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Post by stripin_hate » Thu May 20, 2004 2:38 am

I shave my arms and I was trying to cut myself at least 8 times and in class i tried to cut my wrist on paper. I under a lot of stress to finish my science project, to pass the SOL's and our 5 exams and if we fail we stay in 7th grade I have like 4 pages of make up work any advice on how to deal with stress like this

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Post by erinmv » Thu May 20, 2004 3:46 am

Obsessing over how much stuff you have to do won't help at all. I'm really good at whipping myself into a frenzy over how stressed I am. Then I realize I end up spending more time and energy stressing over what I have to do than it would actually take to just do what needs to be done! So don't just sit and freak out. Break it down into smaller jobs. Instead of looking at the 5 tests you have to take, look at each individual one. Take one things at a time. Go somewhere to study where you won't be distracted. And ask for help if you need it. All I know is, if you spend too much time stressing, you'll wear yourself out. Good luck.
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Post by Seeshellz » Sat May 22, 2004 6:59 pm

VERY STRESSED OUT!!

I've been there many times myself. It is hard to deal with. I still have a hard time. But, I've learned some stress strategies:

Distract:

I use computer games, call or visit a friend, having a tea or coffee (decaf) and even colouring in a colouring book. reading a joke book, work on puzzles, watch engaging TV or thrilling Movies, read something enthralling.
(These help me get my mind of the stressor and relieve stress too.)

Self Soothe: (helps with the feeling that come along with the stress)

Smell the flowers, relax on my balcony on a sunny day, look at photos in an album, light candles(watch the flame), fix your nails, listen to music, smell pot pourri, treat yourself to a wonderful dessert, eat candy, take a bubble bath, pet your dog or cat, put creamy lotion on yourself and best of all HUG someone.

I hope these things help. I know the stress is there, but these things are things to help you distract and soothe yourself while you are going through it. I find trying more than one will help.

Anyway, take it easy,

Love, Shelley

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