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Post by Candy » Thu Oct 25, 2007 11:23 pm

I took a nap,cause when I got home I was crying and soo frustrated. I talked to my case-manager cause I felt so alone,and needed someone to talk to.Then I fell a sleep,cause I was soo tired out from the day,I did not write in my journal,but I will write in it tomorrow. I remember everything that happen yesterday,to put in it. My boy-friend is here and we are going to take it easy,not sure if we are going out or not,but at this point we are going to relax. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am hanging in there and taking care of myself. I will be just fine. I will be back on later on :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Fri Oct 26, 2007 5:03 am

I had a nice time with my boy-friend,we just took it easy and relax. He just left to go home and get some sleep,and I will be doing the same thing. I did not do any SI today,that is great,still not feeling good about myself with the behavior that happen,cause I never done it before,and it scared me. I am trying to get my mind off of it. I have the day off tomorrow from day treatment program,so I am going to take it easy. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Fri Oct 26, 2007 4:19 pm

I am doing alright. I slept good last night,and I am picking up my apartment.I talked to my therapist on the phone and she told me to keep track on my behavior where every I go, by keeping a little notebook with me,she told me to take care of myself and call hotline when I needed to. It made me feel alot better. NO SI either,that is great. I am going to enjoy my day and do things that are positive for me. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine.Also my therapist will see me on Monday. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Fri Oct 26, 2007 8:46 pm

I am doing alright. I took a nap,cause I was tired.I had a pizza for dinner,did the dishes and wrote in my journal,it helped alot. My boy-friend will be here at 4:30 and we are going out for awhile. I am doing just fine and I have not done any SI so far,which is great. I am just relaxing and watching t.v. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to enjoy my time with my boy-friend. My therapist also told me not to get stressed out this weekend,she said I do not need any extra stress right now. I will be back on the bus sometime later on,taking care of myself :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sat Oct 27, 2007 5:39 am

I had a good time with my boy-friend,we went shopping and then came home. The only problem was that the behavior that happen before to me,it happen again,only this time I pulled my hair in frustration and anxiety,my boy-friend calm me down,I feel like shit that I had picked up this behavior,my therapist feels that it is another form of SI,cause I have been doing good so far. I am not happy with myself and I am totally scared to go out anywhere in public,cause of this behavior,it happens so fast,that is what my boy-friend told me.He went home to get some sleep and I will be doing the same soon. I will be alright,just need to take care of myself right now. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I am glad that I can talk here.everyone is so great,thanks. I wil be just fine. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow.hanging in there :bcatsmile:
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Post by plantt » Sat Oct 27, 2007 5:51 am

have you found ways of reminding yourself to Not do those behaviors... put things in place that might help you notice?

e.g. maybe wear a hat? fix your hair a different way? carry something small in your hands? consciously ask yourself "where are my hands? am I upset?" at random times.... etc

I used to dig my fingers into things & chew on things.... still do at times. I found that if I knew I was likely to do such that if I had safer/less odd ways of doing so conveniently then it helped. e.g. hoodie strings are safer to chew than fingers. small toys or smooth stones are safer to dig my fingers into....

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Post by Candy » Sat Oct 27, 2007 3:05 pm

Thanks for the nice messages. I have been thinking about carrying something with me,that I can use my hands for instead of doing what I do ,and I have some good ideals,and I plan on doing so. I do get nervous and afraid when I have to go out in public whether if it will happen again. I am doing alright,just feeling tired and stress out,besides that I am going to relax and take it easy. I hope you have a great day,if anyone has anyone suggestions that will help me,please post it here. I am going to relax today and do things that are positive for me. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. Again thanks for the messages. I am going to take care of myself. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sat Oct 27, 2007 6:38 pm

I am doing alright. I took a nap,cause I was so tired out. I am going to watch t.v.,and write in my journal,earlier before I went to sleep,I was reading which relaxed me. I am feeling pretty good. I feel alot calmer now. I am hanging in there and taking it easy. My boy-friend will be over later and I am not sure what we are going to do tonight. I will be just fine. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be back on the bus later on. hanging in there :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 28, 2007 12:48 am

I am doing alright. I am taking it easy and relaxing with my boy-friend. We ordered out from Pizza Hut and then I fell alseep,cause I was tired. I wrote in my journal,before he came which helped me alot.We are sitting here watching t.v. I am going to do positive things for myself tomorrow,like do my nails and write a letter,and other things that are helping. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. NO SI either today,that is good. I will be back on the before I go to bed :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 28, 2007 5:11 am

I am doing alright. My boy-friend and I are watching a movie,and when he leaves I will be going to bed. I had a great day so far,and I did not do any SI either. I am feeling pretty good. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine and I am taking care of myself. I will keep myself busy tomorrow by doing positive things for myself. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 28, 2007 5:11 am

I am doing alright. My boy-friend and I are watching a movie,and when he leaves I will be going to bed. I had a great day so far,and I did not do any SI either. I am feeling pretty good. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine and I am taking care of myself. I will keep myself busy tomorrow by doing positive things for myself. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 28, 2007 5:11 am

I am doing alright. My boy-friend and I are watching a movie,and when he leaves I will be going to bed. I had a great day so far,and I did not do any SI either. I am feeling pretty good. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine and I am taking care of myself. I will keep myself busy tomorrow by doing positive things for myself. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 28, 2007 2:04 pm

I had a great night sleep last night. I am going to watch t.v.,for awhile,then I am going to do my nails,write in my journal and other positive things for myself. I am feeling alright,just need to relax today and take care of myself. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be just fine. I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 28, 2007 7:16 pm

I have been keeping myself busy day,I already did no nails,then I took a nap,wrote in my journal and now I am watching t.v,it helped me alot. I am waiting for my boy-friend to come over around 3:30pm,not sure what we are going to do today,but whatever we do,just as long as I am with him,I will be fine. I have not done any SI so far,that is great. I have day treatment program tomorrow,looking forward to going in. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am doing pretty good and I am feeling calmer than before. I am hanging in there. I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Sun Oct 28, 2007 9:32 pm

I am watching t.v.,with my boy-friend and we got done eating dinner,we had it from Wendy's it was good. We are going to stay in and take it easy,cause we both have day treatment program tomorrow. I am doing pretty good so far,my moods are stable and I feel more relax. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be back on later :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Mon Oct 29, 2007 2:24 am

I am taking it easy with my boy-friend,we are just watching t.v.,and relaxing. I am doing alright and feeling pretty good. I have not done any SI today,and that is great. I have day treatment program tomorrow,and I am looking forward to going. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am hanging in there. I will be back on the bus before I go to bed. taking care of myself :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Mon Oct 29, 2007 5:02 am

I had a great night with my boy-friend. He just left to go home and get some sleep,and I will be doing the samething. I did not do any SI today at all,and that is great. I have day treatment program tomorrow and I have to meet with my therapist,which I have alot to talk to her about. I am glad that I am going in,cause I need to get out of the apartment. I am doing alright and feeling pretty good. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am hanging in there. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow when I get home.taking care of myself :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

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Post by Candy » Mon Oct 29, 2007 12:44 pm

I had a great night sleep. I am getting ready for day treatment program,and I am looking forward to it.It is very cold outside,I am not ready for this type of weather. I am going to enjoy my day and I also have to meet with my therapist as well. I just wanted to say HI :wavey: to everyone. I am doing just fine. I will be back on the bus when I get home later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by one out of none » Mon Oct 29, 2007 8:15 pm

Hi Candy, I hope you have a good day. Also that the meeting with your therapist goes well and things are ok with you. Take care.

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Post by Candy » Mon Oct 29, 2007 8:45 pm

Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me. I had better days than today,cause I was soo depressed and I was crying,cause of the new self-destructive behavior that I started doing,and when I talk to my therapist,it is like that she was not helping me either, I just felt alone,and scared. I hate this illness of mine and myself for having it,sorry for writing that,it is how I feel. I am going to lay down and take it easy. My boy-friend will be over later. I just feel so alone and all I want to do is cry. :cry: I wil be alright. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. Sorry for going on like this,just venting. I will be just fine. I will be back on the bus later. :bcatsmile:
I am in a dark place like a turtle afraid to deal with the pain that I do not want to feel,but eventually I will slowly face my pain,like the turtle when he comes out of his shell.

To find yourself,think of yourself first.

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