what's your bus safety plan?

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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what's your bus safety plan?

Post by sine nomine » Mon Jul 07, 2003 5:53 pm

if you don't have one, now's a good time to maybe come up with one.

what will you do to keep yourself safe if you read something disturbing on the board?

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Post by Jomomma » Mon Jul 07, 2003 7:42 pm

Thanks for the new thread.
Maybe I will get some new ideas here.

If Something disturbing comes up I look for ways to keep my mind occupied.
Sometimes writing helps my mind calm down


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Post by imperfectsecret » Mon Jul 07, 2003 8:12 pm

Great idea as usual! :)

In the past when I've been triggered by something here, doesn't happen often as I'm not triggered easily by other people, but...

I've talked with others online here or I've gone to distractions and distracted myself or I immerse myself in a game somewhere online.
where are we? what the hell is going on?...
spin me around again and rub my eyes
this can't be happening...
oily marks appear on walls
where pleasue moments hung before
the takeover, the sweeping insensitivity of this
still alive
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Post by JustMe118 » Mon Jul 07, 2003 8:49 pm

color...
draw...
write a PM to someone...
go to the distractions or coping forums...
talk to people on instant messenger...
hold ice cubes in my hands...
go play dance dance revolution...
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Post by limestone » Mon Jul 07, 2003 11:31 pm

:star: rant to a mod in pm about it
:star: talk to a support person irl if appropriate
:star: write about it - so I can work out what exactly it is that I'm upset about
:star: disconnect and take a break or sleep

great thread deb, thanks :blush:
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Post by 8586 » Tue Jul 08, 2003 2:28 am

~talk to people on aim to get it off my mind

~go find another post... a happy one

~get offline a bit and use all the other many distractions that we have
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Post by Ysilne » Tue Jul 15, 2003 10:34 am

* write in place, try to explain what's wrong
* go on the distraction board
* go offline and work if possible (=get busy)
* call a friend
* maybe ask if I understood right, if there is something that upset me and shouldn't, or report to the moderators.

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Post by Tamrick » Fri Jul 25, 2003 3:30 pm

I usually just read another post or go to the distractions board and post there.
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Post by Lil Elmo » Fri Aug 08, 2003 12:20 pm

If I have read a post that I find triggering and it is NOT because I am trying to trigger myself. My plan is as follows:

1. Stop reading the post and don't go back there if someone else posts on it.

2. Post myself on how I am feeling and what I need(a hard one for me)

3. Ask hubby for hugs and anything else I need. For example hot milk, my blankee, my teddy bear etc etc.

4. If hubby is not home or he is sleeping get my blankee, my teddy bear myself.

5. Color

6. Write in journal

7. Use my emergency box

8. Play on pogo's web site

9. Go to distractions here. Try to do at least one page if not 2.

10. Phone T, if I am bad off

11. Use my emergency numbers for the crisis line or the resource team if I am bad off

12. Go to work with hubby if I am not feeling safe at home and my T is not available

13. Clean, clean, clean

14. Go through my clothes and figure out what to keep

15. Go to the gym

16. Watch a mindless tv show


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Post by Inwë Lessien » Sun Sep 28, 2003 1:00 pm

:pinkstar: rant to Laura-lai or Liss or Anna or Nienna about it
:pinkstar: go play games!
:pinkstar: rant in my place about it
:pinkstar: curl up with a blankie and my book
:pinkstar: make purdy pictures in the Elros book

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Post by WishesandDreams » Tue Nov 04, 2003 8:02 am


Really, what can you do? :changes: I write or I go play pogo games. Most times I close off and end up hurting myself one way or another.
:1cat: Sometimes I cuddle with my blankies and dog Samantha. If its really bad I spend time with my friend, If she is available. :sleeping: :sleeping: she has been sleeping more than anything. Or risk taking to the point where she triggers me too.
:chick: :rchick: :chick: :rchick: :chick: :rchick: :chick: :rchick: :chick: Mostly I "go away". Its easier that way right now. I think about my SI plans, where everything is. I try to sleep :bad-words: :bad-words: Its all damaging I think.

Someday I will be better. Until then I am always looking for new Ideas

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Post by ShellyT » Sat Nov 08, 2003 1:32 am

i talk to my friends about it, and then when im in a more rational mood, write a though-out reply expressiung my feelings in a calm way.

thanks for the post deb! :D
Essentially SI free for a 10 years now. Go me!

After all that bus has done for me in the past, I'm giving back. :heart:

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Post by Scoots » Sat Nov 08, 2003 12:45 pm

This is a good post, something that i need to think about.

:star: If necessary pm a mod and tell them about the post
:star: Get offline~i stay online too long when i am triggered and this triggers me even more, yet i find it hard to disconnect
:star: Go outside for a while
:star: Do some work
:star: Call someone

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Post by ~Claire~ » Sat Jan 17, 2004 6:37 pm

Post in my place.
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Post by Diamond Dog » Tue Feb 03, 2004 1:09 am

Walk to the drugstore and look at the cute stuff.

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Post by purpleflame » Mon Feb 16, 2004 3:04 pm

go straight to games or distractions. or pm someone. but i rarely get triggered, which is good.
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Post by nicki_98_1 » Fri Mar 19, 2004 12:26 pm

my bus safety plan, if i get triggered,
i will get my ass on the games or distractions board and do just that distrac myself.

Or... Ill search the internet for random facts to text to my friend.
"Bouncey ball is source of all goodness and light"

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Post by amyfairy » Sat Mar 27, 2004 10:50 pm

A connexions direct web chat is good for me :blush:

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Post by Valauiel » Wed Apr 07, 2004 5:37 am

Throw AOL CDs against the wall ;)

No, seriously... they're cheap, and useless. Well, useless to most people, but great for venting frustrations.

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Post by angelic212 » Fri Apr 23, 2004 7:21 pm

thanks for this post i dont have a plan yet but im planning to work on one through out the weekend alot of the suggestions here are really helpful. im always easily triggered by posts and some other stuff that i rea d on the internet or even including movies that i watch and stuff. i really do think its a good idea to have a safety plan and im going to make one this weekend i really needed one yesterday so i think now its the best time to make one

thanks again for this post im going to print it when im at home so i can add the suggestions to my plan

love always maria

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