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Post by angelic212 » Thu Mar 01, 2007 4:47 pm

hope that your day program goes well today.
have a good day.

i just woke up too. well my doggie woke me up.

im also going to try some of these alternative that i posted for you.

have a good day

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Post by Candy » Thu Mar 01, 2007 8:52 pm

I had a great day at program and and we read a article about Wellness Tool Developing and Keeping a Support and How to developing new Friendships and Keeping Friendship Strong and Problems in Relationships and Ending Friendships,there is so much on the article that it would take me forever to write it,but if you want the article you can find it on the website which is www.mentalhealthrecovery.com,I hope that I do not get in any trouble for putting it here,the main article is called Article: A Wellness Tool Developing and Keeping a Circle of Support it is by Mary Ellen Copeland,and I hope it is ok that I put her name here,so anyone knows who the article is by,I would love to put it on the bus,but it might take me way to long to do it. I am doing ok,my therapist will not be back till Monday and I wanted to talk to her,so that made me feel kind of anxious,but it is how I am feeling right now. I am going to lay down for awhile and relax,cause I do not need a panic attack right now. I hope you find this article helpful and I hope no one has any trouble getting it. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will back on the bus later. I am taking it one minute at a time. :star:
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Post by Candy » Fri Mar 02, 2007 12:52 am

I am doing pretty good. I took a nap for awhile and then I finally woke up ,I took my medication and I watching t.v. I am going to do something out of my coping box tonight,once I get the apartment picked up. I had been talking to friends on the phone and that helped alot,my boy-friend will be here in a little while. I just wanted to say that all the coping skills that people put on my bus,I had printed off,but I have to be careful,cause I do not want to use all of my ink,but I print off what is helpful to me. I have not written in my journal today,but I will tomorrow,I feel more comfortable writing when I am by myself. I am glad that I started this point and it helps alot,I rather post on here when I feel like doing SI,it is a more positive thing. I am going to watch t.v.,my boy-friend and I like to watch Amercian Idials,I am not sure if I spell that right,people sing in front of the judges,like Simon,it is pretty good. He likes like and then I will play checkers on the internet. I have tomorrow off,so I am happy about that. I have alot of things to do to keep myself busy. I am feel alot better,but there are times that I do get scared when the urges of SI start to come on,they can be overwhelming sometimes,but I try to fight them and I have not done any SI for about a week now and I am proud of myself. :bcatsmile: I will be on the bus later to check in. :star:
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Post by angelic212 » Fri Mar 02, 2007 1:39 am

glad to hear that you are doing good right now.

im feeling so sleepy right now.
cause i didnt sleep much last night and i went to sleep at 4:50am and slept for 4 hours.
so im feeling all drowsy and sleepy

so what are you going to do from your coping box?

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Post by Candy » Fri Mar 02, 2007 3:02 am

I am not sure if I will get to it tonight,cause my boy-friend and I are going out for awhile,but I will be home tomorrow and I will have more time to work out of it tomorrow. I feel bad that I am not going to do it tonight,but we have to be somewhere,to visit a friend,that is having problems,but I making a promise here that I am will do it for sure tomorrow. We are watching t.v and then we are leaving. I am doing alright,but I hate it when I feel insure,not sure if I spell that word right,with my boy-friend,and I wish I could get over that feeling. I copied off the stuff that you posted on my coping thread this morning. Thanks so much. I hope you get enough sleep tonight,and I will try to be back on the bus later. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can do. I hate my feelings sometimes,even though they are just feelings,I just do not like the uncomfortable ones,cause they bother me the most and that is when I feel more likely to do SI,or other reasons. I did some positive things today
1) I went to program :heart:
2) I post on the bus :heart:
3) Spend time with my boy-friend. :pinkstar:
4) Watch t.v. :lpurpstar:
I am taking it one minute at a time and taking care of myself. I will hopefully be back on later. :star:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Fri Mar 02, 2007 6:01 am

We just got back from a friend's apartment,he is doing ok. I feel bad that I did not get to my coping box tonight,but I promise myself that I will do it tomorrow. I am going to watch t.v for awhile and take my medications and go to bed. I have the day off tomorrow and I have things to do and I will do my coping box in the afternoon. I am going to try to sleep in,but I have to be at the bank also in the morning. I am doing ok and I will be seeing the doctor next Wed.,about my medication,I see her at my day treatment program,so I will have to wait and see what happens when I see her,I am not going to worry about it. I just wanted to check in and let everyone knows how I am doing. My chest is still tight and I think it might be anxiety,is that a sign of anxiety? Just wondering. I am going to take it easy for the rest of the night and I will be back on the bus tomorrow. I am taking it one minute at a time. I am going to take care of myself. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Fri Mar 02, 2007 8:56 pm

I had a busy day tonight, I had to go to the bank and then spend time with my mother that was a great time.Then I fell alseep,cause I was not feeling well. I have not done anything that I wanted to do out of my coping box or write in my journal,which I might do after I get off for awhile,is write in my journal. I feel alot better now,but still tired. The sun is shinning which makes me feel better. I have not done any SI and I am proud of myself for that,but I just want to feel like my own self again and that is getting frustrating for me. I just want to feel like that again and I know it will take time,but still I want to feel better,like I did before,but I know thatI have to not push myself and be patience,but still that is hard as well. I am hanging in there and taking it one minute at a time,each day,cause that is all that I can do right now. I think that I am going to write in my journal for awhile and relax;plus watch t.v. I will be on the bus later on :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sat Mar 03, 2007 1:11 am

I finally woke up from my nap,and my boy-friend is here and we are watching t.v.,it looks like tomorrow that I will be working out of my coping box,tonight I just do not feel up to it. I wrote in my journal today,which helped me alot and I had a real nice dinner for myself. I did not feel good all day,so I am glad that I got somethingt to eat.
1) I wrote in my journal :bluestar:
2) I cooked my own dinner :heart:
3) I did not do any SI :blueheart:
4) I went to the bank this morning,even though I did not feel good :magheart:
so there are some of the things that I did for myself that were positive. I hope every one here is doing ok,I am going to relax and watch t.v and if I feel up to it I will do something out of the coping box,if not I have to do something out of it tomorrow. I want to work out of it,but lately I have not been feeling so great physically. I enjoy having this coping thread and it has helped me alot. I am taking it easy,and I will be back on later :1cat:
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Post by Candy » Sat Mar 03, 2007 4:26 am

I am doing pretty good,I have been playing checkers on line and watching t.v.,and I am starting to feel better now and I have plans for myself to keep me busy,I am going to write in my journal and work out of my coping box and I probably going to add pictures to my scapebook. My boy-friend are having a good time talking and I just want to check in and let everyone know how I am doing.I am going to start writing out affirmations as well,being that it is a week end, I will have more time to do things. I have been taking my medications and that is a positive thing as well. I hope everyone is doing well and I am taking care of myself,and I feel more calm then I have been. I will be on the bus later to check in and I am going to finish watching this movie. Be back soon. :star:
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Post by Candy » Sat Mar 03, 2007 6:13 am

I am finishing watching a movie and I will be going to bed real soon,my boy-friend left and I am getting real tired. I did not sleep very good last night,and that is why I am tired.I had a pretty good day,just was not feeling well,cause I was up to late last night,and plus I did not feel good when I got up. I am going to have a better day tomorrow and I have a lot of things that I want to get done,that are positive things that I have not been able to get done. I hope everyone has a great night and I will be back on the bus tomorrow. I am taking it one minute at a time,I already took my medication for the night,and I am going to get a good night sleep. I will be back on tomorrow. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sat Mar 03, 2007 4:41 pm

I am doing ok,just trying to get myself to feel better emotionally,physically and mentally,for some reason I am feeling so worn out that I do not have any will power, I have not done any SI for almost two weeks, I am proud of myself,but for some reason I do not feel it,emotionally,has anyone ever had that kind of feeling before,it is like I feel numb when it comes from doing positive things,but negative things I do feel things,I hope that makes sense to anyone. I am going to try to do something positive for myself today and keep myself busy. I slept real good last night,cause I was so tired out.If anyone has any suggestions for what I can do about what I listed above,please do so. I have some good ideals of what I am going to do today and I just have to push myself to do it.I just did not want to get up this morning,cause I was so tired out and I did not feel good yesterday,it was like I had the flu or something,but I am feeling better now. I am going to do positive things for myself today and that will help me alot. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be back on the bus later on. I am going to do positive things now. Be back soon. :bcatsmile:
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Post by angelic212 » Sat Mar 03, 2007 9:17 pm

hi candy:

just dropping by to see how you are doing
i woke up at 1pm today cause i went to bed at 5am this morning, i was watching gilmore girls episodes from season 1

yesterday i was also emotionally tired and physically tired,

today im just going to relax for a while, and finish working on my therapy assignments. i onlyy have 2 left to do.
i worked on them last night, did alot of work on myy therapy assignments which helped me feel better.

i hope that you have a good day today.

feel free to pm me if you need to.

take care of yourself and have a good day today.

bye for now

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Post by Candy » Sat Mar 03, 2007 10:28 pm

I am doing pretty good today. I took a nap for awhile,but before I did I did some positive things today,even though I did not get a chance to write in my journal,like I planned
1) I wrote out positive affirmations for myself :heart:
2) Positive things that I am good at :heart:
That is about it for now,just did not feel good yesterday,so taking it easy today,promise myself to do more tomorrow. I am going out for dinner with my boy-friend when he gets here,I think we are going out to Sunny's. I have not done any SI and that is a positive thing. I am glad to hear that you are doing ok,I was worried about you. I am going to watch t.v till my boy-friend gets here. I am doing the best I can and I am starting to talk with my friends that I have not talked to for awhile,cause I was not feeling well,and still having trouble getting back on track. I am going to relax and watch t.v for awhile and I will be back on the bus later on.
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by Candy » Sun Mar 04, 2007 3:56 am

I am doing pretty good tonight. I ordered in and I had a half of sub and so did my boy-friend. I am feeling pretty good,just tired out.I did get some positive things done today,but not as much as I would of liked to,there is always tomorrow,it was just one of those days. I am going to finish watching t.v with my boy-friend and then I go to bed later,but I will be back on the bus later on to check in. I feel good about what I did,but I wish I could of done more positive things today,I just was not up to it,something I ate Thursday,did not agree with my stomach. I hope everyone here is doing good. I do not feel soo anxious,but I have some anxiety in me,but I am doing the best I can to help me relax. I do not like the feeling of anxiety,and I am trying to cope with it,the best way I can,it is not easy though,but I am hanging in there. I am going to relax and take it easy,and I will be back on the bus later on. I am taking it one minute at a time. Be back later :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sun Mar 04, 2007 5:38 am

My boy-friend just left and I will be going to bed real soon, I took my medication for the night and I plan on keeping myself busy tomorrow,cause sleeping all day does not do me any good. I am feel pretty good,just late being alone at night,even when the anxiety gets to me,but I have to learn to use my coping skills when I am by myself. It is hard to be alone,but I am doing pretty good so far. I am getting tired and I will be going to bed real soon. I will be back on the bus tomorrow to let everyone know how I am doing and having this coping thread has helped me in alot of ways and I am glad that I have it. Have a great night and I will be back tomorrow. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sun Mar 04, 2007 5:08 pm

I am having such a rough day today,going to my mother's house did not help me one bit,the only reason I went there is to have my father look at my car,but she got sooo verbally abusive with me that my chest started to hurt and I am trying to relax,my morning was going soo well,it I went there,and I could not wait to get out of there,I love her,but I hate her for the way she treats me,and she knows how I feel,but the words hurt soo much,the only thing that I could think of was to do SI,the words were hurting me soo bad,that I could not deal with it,but I decided to come here and post then do SI,I hate it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel so tired and I did get enough sleep,it is the anxiety that is bothering me soo much. Now that I am home I am going to take care of myself and do what will help me right now,cause that is what I need to do.I just wanted to post how I am feeling and doing,but I think I need to lay down for awhile and take it easy,and when I get up,I will be able to do what I want to do.The more I want to stand up to her,the worst the anxiety gets,and the worse the chest pain is. I bet I need a medication change,but I am seeing my doctor this Wed,so I will let her know what is going on. I promise to be back on later,going to rest right now. I am hanging in there :star:
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Post by Candy » Sun Mar 04, 2007 9:20 pm

I just got up and I still do not feel so great the anxiety is still there and it is getting on my nerves, I have not done anything out of my coping box today,cause I can seem to get myself motivated to do anything. I hate feeling this way,and I just want it to go away.I am going to try to write in my journal after and see if that helps me. I hate this feeling,sorry for repeating it,but I have to get it out of myself,cause it is driving me nuts. I am watching t.v and I am trying very hard to focus on other things in my mind then my anxiety,but that is not easy as well. I am going to take it easy and do something positive and that makes me feel good inside. I just wanted to check in and let everyone know how I am feeling, I am going to write in my journal now,and I will be back on the bus later on. I hate feeling like this. Be back later :star:
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Post by Candy » Mon Mar 05, 2007 3:53 am

I had to take my medication for my anxiety,cause it was getting worse than I wanted it to,I wrote in my journal and that helped me alot. I am sitting here watching t.v while I am writing,then I am going to play checkers on line and see if I can win. I finally made it other day without doing SI,and I did not think I would make it,with my mother's abuse today,but I am proud of myself that I did and the nap I took,the journal writing that I did helped me alot. So I am hanging in there doing the best I can right now. I have to go back to program tomorrow,so that will be a busy day for me. I am going to play checkers and watch t.v,but I will be back on before I go to bed. I am just taking it one minute at a time and that is all I can do for myself. I will be back on later on :star:
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Post by angelic212 » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:41 am

hi Candy:

sorry you are having a hard time with your anxiety.

i had a major panic attack around 5am and i wasnt able to sleep during the whole night, i also had to take anxiety medication today.
it really sucks to struggle with anxiety and panic doensnt it?

right now im watching a movie in my ipod video.
my dad bought me for xmas and ipod video, its really helpful, cause i have found a way to put all of my dvd movies in my ipod , and i dont have to use my portable dvd player.
and i can also listen to my music with my ipod, its really helpful when you cant sleep.

if you need to feel free to pm me,

by the way what site do you use to play checkers online? could you give me the link to it please? post in my coping space, i would reall y appreciate that.

sorry abouut your mother being abusive,

you shouldnt have to go through that, we all deserve respect!!!

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Post by Candy » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:26 am

I just took my medications for the night and I am watching t.v.then I will be going to bed real soon. Yes,I agree that anxiety and panic is not good at all,I hate it,I see the doctor this Wed, morning and I hope she does some medicaiton change,cause it feels like the medication for anxiety is not working. I know it is not fun,and when my chest starts to get tight and I have a hard time breathing,I just need to sleep and for some reason I can not do anything at all. I am glad that you are doing good, I have been worry about you,cause I have not heard from you lately. I at least I wrote in my journal,but I need to start to do more to help myself,with the coping box and other things that I need to do around here. I am going to watch t.v for awhile and then I will go to bed,I have day treatment program tomorrow,and I have to get up early,I hope that I sleep good night,and the anxiety does not get in the way of that.I am doing the best I can and that is all I can do. I am looking forward to going back to program,but not getting up early in the morning. I will be back on the bus tomorrow evening to post some stuff that I have. Have a great night everyone and I will do the same thing. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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