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tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Post by Spidey » Sat Jun 30, 2007 1:18 am

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it's been tough for me, also. glad to hear that you're coping well.

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Post by Candy » Sat Jun 30, 2007 1:46 pm

:wavey: Thanks for the nice messages. I had a great night sleep and I did not do any SI,which I am proud of myself for. I have to go to my mother's to pick up some stuff,and then I am going to come back home,do some cleaning and do other things that I need to do. I will be writing in my journal sometime today. I feel alright,just getting use to this new medication my doctor put me on,I only take it when I go to bed. I am going to enjoy my day and do pleasant things for myself. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I am hanging in there. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by JadaKiss » Sat Jun 30, 2007 5:23 pm

I haven't heard of NOS, was that what you were saying you were diagnosed with? SORRY, it was hard to follow; I haven't finished my morning coffee and it's been a stressful day.

When you first start taking meds, especially if you're on some already, they make you tired... trust me, I'm tired all the time; that's probably why I don't get much accomplished.

I am very proud (I know, I say it all the time) but you need to hear this from people, proud that you're working through not self injuring. Candy, that is so wonderful. But remember, sometimes we slip so it's ok.... you're not "less" for ever doing that. You're just normal in recovering from all of this.

I'm glad to see it seems you've been more busy lately and surrounding yourself with more people. I hope you have a great, great GREAT weekend, and put on a sile... RIGHT NOW... just for me... fake it if you have to, but I want to know you've smiled.

Love ya!!!! :wink:
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Post by Candy » Sat Jun 30, 2007 8:05 pm

Thanks for a wonderful messages,that was very nice. I washed my floors,cooked myself some nice dinner,and all I have to do is write in my journal,my therapist wants me to do it everyday,and I agree with her,it is hard sometimes. You are a wonderful person and a caring person;plus I am glad that I met you. I took a nap for awhile cause I was tired out. I am not sure what my diagnosis means either,but when I find out from my therapist Monday,I will post it here,cause I do not understand it either. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I am probably going to relax for awhile and then write in my journal,before my boy-friend gets here. I hope you have a wonderful weekend as well,and smile as well. OK. I am feeling alright. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sat Jun 30, 2007 11:44 pm

I am doing just fine. My boy-friend is here and we are watching t.v.,and relaxing. We might go out tonight to visit some friends and I will not be home till real late,not sure what time I will be home,but I know that it will be late. I wrote in my journal and it helped me alot to get out my feelings. I am feeling alright,just feeling restlessness,not sure why,but I will be ok. It has been hard not doing any SI,and the thoughts are there,but I try to focus my thoughts on other things,but sometimes it just wonders back to SI,it is hard to stay focus on other things,but I keep trying. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I hope everyone is having a great weekend.If I am not on the bus later on,I will be back on it sometime tomorrow. I hanging in there and I am going to have a great night.I will take care of myself everyday. Be back on the bus tomorrow. :bcatsmile:
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Post by plantt » Sun Jul 01, 2007 4:53 am

NOS means "not otherwise specified".... basically it means there's Some personality thing going on... yet not enough of the req's for any specific disorders to be anything set....

glad you were able to write in your journal :)

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Post by JadaKiss » Sun Jul 01, 2007 12:52 pm

plantt wrote:NOS means "not otherwise specified".... basically it means there's Some personality thing going on... yet not enough of the req's for any specific disorders to be anything set....

glad you were able to write in your journal :)

AHHH... that makes sense now. My son has AD/HD combined type with a sub diagnosis of ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and Anxiety (nos) on his paperwork. Through therapy they will determine the kind of anxiety, or if he, too, has PTSD; as he was old enough to witness and feel what we were going through at the time of my marriage/divorce/and on. Thanks!
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Post by Candy » Sun Jul 01, 2007 3:24 pm

Thanks for the nice messages that you sent me,and thanks for giving me a clear ideal about my new diagnosis,that helped me alot more to understand it. I am watching t.v and taking it easy. We had a great time at our friends apartment last night,and we got home late. I am tired still and having my monthly does not help at all,but I am taking it easy. I will probably lay down for awhile and take it easy,cause the cramps are bothering me.I am glad that you all our doing alright. I feel pretty good today,just tired out. I will write in my journal later on and do things that are positive for me. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I have not done any SI so far,and that feels pretty good. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:08 pm

I took a long nap,cause I was soo tired out. I am watching t.v.,and relaxing till I make dinner,and I am going to write in my journal afterwards.I feel pretty good,just have bad cramps and tired from it. My boy-friend will be over later on,we are probably going to stay home tonight and take it easy,cause we had a late night last night,and we have to go to day treatment program tomorrow,but we have off Wed.,for the 4 of the July,so I am not sure what my boy-friend and I are going to be doing over the hoilday. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by plantt » Sun Jul 01, 2007 7:27 pm

what did you make for dinner?

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Post by Candy » Sun Jul 01, 2007 8:54 pm

I had a frozen pizza for dinner,cause I did not feel like cooking,cause of the cramps that I am having,then I did the dishes. I also wrote in my journal and that helped me alot. I am watching t.v., and waiting for my boy-friend to come over,not sure what we are doing tonight. I have not done any SI so far,and I feel good about that. It is nice outside,not to hot or cold just right.The more I write in my journal,the more I want to write. I am going to have a good night with my boy-friend and enjoy myself. I wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am doing pretty good so far. I will be back on the bus later on. :star:
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Post by plantt » Mon Jul 02, 2007 3:13 am

writing can be a really good thing =)
pizza is good :D

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Post by Candy » Mon Jul 02, 2007 4:45 am

Thanks for the nice messages,that was cute. My boy-friend and I watched t.v.,and took it easy. He went home to get some sleep,cause he was tired. I have to take my medication before I go to bed,cause I also have to get some sleep,cause I have day treatment program tomorrow,and I need to get some sleep. I have program tomorrow and Thursday,and I am off Wed,due to the holiday. I am feeling pretty good,and the cramps are not that bad. I have not done any SI today and I am proud of myself for that.It felt good to get back in writing in my journal and it helps so much. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be back on the bus tomorrow evening,cause for one my power will be out,due to the fact the men will be working on it and Tuesday as well,but I will be back on the bus when it comes back on,pain to lose it,but it happens. I will watch t.v.,for awhile and then go to bed. I hope everyone is doing alright. I am doing alright. I will be back on tomorrow evening. Have a great night :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Mon Jul 02, 2007 11:39 pm

I had a great day at program,and when I got home I took a nap,cause I was tired out. I just woke up and now my boy-friend is here. I am doing pretty good. I am feeling relax. My boy-friend and I are going to watch t.v.,and take it easy. I did not do any SI last night,it was hard,but I got through the night alright.I am off till Wed.,from program,cause of the holiday which is the 4 of the July,so I go back in just on Thursday. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I am going to relax and watch t.v. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Tue Jul 03, 2007 4:26 am

I had a great night so far,my boy-friend just left to go home and get some sleep. I did not get a chance to write in my journal tonight,and I feel bad about it,cause I am suppose to be using my coping skills more,and I am not,it was not that I did not want to,we were watching a good movie and time passed by.I did not do any SI so far tonight and I am proud of myself for that. I am watching t.v.,for awhile and then I am going to bed. I am not sure when I will be back on the bus tomorrow,cause they will be turning off my power tomorrow,and I hope it is the last day for it,it gets to me afterwards. I just have to take my medicaton before I go to bed. I am feeling pretty good,just anxious tonight and I do not know why,but I will be ok. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am hanging in there,trying to relax myself right now. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Tue Jul 03, 2007 2:55 pm

I have been busy cleaning my apartment this morning,and I have most of it done. I got a good night sleep last night,without doing any SI,which is not easy for me. I still have more cleaning to do,and then my nurse is coming over to do my medication. I feel pretty good,just that my thoughts are racing and I am trying to keep my mind focus on one thing,but it is not easy right now. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to take care of myself today,and do positive things for myself, I deserve that. :star: I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by plantt » Tue Jul 03, 2007 4:04 pm

what all did you clean?

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Post by Candy » Tue Jul 03, 2007 6:06 pm

I am doing pretty good. I cleaned my living room,my bathroom and my bedroom. Then I took a nap for awhile and my nurse came over to do my medication. I am writing in my journal and I am still working on that. I am doing alright and the day is going good so far. I am going to enjoy the hoilday tomorrow,not sure what my boy-friend and I are going to do,but I will find out later. I have a slight headache,but it is not that bad. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing.I will watch t.v.,for awhile and finish my journal. I will be back on later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Tue Jul 03, 2007 11:18 pm

I had a good evening so far, I had a t.v dinner to eat,cause I did not feel like cooking. I took a nap for awhile and then I did dishes,now I am sitting here with my boy-friend and we are watching t.v., I am not sure if we are going out later or not,but if we do,I will not be back on till tomorrow.I am doing alright and I am feeling pretty good so far. I feel somewhat anxious,but it is not to bad. I have not done any SI so far,and I feel good about that. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I hope everyone has a great evening tonight,if I am not back on it tonight. I am going to visit with my boy-friend and see what we are doing later. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be back on the bus later on sometime :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Wed Jul 04, 2007 5:38 am

I just wanted to say that I had a great time tonight visiting my friends. My boy-friend just left to get some sleep and I will be going to bed real soon as well. I just have to take my medication before I go to bed. I hope everyone has a great day tomorrow. Have a great 4 of the July!!!! I am doing alright and I did not do any SI tonight either. I will be back on the bus tomorrow sometime. :bcatsmile:
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