2005 4:12 pm

love the plan!

theres some lady around my way hu's about 70 ish with birght bubblegum pink hair- everyone knows her as pink hair lady
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Post by ___fashioninjection » Wed Aug 10, 2005 4:46 pm

me too o.O

and she has a pet ferret which she walks.

although, i moved but still lol.

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Post by ~*Star*~ » Thu Aug 11, 2005 12:11 am

I want to have a wedding day without the whole commitment of getting married... because from what I've experienced you get married then it goes pear shaped. So I figure if you don't get married-married you're not stuck in a rut. I'm living in way into the country, in somewhere like the Scottish Highlands... but away from all the nasty tourists... although I wana move to France too. I'm having 3 babies, a boy, then a girl, then a boy. And we aren't having any pets because I don't do well with animals so tough if the kids want a dog. Oh yeah, Dan is living next door to me with his family so our kids can be close to their cousins... we might get a semi and knock the walls through we think. I'm gona be a cool mum and we are going to sit at the table to eat our food because I think that would be a really fun thing to do as a kid :)

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Post by Territorial Hawk » Sat Aug 13, 2005 3:04 pm

Whenever I can picture my future, I see myself living somewhere out in western New South Wales... an old weatherboard house on a couple of acres of land, on the outskirts on a small town. Three children - two boys and a girl (I have two brothers, my mother has two brothers, and my Nanna has two brothers, so it runs in the family) - and no husband / partner in sight.

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Post by onlypurples » Sat Aug 13, 2005 6:02 pm

I think about my future family, but right now my future family includes me, a huge fish tank, and a couple cats... maybe a husband and kids later on ;)

I don't see thinking about my future family as a way to help me cope better though because it actually makes me more overwhelmed. I have already done so much damage and it makes me wonder how much of a regular and mainstream family (with children) would be possible sometimes...

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Post by jamie28 » Sat Aug 13, 2005 6:25 pm

onlypurples wrote:I don't see thinking about my future family as a way to help me cope better though because it actually makes me more overwhelmed. I have already done so much damage and it makes me wonder how much of a regular and mainstream family (with children) would be possible sometimes...
i used to wonder about that also. but here i am....happily married with a great little daughter.

it can happen.

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Post by Tamrick » Sat Aug 13, 2005 7:47 pm

I've often thought about this - I want three children, but my bf wants two - maybe though I should first get engage and then married and then sort out my work and how that would change if I have kids and then I hsould have the first child before I start thinking about two more.

A lot of it scares me and a lot excites me. The thought of planning a wedding and being the centre of attention scares me. I wonder with the medical problems I have if I'll get pregnant easily or not and what I'd do if I don't. I wonder if my bf will leave me or if we will get engaged.

Well that is about as honest as I can get about this. It clerly matters to me a lot. All I want for my family and my children is happiness.
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