tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.
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by tenar » Sun Jan 18, 2004 11:50 pm
ok, here's an idea
basically, the idea is to say what you did last time you wanted to self-injure and didn't. or why you didn't self injure. so why or how you didn't self injure.
can't really post on this thread myself

but lets hope i will soon
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by ^*^~Branded~^*^ » Sun Jan 18, 2004 11:53 pm
I squeezed ice and drew on myself.
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by frances » Mon Jan 19, 2004 1:32 am
the last time i wanted to SI and didn't, i called all my friends and forced them to invite me out.
everything i do is judged
and they mostly get it wrong
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by Tiarin » Mon Jan 19, 2004 3:46 am
i think that my natural tendency to procrastinate has actually served me well for this.

i just keep putting it off, and putting it off . . .
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by witch » Mon Jan 19, 2004 3:54 am
because my poor body doesn't deserve it. because charlene loves me. because i do not want to do that, and it is a choice. because i dont' have blades anymore.
because everyone knows and i dont' wnat them know if i si again.
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by Smeagol » Mon Jan 19, 2004 3:57 am
I didn't because I suspected that my motivations were along the lines of 'up yours' to somebody who had upset me. I don't give a toss about hurting myself to hurt myself but I refuse to hurt myself to hurt others. Okay, that's not particularly generally applicable but I'm pleased I could see that enough. I'm not good at spotting my motivations.

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by Stripes » Mon Jan 19, 2004 5:32 am
i painted a picture of a cut up arm... as opposed to cutting up my arm.
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by becs » Mon Jan 19, 2004 5:56 pm
Sheer willpower...and guilt

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by Twitter Mouse » Mon Jan 19, 2004 6:23 pm
Last time I wanted to I didn't because I know how much it upsets my mom, and how much she cares and wants me to get better. So, I went and watched a movie with my mom and my dog.
And it's hey babe, with your guardian eyes so blue,
Hey my baby, don't you know our love is true,
I've been so far from here,
Far from your loving arms,
Now I'm back again, and babe it's gonna work out fine.
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by limestone » Mon Jan 19, 2004 7:30 pm
howareyou wrote:basically, the idea is to say what you did last time you wanted to self-injure and didn't
made a cup of peppermint tea
tv was on - the 'barefoot' doctor being interviewed and showed you how to generate kidney energy to stop feeling anxious. I did the various things and felt more motivated to carry on studying.
here's one that he said:
put your hands on your hips with thumbs pressing into your lower back. rub thumbs into back a few times.
then put both fists just above where your thumbs were and press firmly in small circles, into your lower back.
it's good also for if you don't know why you're feeling anxious.
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by dave232 » Mon Jan 19, 2004 7:34 pm
I text messaged my best friends until someone replied, well actually a couple of people replied and told them i really needed a chat about nothing so we chatted about rubbish til i fell asleep.
Friends are my favourite way to avoid SI.
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by madmax454ss » Tue Jan 20, 2004 4:39 am
I handed my blades to a friend and went for a LONG, LOOOONG WALK.
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by indiegirl » Tue Jan 20, 2004 4:41 am
i went into the flat kitchen and sat there until one of my flatmates came in and talked at them

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by angelafree » Tue Jan 20, 2004 5:12 am
cross stitched!!
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by Tourniquet » Tue Jan 20, 2004 10:01 pm
I didn't because my friend was worried about me and really wanted to help me. Plus I was very, very tired.
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by becs » Wed Jan 21, 2004 1:47 am
No point in it really.
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by Inner Child » Wed Jan 21, 2004 2:04 am
i didnt because i didn't have the energy..
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by Agape in Apathy » Wed Jan 21, 2004 2:10 am
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by sassy koala » Wed Jan 21, 2004 3:26 am
because, for me, SI has become a stupid way of dealing with what is really going on and I've learned that to deal with the real issue instead of taking it out on myself and cutting my own skin is much healthier.
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