A coping survey for yourself

[Maeve]

Name: Maeve
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Perhaps reduce a little
If so what is your motivation: Fear of people at work finding out, strain on relationships
Favorite coping skills: Painting, reading, knitting
Coping skills that work the least: Snapping rubber bands, drawing on self
Safe places you can go: None at the moment
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): General stress at work, current biggest stressor is my relationship with my bf as it seems that it might be ending
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: I sometimes bring my knitting to work and that's a good distraction, otherwise I'll read or play games on the internet
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Calling hotlines
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: Perhaps turning off the light and actually trying to get to sleep rather than convincing myself that I'd never be able to get to sleep
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): Rejection/abandonment, doing something wrong (or something I percieve as wrong)
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Augie, Bethany, and hotlines

[Quiet little Angel]

Name: May

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI:
yeah... and i have been free for 157 days...

If so what is your motivation:
getting a more normal life and learning to cope in a healthy way...

Favorite coping skills:
snapping a rubber band on my arm...

Coping skills that work the least:
will-power and warm baths...

Safe places you can go:
the pool... Bus...

Identify stressors (be specific as poss):
my dad and his temper... feeling guilty over his being angry even when it has nothing to do with me...

If at school/work name good coping skills to use:
breathing...

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general):
if at home... leave my dad when he gets angry... distractions as books and music... in public... go to bathroom... breathe slowly to regain control... leave triggering places...

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free:
157 days... or 5 months and 1 week...

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss):
my dad... people being unfriendly... anxiety... stress... paranoia... food...

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one):
H... that's all...

[sonumb]

Name: Liz
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Wanting to stop

If so what is your motivation: being "normal", able to swim and tank-tops

Favorite coping skills: running (can't now tho beacuse of stuff), talking

Coping skills that work the least: wearing myself out, I just get more tired and upset

Safe places you can go: a coffee house that I haunt, sometimes my best friend's house

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): worried about money for college and making my parents happy

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: no clue

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general) : I... don't think I haves one.

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: a few hours

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: I could have gotten out of the house, and called my friend and told her that I needed her now.

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): when my dad is angry and talks to me angerly, when I'm really tired and the stress just builds.

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Katie

[moreadventurous]

Name: Megan

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: <i>Trying</i> to stop...

If so what is your motivation: To find out how to feel emotions and deal with them more effectively.

Favorite coping skills: Not sure I have established any effective ones :X

Coping skills that work the least: Drinking, drugging, general recklessness .

Safe places you can go: A few friend's houses

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): grad school, being around family

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Still working on it

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Still working on that too.

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 5 days

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: Should have just let someone help me by talking to them about it.

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): family, not feeling things... anything stressful or really emotional

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): none really :/

[kittyfever]

Name: Ally
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Trying to recover
If so what is your motivation: My boyfriend and being better
Favorite coping skills: Internet, writing, sleeping--I like to drift..
Coping skills that work the least: The many "fake pain" strategies
Safe places you can go: My room (sometimes), boyfriend's house..maybe my aunts
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): My mom, school, past memories
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Reminding myself that I'm there to be a better prsn and SI doesn't fit in
What is your current safety plan (for work/shool/general): Don't know..I would probably just leave if I ever felt that sick..
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 7 months and 2 days
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): Mom, homework, memories, social situations, pretty ppl, being shunned/ignored
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): It's just my bf..he's all I've got. Otherwise I talk to stuffed animals.

[vampirelover]

Name: vampirelover (Jos)
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes its been three months
If so what is your motivation: I dont want to hurt people who care about me anymore and i have enough scars i dont want anymore.
Favorite coping skills: elastic bands , ice cubes and talking
Coping skills that work the least: red pen
Safe places you can go: my bed
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): when im angry at people and when i think about my past
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: elastic bands and talking to my friends/teachers
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): I try and avoid being alone and if i get to stressed during class I go for walk round the school and have a breather.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 3 months ish
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): anger and lonelyness
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Celine and Pip
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[sad2live]

Name: Danielle
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes
If so what is your motivation: I want to take care of my self and become an effective person
Favorite coping skills: DBT skills
Coping skills that work the least: meditation
Safe places you can go: Holly's
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): family and job
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: keeping busy
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): calling my therapist if I feel overwhelmed with suicidal thoughts
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 12 hours
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: don't know
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): family (mother) and work (boss)
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Holly, Tammy, Billy, Carmen

[PassingCloud]

Name: Clouds
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: reduce.
If so what is your motivation: unfortunately... my gf. i wish *i* was my motivation. but i'm just no there yet.
Favorite coping skills: throwing a ball against the wall
Coping skills that work the least: rubber bands
Safe places you can go: underneath the kitchen table
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): the current situation at the hospital. the situation at home. not knowing about work.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: play with my soft spikey ball
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): breathing exercises
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: i am. si free for ... uhm three days.
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: talke to the nurses IP.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): flashbacks, stress (any kind atm), emotional turmoil. (sorry that's as specific as i can get atm)
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): mia.

[vampirelover]

Name: vampirelover
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: either would be good
If so what is your motivation: to stop hurting my friends
Favorite coping skills: talking or elastic bands
Coping skills that work the least: red pen
Safe places you can go: my room
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): parents, abuser, bullies, i think i deserve it.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: talking
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general):
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: er a few hours
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: yes
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): life in genral
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one: perry

[treasure]

Name: treasure
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: trying to reduce? i've managed to stop for a while and i will probably be disappointed if i si again. i'm hoping i can avoid si for as long as possible.
If so what is your motivation: to be able to wear short sleeves, to not feel quite so messed up
Favorite coping skills: realising feelings are for a reason and that the situation will not be changed by si.
playing music
coming on bus or on the internet generally
writing things out
Coping skills that work the least:
Safe places you can go: if i'm at home, it helps to go to bed just for a little while. or to sit in the corner.
if i'm in town i can sit in the city park, or go to the library
if i'm at uni, well i sometimes feel safer in the toilets otherwise the computer lab
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): expecting too much of myself
sad feelings i can't control, sometimes triggered by tv, movies etc
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: controlling my breathing
walking
What is your current safety plan (for work/school/general): i have a list of coping stuff on my computer so if i can't think of what to do i can look at that. but generally i don't have a plan for dealing with urges cos i think it will be different each time.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: about 6 weeks
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): my sister, or L

[Beasty]

Name: Silver
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: trying not to relapse, actually
If so what is your motivation: a friend
Favorite coping skills: umm....chocolate
Coping skills that work the least: not sure
Safe places you can go: as it is in my mind...none
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): everything is random.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: writing, ummm, i dont know
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): i dont have one, usually i can deal
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: ummm 6 months though with a slip yesterday
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: n/a
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): random
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Just one. but they aren't usually around



god my answers stink.

[sonumb]

Name: Elizabeth

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: stop

If so what is your motivation: to be strong without the help of self abuse

Favorite coping skills: tv...

Coping skills that work the least: ignoring it

Safe places you can go: homers. or coffee.

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): being sick, feeling like I can't make dad happy

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: getting outside.

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general) : I don't have one

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 4 hours

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: I make myself talk to someone, get someone on the phone

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): feeling like I'm not good enough for people. Feeling fat.

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): josh. alex. katie.

if anyone can help me please pm me.

[Chaocontrol6]

Name: Jason
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Yes
If so what is your motivation: Making a promise to parents.
Favorite coping skills: At the moment, writing angrily about my emotions. Tires me out then.
Coping skills that work the least: The ice cube trick, can't move my hand afterwards
Safe places you can go: An abandoned place near the local church
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): When people start taking the piss, when I get homework back in class and it isn't what I wanted, also when I don't feel supported by the teachers even though I put in 100% effort
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: just writing angrily again about wanting to kill the person that's taking the piss out of me.
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Just having no knife near me at all, stops me from SI-ing so easily.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: This is my 6th day.
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): Feeling like I've failed a friend, feeling like I could've done more to help out others.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): David, Rebecca, My sister, Miles

[lat65]

Name: Dayne
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Not really
If so what is your motivation:
Favorite coping skills: taking a bath, running really hard
Coping skills that work the least: breathing exercises, being alone
Safe places you can go: Not sure yet
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): failure, dwelling on past regrets, any reminders of failure, loss of independence. it's a way to gain some sense of control
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: not sure yet
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): take a xanax
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free:
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: I don't know. Should have called a friend.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): reminders of failure. right now it almost feels like everything is a trigger, since my life is turned completely upside down
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Gabe, Alla - but they're all literally thousands of miles away.

[pelagic]

Name: Pelagic

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Yes

If so, what is your motivation: Pride, to be proud of myself for achieving what I once thought was the Impossible

Favorite coping skills: Reading, listening to music, going on BUS, DVDs, any form of distracting

Coping skills that work the least: emergency boxes

Safe places you can go: long long long walks

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): Anger/frustration, feeling helpless, feeling insignificant, feelings of loneliness.

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Listen to music (headphones), doodling, daydreaming, asking a friend for a hug.

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Excuse myself to the washroom, wash my hands with cold water, shut my eyes and try to calm myself down, telling myself that this hard moment will pass.

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: eleven days

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: n/a

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): seeing something bleeding, usually medical shows. Remembering what SI feels like, seeing other's scars, admiration of my own scars.

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): I feel so ridiculous for not having anyone...

[steady hands]

Name: gretchen.

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: reduce, I guess. although stopping soon.

If so what is your motivation: I want to get better. or at least better than I was.

Favorite coping skills: going for a walk, smoking, sleeping.

Coping skills that work the least: rubber band. drawing lines.

Safe places you can go: for a walk. pretty much anywhere but home.

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): family (arguing). homework, general things i'm supposed to do. bad thoughts.

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: focus on something else. get distracted by something.

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): find something else to do. If I can, go for a walk, if not, stay around other people.

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: thirty something days.

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: gotten into a safer situation instead of stepping into the unsafe one.

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): bad thoughts. stress. being generally upset.

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): c & b, michelle, sk (maybe).

[amylynn_]

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: stop.
If so what is your motivation: I need to stop. I can't keep doing it anymore.
Favorite coping skills: sleeping, crying, listening to music, talking to the two people that actually know/understand this.
Coping skills that work the least: apologizing, criticizing myself, blaming myself.
Safe places you can go: my bedroom, my boyfriend's house.
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): stressful situations, lots of alone time
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: breathing slowly, writing letters.
What is your current safety plan (for work/shool/general): writing letters to the friends that know, drinking water.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: three days. will be longer. i start therapy tomorrow.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): stressful/upsetting situations, mirrors after confrontation.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): my boyfriend & best friend.

[mikedemons]

Name: mike
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI:i have reduced and am working on stopping
If so what is your motivation: its become to consumeing
Favorite coping skills: drawing on myself w/ red markers and writeing
Coping skills that work the least: talking to anyone in person
Safe places you can go: grab my favort hoodie and jump into my bed
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): feeling alone or like i dont count for anything being hard on myself
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: get more conumed w/ work and if its slow then so smoke a cig
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): i have a list of 6 tasks that i have to all of witch aim on pointing out the positve sides of myself and that consume as much time as possable and if all else fails nothign beats wrapping myself up in my favort hoodie and blanket in my bed
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: this day 6 now
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: the last time i si'd lost confindence in myself and was being very hard on myself so i started to take away the pressure and be nicer to myself
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): self-pressure, self- hate, anger, feeling numb, when i feel alone, lost, hurt, i'm sure i'll find more
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): i got two good freinds i trust enfoe to talk to when i am upset

[butterflygirl348]

Name: KB
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Stopped officially in 4/07
If so what is your motivation: to be healthy
Favorite coping skills: friends
Coping skills that work the least: mindfulness
Safe places you can go: friend's house
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): work, family, myself
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: deep breathing
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): calling friends
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 7 months w/ one SUish slip
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: called someone
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): work, family, myself, TV, books, etc
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): any of my friends

[lily_trying]

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Yes, Somewhere between trying to not relapse/trying to stop.

If so what is your motivation: Not wanting to go back to where I was before, physical/health reasons, doing it for others (& hopefully doing it for myself eventually).

Favorite coping skills: Distractions like the internet, films, etc ... Writing... talking to others... visualization.

Coping skills that work the least: Most of the usual relaxation type of exercises, also things that are similar to self-harm.

Safe places you can go: Somewhere that I'm around others when possible.

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): Health issues, money/work issues, certain memories/flashbacks, past destructive relationships... also low self-esteem/self-worth/lack of coping skills etc etc.

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): In need of a new one, the usual old one I had going isn't working anymore...

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: Not get as tired/sleep deprived as I was, not get as unaware of my feelings as I was. Contacted someone or distracted.

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): Feeling alone/lonely, feeling guilty for no real reason, some flashbacks/memories, feeling like a burden or unable to take care of myself, having problems with physical pain, being disappointed/let down in myself or others, all of the same stuff listed in stressors.

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Not sure I really have any at the moment, need to work on this one...