what's your anti-si?

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Post by DecemberLivy » Wed Aug 22, 2007 5:27 am

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Post by mikedemons » Sun Dec 23, 2007 6:40 pm

i just stumbled on to typic and have found it to be really help and got a ton of new ideas to try out
i have only been trying working on stopping si,ing over the past few months and its not going so well at this point
but i have started journaling why thoughts, feeling, and what ever just comes to mind
that helps alot when i am depressed
when i'm stressed or trying to clam down i have snapping arubber band on my wrist lisoning to and singing or drumming along w/ loud music

i know i need to find more ways to sooth the urges when i get them thoe becuse my goal is to give up si'ing but so far my longest streak as been 4 weeks
i'm gonna try the safety box idea
anyone got any tips for me about what to inculed in and what not
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Post by Heidi4DBT » Thu Oct 23, 2008 10:57 pm

mY aniti slef harm is my churh,friends, and family and the understand of the risks
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Post by ThanksALatte » Sat Oct 25, 2008 4:31 am

-usually a friend that knows nothing about anything, but is enough to make me not do anything
-otherwise, reading or sleeping
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Post by SplinteredGirl » Sun Nov 02, 2008 6:41 am

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Post by John Galt » Sun Nov 02, 2008 11:05 pm

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Post by Never Again » Mon Nov 03, 2008 2:18 am

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Post by xStarBright » Tue Nov 11, 2008 7:11 pm

Goals - for SI.
As in "I'm not going to SI for two months" the very fact that I can't fail that goal keeps me going.

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Post by ambivalent red » Tue Nov 11, 2008 9:25 pm

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Post by black rain » Tue Nov 11, 2008 11:00 pm

music , playing drums, god
I like having low self-esteem it makes me feel special.

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The beautiful thing about music is when it hits you, you fell no pain.

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Post by marshmallowfluff » Wed Nov 12, 2008 3:27 pm

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Post by Inthebox » Fri Nov 14, 2008 7:31 am

waiting....the urges get stronger and weaker, the discipline to WAIT

not wanting to tell T. or hubby - unpleasant enough to tolerate the urges w/o acting

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Post by marthamaya77 » Tue Oct 11, 2011 5:31 pm

scout wrote:this is a good thread!

here are some of mine:

journaling (hey you know those 8 questions on the secret shame homepage? i printed them and taped them into my journal and i make myself answer them when things get really bad, too)

writing an email or calling my friend

shooting basketball

reading

turning up some music really loud and singing and dancing to it (but i'll only do this if home alone which is almost never)

coming here and replying to people's posts


hey, question:
i tried drawing on where i want to cut w/ marker and pen a couple of really hard nights. it kept me from cutting but it got on my clothes!!! so i stopped doing that. any ideas? has anyone else tried this?


what are the 8 questions? I went to the secret shame homepage but couldn't find them.
Thanks!
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Re: what's your anti-si?

Post by Just Pomegranates » Thu Dec 06, 2012 11:43 am

Music
Words (books/poems/stories/letters)
Movies
Journals
Internet
Gym
“If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.” - Dalai Lama XIV

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Re: what's your anti-si?

Post by RG » Wed Jan 02, 2013 7:22 am

:bluestar: knowing that I would hurt people
:bluestar: knowing that I would be unethical in my job
:bluestar: thinking of the consequence of not getting into grad school
:bluestar: exercise
:bluestar: friends
:bluestar: sponsee's
:bluestar: movies/tv
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Re: what's your anti-si?

Post by zyn » Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:05 pm

I've got quite a collection of lovely things - mostly emails and texts and a few objects - that make me smile/are safe/comforting, so I tend to look at those whenever I feel crap. I think the main thing though is always being busy - I definitely get more anxious and stuff if I have nothing to do. Like, I thought moving out to go to uni would be bad, SI wise, because I live alone, but I've been so busy that if I feel crap/urgy I just don't have the energy to act on it! Which has been pretty good for my grades :3

I've been out of the...SI cycle I guess, long enough now for it not to be my first instinct if I do feel awful too. :)
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"Work is a fight against loneliness, against low self esteem, against depression, and against staying in bed. Sometimes my self esteem is so low that I cannot reach it even when I'm feeling down." - Martin Creed



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Re: what's your anti-si?

Post by Just Pomegranates » Sat Feb 02, 2013 2:22 am

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“If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.” - Dalai Lama XIV

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Re: what's your anti-si?

Post by StarChild » Thu Mar 26, 2015 1:34 am

My anti-SI is writing. Writing novels, poetry, journaling, even posts on the internet (though I have to be careful about what I put out there, of course)...

I also love to watch documentaries. I don't know why. I can't really focus long enough to watch a regular movie, but I love documentaries! I watch them and crochet to keep my hands busy.

Oh, and crochet.

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Re: what's your anti-si?

Post by Spidey » Thu Mar 26, 2015 5:49 am

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