Rough time with coping skills

[Candy]

This is Candy,
I am having such a rough time right now,with SH,and my probably is when I need to use my coping skills, I do not bother to use them,and I am trying very hard to stop,but it is not easy. I really like using this web board,cause it does help me alot. I do not know if I should post my coping skills on paper,and put them where I can see them.or what. I am soo angry with myself for doing SH,and frustrated,like I feel that I will not stop or when the urge to do Sh comes on, I do not think of my coping skills or use them,they go right out the window. I am not happy with myself for not using my coping skills and slipping, I go to a day treatment program,and my therapist told me that I have to want to stop SH,for myself,but that is easy to tell someone. I am feeling just tired and wish that I could have better self-control over my behavior. Just hanging in there one day at a time. Just feeling upset with myself right now.

[Wandering]

Hey, don't feel bad about it, it takes time to learn to use other coping skills other than SI.

Do you have a particular tool you use? If so, maybe you could wrap it in sheets of paper or something, each with a coping suggestion on it, and you have to do that thing before you take off the paper? First start just with one sheet, with a small thing to do, and once you get into the habit of doing that, add more, until hopefully you get over the urges before you run out of sheets of paper?

Just an idea Stick at it!
Andi x

[Spidey]

Wandering - that is an awesome idea.

[black_23]

Fantastic! Thanks for sharing that Wandering!

I used to find it really hard to rely on coping stuff to, the emotions kinda steam rolled me before I could get there. In the end I'd put different things round my room as i tend to start wandering when i get like that so id find distractions, like my journal or half finished picture. Hope you find something that works for you, stick with it

[Licentia Poetica]

That IS a good idea.

Kind of like parce the parcel, & hopefully by the time you reach the middle, you dont want/ need it anymore!

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