Trouble shooting and emotions

[Orelanna]

I know that I cannot trust and act on all my feelings, because quite often they are extreme and heightened versions of what they should be. I have trouble processing and gaging them. So mostly I ignore them completely, until they build up so much SI is the only vent.
And at the moment I feel the start of that process kicking into action.
How do I set out deciphering what feeling is valid, and what is just self-serving and destructive?
In reality I should be a little irked with my boyfriend. But that is starting to escalate into ridiculous suspicions and insecurities. I KNOW he is a good person and good for me, but I am trying to feel that too.
I am alot more used to feeling negative things on a huge scale, rather than slightly annoyed but no big deal, kind of thing.
I now hate that phrase 'go with your feelings', I can't, I know they need tweeking. So what do I go with if not my feelings? My intellect is naturally cynical, so can't follow that either. Nor can I just go on what other people say. Bugger.
Frustrated.
Any thoughts much appreciated

[Licentia Poetica]

I think this is something that comes with time and self -reflection.

A lot of us will have trouble with trying to distinguish between feelings we should act on, and feelings that are our illnesses.

I think, this is where therapy comes in. But, barring that, just keep thinking about everything from an objective point of view - ie, if it was happening to your friend - what do you think an appropriate reaction would be? And what advice would you give her?

[Orelanna]

Objective, I know.
I have opted for the early night, dvd and hot milk option, in the hope that tomorrow what feels like an impossible puzzle now will look a bit more obvious. If I keep thinking I know I will just spiral.
It is so exhausting and so wasteful of time and energy, that is what frustrates me most. My brain should have better things to do than this
Thanks for the reply