A fault I have realized within myself...

[Chocoboko]

I realized something about myself... I know I am very lonely and I have a tendency to obsess over things, such as negative past events. Well, I realized that those two are deadly combinations because if a girl I like comes along, I tend to obsess over her.

I realize this is a big obstacle in developing a mature and satisfying relationship. I obsess over the girl I like and read into her words too much. I long for her to be available more than she is capable of being. I get so caught up that I lose my mature caring respect for her. Instead of maturely being her friend, I get caught up in a pattern of fearing of her not being interested, losing her, longing, etc. I know this is a major obstacle in developing a happy relationship. Maybe this is why I am alone all the time.

Well, now that I have realized this fault, I am not sure what to do. I wonder what steps I can take to stop this.

[nirvana]

I have a tendency to obsess over things, such as negative past events.

i do too.

Well, now that I have realized this fault, I am not sure what to do. I wonder what steps I can take to stop this.

i think you're off to a good start. you realize you keep ending up in the same situation. maybe try a different approach with a girl. try becoming friends, and not forcing too much to happen at once. give it a little more time, take things slower maybe. and don't feel bad if she can't or doesn't give you what you expect.

if you ever want to talk, feel free to pm me.
love, tara.