what's your anti-si?

art-girl · Post by **art-girl** » Sun Aug 03, 2003 12:58 am

i go find somebody to hug. usually the feeling of someones arms around me calms me down enough to step away from the situation and ask myself if i really need to self harm.

if theres noone around to hug i'll play the 15 minute game until there is, even if it means staying up till 4 in the morning when my boyfriend gets home from work

jenn

P!nk · Post by **P!nk** » Sun Aug 03, 2003 1:11 am

My Anti-SI as of late has been:

Planning some sort of activity or appointment to get out of the house every day...

Listing the Pros & Cons in my head when SI raises it's ugly head and threatens to attack.

Writing, Writing, Writing

Not wanting to break no self harm contract with new T

Nor dissappoint my Kitty...

Tangles · Post by **Tangles** » Sun Aug 03, 2003 1:30 pm

When the urges are really strong, I do one of the following:

a) Talk to somebody online- Bojjie, Gui and PFD have saved me from myself on numerous occasions just my talking to me and keeping my mind occupied

b) Get into bed, and preferably, go to sleep. On Gui's reccommendations, that is my 'safe place' where I cant harm myself.

dramababy2003 · Post by **dramababy2003** » Sun Aug 03, 2003 3:48 pm

last night i drawed with crayons out of my emergency box.

i didnt think i would need it so soon, but coloring and listening to music

LOUD MUSIC

with headphones worked for me.

Bo · Post by Bo » Tue Aug 19, 2003 12:18 am

my anti-si's:
> try to talk to someone
> put on a facemask and soothing music and try to relax
> exercise, usually a big workout,till im to tired to go on
> sleep
>try to cry,usually fail at this one

>hmm il try my hand a poetry!!

>go on bus

idgie · Post by **idgie** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 2:24 pm

music

sleep

knitting

watch a movie

read

write

cuddle bunny

talking to a friend about whatever

telling friend that I want to SI and asking them to help me not to cut

natz · Post by **natz** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 8:48 pm

this is a really great thread, im finding it very interesting reading. i know some of these may have already been mentioned but here's three of mine...

- i go for a walk in the fields behind my house (takes my mind off things because all i can do is worry about whether or not the farmer will appear and yell at me for being on his land

)

- be arty. i buy huge sheets of paper and then challenge myself to fill the whole sheet...i end up getting into it and by the time im done so is the urge

- online stuff. talking to friends on msn, games, filling in surveys, and one that i find the most helpful is reading through posts over and over. i find reading through positive things people have posted (such as this very thread ) really helpful, a kind of 'if they can do it so can i' thing

i have others but they are my main three that work

angelic212 · Post by **angelic212** » Thu May 20, 2004 7:37 am

bumping this post back to the top cause i think this should be made a sticky post , its really helpful hey Laura could you make this a sticky post? it would help others alot

love always maria

Laura · Post by **Laura** » Thu May 20, 2004 3:51 pm

Ok Maria

*looks round for some glue*

Solemn Rurouni · Post by **Solemn Rurouni** » Fri May 21, 2004 5:00 pm

- Drawing
- Listening to 'The Outsider' by A Perfect Circle
- Searching for one certain animal on 'images' on either google or yahoo and picking out the best ones
- Randomly typing in website addresses to see if it's a real one

Middleground · Post by **Middleground** » Sat May 22, 2004 10:17 am

I don't really have an anti-SI. I do need one.. as of now I have a certain song that I listen to that calms me down a bit... but that doesn't always work...

swanfaerie · Post by **swanfaerie** » Mon May 24, 2004 1:23 am

i'm glad this was made a sticky. i never saw it b4.

my anti-si's?

"fun" music (sappy love songs will make it worse, but upbeat disney, Sousa marches, Joplin rags, good ol' rock & roll, and barbershop work great)

crocheting

playing my piano

engrossing (but not sad) movies

cleaning

reading

waxing my legs (yeah i know, ya gotta let it grow a little b4 ya can do that one

)

hanging with my kids (ie not isolating)

hanging on bus

i bo't an origami book a couple of months ago but never did it yet. i think now i'll hafta try it when i'm urgy.

i think i need to make an emergency box too.

Middleground · Post by **Middleground** » Tue May 25, 2004 3:56 pm

Aha... I have found mine. I have a rubber ducky (one of those nifty ones that looks like a devil), and whenever I feel like I need to SI... I stick it full of pins.. Poor duck.. but better him than me!!! That and some kind of grounding thing work quite well for me.

tminos · Post by **tminos** » Tue May 25, 2004 8:43 pm

the Whipping Duck of Voodoo!

Much better it be the duck than you... the duck can be replaced..

evaporated tears · Post by **evaporated tears** » Wed May 26, 2004 8:02 pm

great ideas!

Loud music will help a lot, but make sure it's happy music. Often a sappy or angry song will encourage me to SI. Although sometimes I really can't stand pop/hip hop songs, they can still alter my mood a bit.

Middleground · Post by **Middleground** » Fri May 28, 2004 8:12 pm

Hip hop.. heh. We had to listen to French rap music today in French class...

On another note... streaking my arm all over with a red marker has the same release/escape effect as acutal SI.

Solemn Rurouni · Post by **Solemn Rurouni** » Sat May 29, 2004 12:06 am

I go and pet my rabbit or go let him fre ein teh yard and chase him around. I also like to sneak out into my garden at midnight...it's kinda fun.

lost down here · Post by **lost down here** » Wed Jun 02, 2004 10:50 pm

-get on bus
-call/email/text my best friend
-play with my dog
-watch TV
-listen to Linkin park (who are AMAZING btw lol)
-play with my cat (although the cat doesnt understand me like my dog does)
-surf the web
-do homework
-lie in bed aimlessly

MoonlightMelody · Post by **MoonlightMelody** » Fri Jun 18, 2004 7:09 pm

I guess it depends on what I am into during that time. I have been fighting for 10 years and just recently I am over 6 months SI free.

I try to
- Write fiction
- Write poetry
- draw objects that are not real or do not make sense.
- talk a walk alone
- take a walk with someone I love
- read to my kids
- play games with my kids
- yoga (believe me it really works)
- exercise (takes away the "bad" endorphins)
- anything to change my focus
- Go to BUS and rant
- a journal helped me in the past but I don't journal anymore...I prefer to write in other ways
- play with the doggie

I suggest do something that will take your mind off the idea of hurting yourself. It worked for me.

:180_days_si_free:

crimson_tears23 · Post by **crimson_tears23** » Thu Jun 24, 2004 7:36 pm

My anti-SI is...

playing guitar

playing with my dogs and cats

going outside and jumping on my trampoline

and hanging with my friends and being with family.

awesome thread!

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