Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by angelafree » Sat Dec 03, 2011 1:14 am

that could keep you safe for years...:O :o
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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by flower79 » Wed Jul 17, 2013 10:28 am



I noticed this is an old thread but WOW that's an amazing list of things to try.

i'm going to share this with a friend of mine who struggled with her SI and i'm going to try the H.A.L.T as it can affect me.

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Post by StarChild » Sat Dec 07, 2013 7:30 pm

I really love the systems of rewards/collecting things. I sort of collect Asian ball-jointed dolls (haven't been able to afford a new one for ages, but I could save up) and I want to save for one for my one-year anniversary, when I can stay off SI that long. I already have the one I want picked out, a LUTS Kid Delf Bory boy. I might get the white skin version and make him a little ghost boy or some kind of supernatural creature.

For anyone else interested in BJDs or other dolls...it can take a year or more to save up (some of the big fancy ones can cost as much as $700!), but for me, it's a great motivator. Because I can always go to the site and look at pictures of my boy :) He's only $300 (haha, only in the BJD hobby would one say "only $300!") so I could easily save up enough money for him by the end of a year.

I'm so excited. Now I really want to stop, so I can get my boy!

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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by moon raver » Thu Jan 16, 2014 8:12 pm

dayum!!!
that's great!!!
i'll pull it up in word and print it at the library.

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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by noldo » Wed Jan 16, 2019 9:58 pm

I know this thread is really really old but I still love the list and really need to try more skills of this list again. I think it's better than any Coping Strategies Lists I got in the psych wards over the years. I translated it into German (also a skill of its own :wink: ) and gave it to some therapists and nurses over the years who found it helpful. I always have it ready on the laptop and printed out at home and I also have a smaller list with some of the skills of this list which I picked out to try and which I found useful. As I'm re-vamping my emergency box I thought it's a good idea to revisit this thread.

I don't really know if this skill already exists but there are gummy bears (or some other shape) with chili in it. I am pretty sensible to spicy stuff so it really has an effect on me, esp. when I eat several ones quickly, one after the other. The burning passes relatively quickly but when you eat several ones over the time of 10 minutes or so, it takes a while till the sensation passes. When I need some stronger spicy, burning stuff I chew 3-5 whole peppercorns at once. That burning sensation really stays for a while and it is much stronger.

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And thanks to everyone contributing to it. If you come across this nowadays and you have a skill that isn't on here yet, please share it with us here (if you feel comfortable enough).

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Re: Scarily VAST list of coping strategies

Post by s0_vErY_sCaReD » Fri Mar 06, 2020 7:10 am

Read the whole list (and all seven pages of replies). One that stuck out to me was the safe place imagery. That’s one the DBT therapist at the program I go to does a lot.

Mine is at the fireside at summer camp in the mountains from when I was a teenager (many many moons ago).
Its kind of ironic that’s my safe place, as that was actually where I had my first major panic attack. Strange. Anyway. That’s my two cents.
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Post by childofchaos831 » Fri Mar 06, 2020 9:08 am

Our safe place is a dock over the lake, listening to the lake and the birds. Everything else is quiet. No one is around, just us.
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