Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Post by AquaMG » Tue Dec 16, 2003 3:16 am

wow, this is a BRILLIANT list. i am DEFIANTELY going to be reffering back. thank you so much!! :D
cuz we lost it all
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Post by pink1 » Wed Jan 14, 2004 12:55 am

Laura, that list is soooo good its the first time I've come across it. I learnt a new one today from a book. I've never tried it and I've no idea if it works :

Break and egg in your hand

Weird eh, maybe I'll try it sometime



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Post by Karen » Thu Jan 22, 2004 2:52 am

THANKS for this Laura,

A fantastic 'reference library'.....Hoping I can refer to it anytime instead of my 'usual'.......... sometimes my head is so messed up that I can't think straight, having this at hand and the way you've composed it makes it easier and very much appreciated.

Take care.....

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Post by abc » Fri Jan 23, 2004 12:08 am

cheers 4 the list. has been really helpful stopping me si. thanx
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Post by kodora » Mon Jan 26, 2004 9:10 am

I dunno if this is on there, if it is, I missed it. But one thing I like to do is when I get the urge I put little dots all over my paper. I try to do it more organized-like, but you can also just go wild with them. This really helps me when I'm at school and get the urges to hurt myself, because I have to have a paper out and so I just use the side area. People look at me strangly, sometimes, but oh well.
I hear a voice
"Your must learn to stand up for yourself
Cause I can't always be around"

He says
When you gonna make up your mind
When you gonna love you as much as I do
When you gonna make up your mind
Cause things are gonna change so fast
All the white horses are still in bed
I tell you that I'll always want you near
You say that things change my dear
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Post by ~Claire~ » Sat Jan 31, 2004 4:57 pm

I've printed it off and hilighted the ones I might use :)
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Sing like nobody's listening.
Dance like nobody's watching.
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
:pinkstar: :lpurpstar: :dkpurpstar:


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Post by FaeFollower » Sat Feb 21, 2004 4:53 am

:o What a list! Thanks very much, I am definately printing that...
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Post by naomi om » Sat Mar 06, 2004 5:09 am

Laura,

Thank you thank you thank you.

I'm going to spread this one around to other si'ers.
16 pages in word!!!!!!

very very kewl.

as has been said, reading the list should be distraction enough.

naomi

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Post by ~*Star*~ » Sat Mar 06, 2004 5:56 pm

That was loads :) Took me ages just to read some of them (I got bored half way through) Thats a distraction in its self!
"I was down, I fell, I fell so fast
Dropping like the grains in an hourglass
Never say forever cause nothing lasts
Dancing with the bones of my buried past"

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Post by amyfairy » Sat Mar 06, 2004 7:21 pm

Thank you so much for this x

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Post by xPaintTheStarsx » Sat May 15, 2004 2:34 pm

I only just read this now for the first time. Wow! That was amazing, thankyou. I will have to print that :)
:purpstar: :dkpurpstar: :purpstar:
<i>buried deep as you can dig inside yourself
and hidden in the public eye
such a stellar monument to loneliness.
laced with brilliant smiles, and shining eyes
and perfect makeup.
but you're barely scraping by...</i>

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Post by Laura » Sun May 23, 2004 3:10 pm

kodora wrote:I dunno if this is on there, if it is, I missed it. But one thing I like to do is when I get the urge I put little dots all over my paper. I try to do it more organized-like, but you can also just go wild with them. This really helps me when I'm at school and get the urges to hurt myself, because I have to have a paper out and so I just use the side area. People look at me strangly, sometimes, but oh well.
Adding that - thanks :) Sorry took me ages to get round to doing that :oops:

Actually when folk suggest new ideas, could you maybe suggest which category it should go in? Or if anybody has ideas for a new category, that's cool too :D

Thanks folks for all your ideas. I've now put this list on my website as well.
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Post by Middleground » Mon May 24, 2004 9:02 pm

Ahuh, I'm so printing it out. Thanks :))

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Post by (*Haven*) » Fri May 28, 2004 12:51 am

This is great! I had to make a list similar months ago that I go back to when I need it. I will be adding some of these ideas to it!

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Post by cupcake » Fri May 28, 2004 3:27 am

this is really great! i know you put alot of time into this. i am new to this site but not to SI. i am 41 y/o. thanks for your help.
I NEED TO LEARN TO LIVE HAPPILY AGAIN. SOME WHERE DOWN THE ROAD I'VE FORGOTTEN HOW.

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Post by sam_girl » Sun Jun 06, 2004 2:13 pm

ladies, this is a coping idea jst 4 us, im not sure if it works so i didnt feel urgy b4....

give urself a bikini wax! it hurts but its constructive and ur gonna feel all sexy after it! thats gotta b gd rite?

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Post by Ime » Sun Jun 06, 2004 5:51 pm

Two for you in distracting...

Search for your name in google.com's image section. Or any word you like. Then collect together your favourite ones and post them somewhere - place.. word document..
Here is an "ime" example.. <img src="http://www.nire.go.jp/~fgamo/ime-1.jpg">

Look up family and friends on the internet. I've found both my parents, my stepdad, 2 uncles, and my brother. It was quite entertaining.
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Post by Laura » Sun Jun 06, 2004 10:23 pm

Thanks for those. That brings us up to 333! :)
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Post by crying in the rain » Wed Jun 16, 2004 3:16 pm

:) thanks for that, that was great, i bet your T was pleased with that homework!!! :tongue:
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Post by snowangel_03 » Thu Jul 01, 2004 5:53 pm

Printed it all out :lol:

Will take a detailed look later :0

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