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Post by Candy » Sat Apr 07, 2007 2:26 pm

I am doing pretty good so far,I got through the night without doing any SI,it was not easy,but I made it. I am going to watch t.v for awhile and then write in my journal. I am really looking forward to tomorrow and I am going to have a nice day today and tomorrow. I slept real good last night and I am going to make today a real good day,by using my coping skills.If there is anyone that can think of any coping skills that can help me,that are not posted here,please post them here if you want. I am going to watch t.v.,and get somethings done,I will be back on the bus later on. :star:
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Post by Candy » Sat Apr 07, 2007 8:35 pm

I am doing pretty good so far. I took a nap for awhile,then my mother came over to visit,to drop chocolate and cupcakes for me and my boy-friend,and I took myself out to eat at Wendy's. I had a good time. I have started to write in my journal and it is helping me alot,I just need to push myself somedays.I just hate it when I feel anxious,but as long as I keep busy that will help me alot.Each day I have to do one thing positve thing for myself,no matter what,so I can increased my positive activities,so I do not focus on the negative stuff so much and keep working on that. I am watching t.v.,and going to finish writing in my journal,but I am hanging in there and doing the best I can do. I will be back on the bus later,promise :star:
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Post by Candy » Sat Apr 07, 2007 11:04 pm

I finally finish writing in my journal and I am watching t.v.,with my boy-friend. We are going out for awhile to get out of the apartment. I am doing pretty good so far. It has been 2 days withoug SI and I am taking it one day at a time. I feel somewhat anxious,but I am not letting it get to me and I am thinking about other things that are positive,and I took my medication for the evening. I am going to go and watch t.v.,and take it easy,and take care of number 1. I will be back on the bus later on,promise :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sun Apr 08, 2007 1:36 am

I just got home with my boy-friend we had a great time,it felt great to get out of this apartment for awhile. I am doing pretty good,just relaxing and watching t.v. I am looking forward to tomorrow being that it is Easter and my birthday as well. I will be with my family and my boy-friend will be there also. I feel alot more relax than I did earlier and writing in my journal helped alot. I am going to watch this good movie on Lifetime Movie Network and take it easy. I am doing good and I have no urges of SI,and I am taking it one minute at a time. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by plantt » Sun Apr 08, 2007 1:38 am

do you guys have plans for bday/Easter?
hope you enjoy it :)

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Post by Candy » Sun Apr 08, 2007 1:43 am

My boy-friend are spending the day together tomorrow and around 2pm we are going over to my parent's house for dinner,and open my gifts.That is all that we have planned at this point. I hope everyone here has a great Easter!!!! I will be back on the bus later on. :)
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Post by Candy » Sun Apr 08, 2007 3:52 am

I am doing alright and I am watching alot of good movies,and my boy-friend is spending the night here,which makes me feel happy inside,cause I rather have him here then me be alone,cause there are times that I do not like being alone,even more so when I feel like doing SI,and I am anxious,but right now I feel fine and calm. I am doing pretty good so far,just getting tired. I will be going to bed real soon. Again I hope everyone has a great Easter and enjoy yourself. :1cat: I felt alot better when I took my medication tonight,so that helped;plus keeping myself busy by doing positive things for myself. I am getting tired and I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow,promise. :pdheart:
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Post by Candy » Sun Apr 08, 2007 1:55 pm

I slept good last night,and I am having a great moring. I am sitting here talking to my boy-friend and he is doing alright. I hope everyone is having a great Easter and enjoy yourself today. I am doing alright,not feeling anxious or anything,at this point,the nights are the hardest for me. Thanks for the nice Birthday messages that you sent me,it made me feel good inside. It is my birthday and I am going to enjoy it. I have to clean up my apartment. Just wanted to drop in and let everyone know that I am doing alright.Just taking it one day at a time and that is all I can do for myself each day. I will be back on the bus sometime later,promise :star: :new-bday: to me!!!!!
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Post by JadaKiss » Sun Apr 08, 2007 4:41 pm

Candy wrote:I slept good last night,and I am having a great moring. I am sitting here talking to my boy-friend and he is doing alright. I hope everyone is having a great Easter and enjoy yourself today. I am doing alright,not feeling anxious or anything,at this point,the nights are the hardest for me. Thanks for the nice Birthday messages that you sent me,it made me feel good inside. It is my birthday and I am going to enjoy it. I have to clean up my apartment. Just wanted to drop in and let everyone know that I am doing alright.Just taking it one day at a time and that is all I can do for myself each day. I will be back on the bus sometime later,promise :star: :new-bday: to me!!!!!
:new-bday: and Happy Easter! :) I am glad today is starting out good for you. I am making it a point to just enjoy the day myself, and try to put the anxieties aside, if I can. I am going to my boyfriend's gramma's house (who is dying of cancer) and all of his family will be there. It should be a good time, but I do feel nervous (not sure why) to go out there... probably because we're all close and it is a Happy and sad time together, you know? I promised my boyfriend if I started to feel "that feeling" that I would rip off scabs just to bleed, and I would tell him (although I don't alwaysnlike that idea, because he doesn't always understand how random it can be). Anyways, I hope you have an awesome day Candy, and my thoughts are with you. Maybe if I just think of you today I won't haveto worry about me! lol. Lots of love!

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Post by Candy » Sun Apr 08, 2007 11:56 pm

I had a great day today,besides the food that I had to eat,I also got alot of nice gifts,like money,clothes,new wallet,a new cell phone, a new journal earrings and alot of other great gifts. I had a great time today with my parents and my boy-friend also had a great time. When I got home,I started to feel anxious,not knowing where it was coming from,so I took my afternoon medicatons and lay down for awhile and the anxiety went away,it scared me there for a moment,cause I really did not need to feel like that on,this day,but it did pass,and my boy-friend helped me alot. I am glad that I am here for you,and I hope you had a great Easter as well. I am feel alot calmer now,and I am watching t.v. with my boy-friend. I will be back on the bus later on,promise :star:
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Post by Candy » Mon Apr 09, 2007 2:35 am

I am sitting here watching t.v,and taking it easy. My boy-friend went home for the night,he was tired. I had a great day and I enjoy myself.I feel alot calmer than I did early. Even though I have urges of SI,I have been fighting it all the time,and sometimes the only thing that helps me is sleeping or walking. I did not write in my journal today,but there is always tomorrow.I am back to program tomorrow,not looking forward to it,but I plan on going,then my case-manager is coming over to visit me. I am going to go and watch t.v.,and then go to bed. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow evening. I hope everyone had a great Easter. Hanging in there and doing the best I can. taking care of myself and staying safe. Have a great night and I will also :star:
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Post by Candy » Mon Apr 09, 2007 7:47 pm

I just got home from program and I had a pretty good day. I met with my therapist and that went pretty good,she helped me alot. I am tired,cause it has been a long day for me. I am just waiting for my case-manager to come over and then I am going to take a nap. I told my therapist about the slip I had with SI,it was not hard to talk about it,it was hard to exlpain why I did it,cause I have troubel expressing painful emotions that I am feeling inside. I am doing alright otherwise.I am hanging in there and doing the best I can do. I will be back on the bus later on. :star:
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Post by Candy » Tue Apr 10, 2007 3:59 am

I am doing alright so far,my case-manager came over and we had a great talk,he was very helpful to me. I took a nap for awhile cause I was so tired out and then my boy-friend came over and of course I was still sleeping,but we had a great visit. He went home cause he was tired and I am watching t.v.,for awhile and then I will be going to bed. I did not get a chance to do anything out of my coping box or write in my journal today,but I will for sure tomorrow. It is hard for me to talk to my therapist and case-manager about it when I slip,cause I have hard time expressing my feelings or what trigger it,I know that I am not alone with this,it is hard for me,need to work on it. I have the day off tomorrow,and I have to clean my apartment and make time to write in my journal. I already took my medication for the night,and I will be going to bed real soon. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can do. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow,promise :star:
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Post by one out of none » Tue Apr 10, 2007 4:19 pm

Hi Candy,
Glad to hear that you had a nice birthday, that's really great. I'm also glad that your case manager is helpful too, that makes everything a lot easier. Just dropping in to say hi.
Take care!
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Post by Candy » Tue Apr 10, 2007 8:16 pm

Thanks,I had a real great time on my birthday. I got all my cleaning done today and then I took a nap,my boy-friend came early and we might go out for dinner afterwards. I am doing alright,just trying to get motiviated and get things done around here. I feel bad cause I have not written in my journal and I keep saying that I am going to do it,but I never do,and then I feel guilty inside for not doing so. Even if my boy-friend is here,I am going to push myself to do it,he would not mind. I have not done any SI,and that is pretty good so far,alot of it is the stress that I have been feeling,and writing helps me alot. I am sorry that I have not been on earlier,had alot to get done around here. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can do. I promise that I will be back on later on. :star:
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Post by Candy » Tue Apr 10, 2007 9:38 pm

I just got home from eating out,we went to Sunny's and we had a great time. My mother is fine one minute and the next minute she gets verbally abusive with me,it gets on my nerves after awhile and then I get stressed out. I feel kind of anxious,and that is why I came on the bus,cause it helps me alot.I am not going to let the anxiety get to me tonight and I will use my coping skills as well. I will be taking my evening medication at 5pm,and I am going to watch t.v., for awhile,and write in my journal. I am going to be ok and I am hanging in there and doing the best I can do. I will be back on the bus later on,promise :star:
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Post by JadaKiss » Tue Apr 10, 2007 11:29 pm

Candy wrote:I just got home from eating out,we went to Sunny's and we had a great time. My mother is fine one minute and the next minute she gets verbally abusive with me,it gets on my nerves after awhile and then I get stressed out. :star:
I'm sorry that you have to deal with verbal abuse from your Mom... not sure what it was about, but speaking from experience words hurt worse than wounds.... I'm glad you've mapped out a plan for tonight and made it a point to relax, take your meds, and "use your coping skills." That's a real sign of maturity and reality in recovery. I'm proud of your post. Good Luck! BTW, what are you watching tonight.... American Idol? <~~~ I'm a freak for it, so just wondering, lol....
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Post by Candy » Wed Apr 11, 2007 2:13 am

I am doing alright so far,still did not write in my journal,and yes I am watching Amercian Idol,it is pretty good. I wonder who is going to be leaving tomorrow night. I am doing pretty good and my nerves are more calmer than now then earlier.I am going to relax and take it easy tonight. I have cramps and it is too early for my period,but they say when you get older everything changes,wonder how true that is.Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me,the last time I talked to my mother she seem alright,not going to let her get to me.The rest of the night I am going to do what I want to do,just feel bad about the journal,if it is not to late,I write in it,cause I have program tomorrow. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be back on the bus later on. :star:
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Post by Candy » Wed Apr 11, 2007 4:21 am

I am doing alright. My boy-friend left and I finally wrote in my journal and it helped me alot. I already took my medication for the night and I will be going to bed real soon.I am watching a movie on Lifetime Movie Network,but I already seen it before,can not remember the name of it. I feel alot better than what I did earlier. I have program tomorrow and I am looking forward to going. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can do. I did not do any SI today and that is a postive thing,taking it one day at a time. I am going to bed real soon getting tired out. I will be back on the bus tomorrow evening. I plan on having a good day tomorrow.taking care of myself. :star:
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Post by Candy » Wed Apr 11, 2007 1:07 pm

I am getting ready for program and I plan on having a great day. I slept good last night,which it felt great. I do know if I mention this or not,but I wrote in my journal last night and help me more than I think. I know that I have some pictures to color,but I can not get myself to do it,I have to push myself like I do with my writing. I feel somewhat anxious this morning,but I am glad that I am getting out of the apartment today. I have things to do before I leave. I will be back on the bus later on when I get home. :star:
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