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Post by ChaosCat » Mon Dec 03, 2007 2:32 am

I know some people reward themselves with things when they haven't cut. Things like stickers on a calander and stuff. I am going to start a paper chain and if I slip I am just going to start a new color paper rather than start over. That way I can see something that will be really inspiring to me. Do you use a reward system? If so what is it?
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Post by my clarity clouded » Mon Dec 03, 2007 2:37 am

I never thought of that ! It is a great idea.

I also like how you will just change color instead of starting over, that will show more of your overall progress and not just the slips. :gooddeal:

I think your way is a positive way :)
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Post by idork » Mon Dec 03, 2007 2:54 am

Some rewards I've tried:

-> made myself a bracelet, crafts are fun as well as a reminder that I can do it
-> took my dog and me out for icecream
-> sticky note on mirror of things I like about myself, that one really didn't work out
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Post by Li'lRuby » Mon Dec 03, 2007 3:39 am

Thats a great idea, chaoscat.
I haven't really used a support system...have tried a lot but they just were not working. I just reward myself by going easy on myself and not taking on more than I can handle (sometimes that doesn't work either :P).
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Post by ChaosCat » Mon Dec 03, 2007 4:09 am

Someone gave me the idea of a paper chain, but they thought it should start over. I just thought that would discourage me having to start over. I know I don't SI more days than I do now and I thought at the end of the year that would be awesome to have this huge chain. I want to decorate the links in my chain to make it special. I went out and got stickers.
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Post by Chaocontrol6 » Mon Dec 03, 2007 8:25 am

idork wrote:-> took my dog and me out for icecream
OMG same as for the ice cream, nice big bowl of chocolate ice cream :D
If I don't slip, I usually treat myself somehow, the ice cream for one :P Others include putting on a funny movie or something even if it's very late at night :) That's about it though :)
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