Stopping but not being believed *ED* trig possible

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Stopping but not being believed *ED* trig possible

Post by blueberry » Sat Dec 17, 2011 8:34 am

I'm curious if anyone has any advice around trying to get someone to believe you about stopping some self destructive behaviors. My roommate asked a while back about things like my taking pills, cutting, and ED stuff. I was very honest, said yes I've done some but I haven't done others- specifically, I have not been purging since about February or May.

I don't think she believed me, it's been nagging at me. I swore I hadn't been doing any purging and in fact have been trying to keep a stable weight. I even said I could see how she could think I may be doing that (totally true, I've been sick, my stomach flipping out at pretty much anything- I could see how that could look like ed stuff), she seemed to blow it off though. I told her, yes, I've done some restricting but been trying to recognize when I am and correct it. Plus, we had been talking about EDs and distorted sense of *ideal* weight, I was agreeing with her and saying how back in middle school I thought x was a good weight but realize it is not a good weight and the rationale for the particular amount was silly- now she thinks I still believe that.

I know it took a lot for her to ask, and I appreciate her concern, but it is frustrating that she doesn't believe me and I have no clue how to bring it up without making a mess of things or making her not want to bring up concerns in the future. She struggled/struggles with EDs as well, I've periodically checked in with her- and she asked me to if I was concerned (she's getting pretty obsessive about loosing weight, even though she is thin and looks fine, she says she hasn't gone overboard so I don't bring it up unless she drops dramatically more- maybe this is what she thinks she is doing as well, I don't know, but I haven't lost weight for quite a while).

Any ideas on how to bring this up and/or convince her that I am being honest? I hope this is vaguely clear, lots on my mind and all jumbled up. Thanks :dkblheart:

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Re: Stopping but not being believed *ED* trig possible

Post by knocking » Sun Dec 25, 2011 1:11 am

Hey. I'm sorry but I dont have any advice.. Just wanted to bump this post up again for you to see if someone else would see it and answer.

I think its good that you were honest with her and things.
Sorry again for having no advice, but hopefully by my bumping it up someone will notice it and help.

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