The Lost Friends Club

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The Lost Friends Club

Post by JellyBrain » Thu Aug 12, 2004 11:20 am

Hello everybody!

I'm relatively new to the board, and this is my first ever post, so here goes...!

It seems to me that a lot of ppl on this board are desperately lonely and just wish that they had others to talk to who would actually UNDERSTAND first hand what they're going through. I mean I really don't have that many friends at all IRL, and none in cyberspace, and none of the friends that i do have suffer from SH so try as they might, they'll never really be able to help, no matter how good their intentions are.

So i thought: Why not start a "lost friends club" on the board, for all those ppl feeling lonely, knowing that they have a safe place to come where they *will* find true friends who will stick by them and lend support, and just joke around with them and make them laugh or talkabout favourite things etc, if friends IRL aren't available. I realise that this is basically what the whole board is for, but I thought actually making it more explicit - a special place for those who feel that they don't have many or any real friends, would help a lot. I think it would certainly help me, for one!


So here it is: The Lost Friends Club! For all the lost who are trying to find their way, but just don't want to do it alone. (oh dear i'm sorry if that was a bit cheesy, but i do mean it sincerely!)



xoxoxo Jelly :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

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Post by Lyndsie » Thu Aug 12, 2004 5:38 pm

It sounds like your kind of describing bus.

Understanding! Thats whats so great about bus, theirs always someone here who understands, or to just lend support.

heres what bus means to me, i now this isn't the real meaning for the word bus. ;

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Sorry to be a downer. ^^^

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Post by Laura » Thu Aug 12, 2004 5:48 pm

Hello :wavey: and welcome

Lost Friends Club sounds good, though I'm not quite sure if I understand exactly what you mean. Do explain more if you'd like to. Maybe you mean something a bit like the Speedoland thread the older members have on Down the Long Day's Arc? I don't often go to Arc, but as far as I can tell it's a kind of place to check in and be friendly (I've no idea how it got its name; maybe one of the Arc folks will tell us!) Anyway, it would be good to have something like that here for those of us not old enough for Arc.

Thanks, and hope you feel settled here soon and find it helpful
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downer?!

Post by JellyBrain » Thu Aug 12, 2004 5:49 pm

No way, that's not a downer! :)


It's easy to see how the whole BUS board is geared towards understanding, i just got a bit lonely, that's all............... :cry:


cool definition btw!!


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woops!

Post by JellyBrain » Thu Aug 12, 2004 6:01 pm

Hi Laura!

Weird - you replied just before i did to the previous msg! :o

Yes, i guess the Lost Friends club would be a bit like the Speedoland section for the older members - a more positive place where ppl can focus on the good stuff and make friends, like talk to eachother about their lives, interests etc, as opposed to games/distractions and peoples own personal "places" (tho obviously i think that all that stuff is good and valid too!).

I think it's just because i saw the whole BUS board and thought "wow - this place is so huge!", maybe it gets slightly impersonal at times, because you'll perhaps rarely be talking to the same person twice in regards to each thread you post, and therefore might be a bit reluctant to PM them, coz you don't know them as well....... :oops:


Sorry, i'm not trying to make this sound like some weird cyber-dating service :roll: , but i hope i've made it a bit clearer! It really doesn't matter if it doesn't catch on, i think this board is fantastic whatever happens! :D

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Post by plantt » Fri Aug 13, 2004 1:47 am

ya know... it's perfectly alright to simply post 'i'm lonely' & to ask for people to talk with & such :)
it is difficult to get to know people here especially just from posts on the forums. many of us love to get friendly PMs & have some messenger type thing. & it's easier to get to know people that way
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Post by erinmv » Sat Aug 14, 2004 2:29 am

Welcome to the board! I know for sure if you jsut ask, you will have many friends on this board. Like Plantt said all you need to do is post I'm Lonely or I need a friend. Ooh! Maybe we could come up with a codename like "New England Clam Chowder." (Sorry...a little Ace Ventura anyone?) Anyway, I'm sure I'll see you around. If you ever want to chat feel free to PM me.
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i just wanted to say welcome to bus, i hope you like it here :cowsleep:
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Post by JellyBrain » Sun Aug 15, 2004 8:18 pm

Thanks, Broken and Sad!

That's the second cow i've been given since joining, wow! :D


xoox Jelly

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Post by Themnoria » Sun Aug 15, 2004 9:10 pm

Well I can understand how you could feel lonely on Bus...you're too sad to post on RW or don't really want to beg for hugs on the main board. You feel strange posting in your place. I don't think it's such a bad idea.

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Post by angelafree » Mon Aug 16, 2004 4:40 am

oh them, that is a sweet reply....

just a side note that i hope people dont' read it the wrong way. it wasn't directed at anyone...

right them :o ?
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Post by Dreamwater » Thu Aug 19, 2004 10:46 am

That's a good idea. I'm real lonely at the moment, my ex ignored me recently, my best friend also isn't answering his phone, and I have no one else. I live in a family home and work all day, so can't make friends. All my old friends I pushed away years ago when I was so down in myself. And now the loneliness gets to me. I wouldn't know where to start to begin making friends on this board, it's so big, but I like the idea of the club. Anyone wanna be my friend?
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Post by Vampyrella » Sat Aug 21, 2004 6:21 pm

I'm sorry things are so rought for you dreamwater.
*can i offer a hug?* :1hug:

I think this club is a great idea :)

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Lost Friends Club

Post by bubblefun » Tue Sep 07, 2004 8:28 am

Hi Jellybrain. I think that the lost friends club would be cool. I know that right now I dont have any friends to talk to or anything. Just started college and most of my friends stopped talking to me or moved away. One friend stopped talking to me because she is interested in my brother now. I know that I am lonely and I wish I had someone to talk to. The girl who likes my brother doesnt understand why I cut or anything so it is very hard to talk to her. I hope to become in the lost friends club.

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