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Post by JadaKiss » Sat Jun 02, 2007 5:03 am

Good night, and may your dreams be filled with the joy of better days to come. You'll get there... you've already begun the journey. As for the advice on the journal... :lol: maybe write there first and then come to BUS, just to make sure you get it done, lol... not that we don't want to hear from you, but it's great therapy to journal... it's excellent.
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Post by Candy » Sat Jun 02, 2007 3:56 pm

I went to visit my mother for awhile and then I came home and I am doing some cleaning around the apartment. Thanks for the advice about writing in my journal,I am going to try it,thanks again. I have some more cleaning to do and then I am going to lay down for awhile,then write in my journal.I was soo close to do SI,again,that it took alot out of me to fight the urges,but I made it,this happen last night. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to enjoy my day and make the best out of it,my friends are still not talking to me,but there is nothing I can do about it.I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by JadaKiss » Sat Jun 02, 2007 7:33 pm

Candy wrote:I was soo close to do SI,again,that it took alot out of me to fight the urges,but I made it,this happen last night.

I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am going to enjoy my day and make the best out of it :bcatsmile:
Candy... you are my Hero for today. I am immensely proud of you for FIGHTING those urges.... GOD they can be fierce to fight off, and for you to just say, DANGIT I'm going to have a darn good day and just make the best out of whatever happens is SO AWESOME?!?! OOOoooo I just wanna HUG you for being so brave!!!!! :BIG:
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Post by Candy » Sat Jun 02, 2007 9:23 pm

I wanted to say thank-you for the nice messages,it made my day. I took a nap,due to the fact that it is sooo hot outside,I made dinner and then I finished cleaning my apartment. Sorry I did not write in my journal,but it is soo hot right now,I wanted to get more things done here,so I will have more time for tomorrow,to do my nails and write. I am proud of myself for fighting the urges as well. If you want,you could PM me and I could give you my e-mail address,and you can write to me,plus I am on yahoo instant messagers,if you want to,that is up to you,I would not get mad if you do not feel comfortable. I am going to relax till my boy-friend gets and stay cool. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. have a nice day everyone. I am also looking for some colorig pictures,so if anyone knows of a website,please let me know. I will be back on the bus later on :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sat Jun 02, 2007 11:57 pm

I am just relaxing and watching t.v.,with my boy-friend and we are going out later to visit a friend,so I will probably not be on the bus till tomorrow. I plan on doing my nails tomorrow and writing in my journal,cause we are going to be out late tonight and the time we get home,I will be going to bed. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I still have the urges to do SI,but I keep fighting them,and that is why I was wondering if anyone knows of good website where there is coloring pages,cause that helps me to relax and focus my mind,thoughts somewhere else. I will be alright and I will take care of myself as well. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I just keep fighting the urges and somedays are not that easy to fight,but I keep trying. I hope everyone has a great evening,cause I will. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow. I will be good to myself,that is a promise :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Sun Jun 03, 2007 2:56 pm

I had a great time last night,we did not get home till 1:30pm,but I had alot of fun. I am going to do my nails in a few minutes and then I am going to write in my journal. One of my friends will talk to me when I call her,but she does not call me,that is one of my friends that I have problems with,I am trying to not let it bother me,but it does,but I figure they also need to make a move as well,with this friendship.I am going to enjoy my day and keep myself busy,and not let them let to me. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am doing alright. I will be back on the bus later on,no SI last night,that is great. :bcatsmile:
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Post by JadaKiss » Sun Jun 03, 2007 8:00 pm

I would be happy to PM you and chat via Yahoo messenger.... that's cool, I'm just usually not on messengers anymore.

I was just going to tell you thank you. There's something about you that I feel really connected to, and today I needed some peace, and you've made me feel that. I'm not sure how or why, but I came here and I feel the solace I needed..... thank you. :-)
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Post by Candy » Sun Jun 03, 2007 10:00 pm

Thank you for the nice messages that you sent me. I am going to PM you with my address so you can write me. I am doing alright so far,I got my nails done which made me feel great and relaxed me. I took a nap and when I woke up,my boy-friend should up and we went out for dinner at Sunny's,so I planned on writing in my journal and I did not get a chance to do so,I feel bad about it,but I am going to put my journal out where I can see it,so I will not forget. I am doing alright and have not done any SI today,which is pretty good. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I have program tomorrow and I am looking forward it.Enjoying my day. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Mon Jun 04, 2007 4:04 am

I am doing alright,I had a small panic attack earlier,but it passed by me by doing deep breathing and it helped alot.My boy-friend just left and I am going to go to bed real soon,I am tired out. I did not get to write in my journal today,but I have it out so I can write in it tomorrow. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can.I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I did not do any SI today and it was not easy,but I am taking it one day at a time. I will be going to bed real soon,cause I am tired and I will be back on the bus tomorrow when I get home from program,mainly in the evening time. I will take care of myself tonight.Have a great night everyone and I will do the same. :bcatsmile:
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Post by JadaKiss » Mon Jun 04, 2007 4:07 am

Candy wrote:I am doing alright,I had a small panic attack earlier,but it passed by me doing deep breathing and it helped alot.


I will take care of myself tonight.Have a great night everyone and I will do the same. :bcatsmile:

Well slap me silly, girl, that sounds like the best affirmation in the world of self injury. "I WILL TAKE CARE OF MYSELF TONIGHT!" DAMN! I love it... you keep doing this moment to moment and thinking that...b/c you know what it means? That you care about yourself to admit that you're doing what you can to make yourself get through. Again, you lift me up, Candy....take care and sweet dreams. :angelic: :heart:
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Post by Candy » Mon Jun 04, 2007 4:11 am

I am glad that you helped me to point out that I wrote a affirmation,cause I did not have any ideal that I wrote it. Thanks so much for that. I hope you have a great night as well. Again thanks for the nice messages that you sent me. I will be back on the bus tomorrow evening. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Mon Jun 04, 2007 7:54 pm

I just got home from program and I had a great time,I had a good talk with my therapist and that helped me alot. I still have not talked to me friends that I got into a fight with,and I am wondering if they are friends at all. I am going to lay down for awhile and take a nap.My boy-friend will be over later,and I plan on writing in my journal when I get up. I am doing alright. I am hanging in there and I am doing the best I can. I have not done any SI so far,and that is pretty good. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by JadaKiss » Tue Jun 05, 2007 1:13 am

Can't wait! Also, don't let the pressure of HAVING to write in your journal get to you... you've got enough to deal with. If you get to it you do, if you don't.... there's always another day. :-)
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Post by Candy » Tue Jun 05, 2007 4:55 am

I am doing alright,just feeling anxious right now,and I am trying to calm myself down. My boy-friend and I went to visit some friends and we had a great time. Then all of a sudden the anxiety just overwhelmed me for no reason and I can not put a finger on what is causing it,just the fact that I lost a good friend,that was not a friend to me,but it does hurt alot,but I am coping with it the best I can. My boy-friend went home cause he is tired and I am trying to relax so I can get some sleep. I have not done any SI and it has not been easy for me,with all the things that are going on with me. I did write in my journal today and while I was writing in it,I was starting to feel anxious,cause I was writing about uncomfortable feelings and emotions that were bothering me,but I am proud of myself for writing in it. :star: I am going to relax and take my medication,then I am going to go to bed. I have cleaning to do tomorrow and my nurse is coming over to do my medication. I am hanging in there and I am doing the best I can. I will be alright.promise myself that. I am looking for coloring pictures website that I can print off and color,that helps me to relax,if anyone knows of any,could you please let me know.Thanks. I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow.Thanks for the nice messages you sent me,that helped me alot.I am getting tired and I will be going to bed real soon. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Tue Jun 05, 2007 10:05 pm

I kept myself busy today. I cleaned my apartment,which needed it,then my nurse came over and did my medication,then I took a nap. I really did not do that much that I wanted to,I just took it easy and relax,I did not write in my journal today,but that is ok,cause there is always tomorrow.Thanks for the flowers that you sent me,they made me day. I am doing alright,just not feeling myself,I am not sick or anything,just a mood that I am in,but I will be alright.I am going to relax and take it easy till my boy-friend gets here.I have not done any SI today that is pretty good,and I feel proud of myseld for that. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be back on the bus later on.
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Post by Candy » Wed Jun 06, 2007 1:53 am

I am doing alright. My boy-friend and I went out shopping at Walmart and we had a great time. I am going to relax tonight and take it easy,we are sitting here watching t.v.,and talking. I have not done any SI so far and that is pretty good. I have program tomorrow and I hope the friends that are not speaking to me,do not give me any trouble tomorrow,but I am not going to let them get to me either. I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Wed Jun 06, 2007 4:56 am

I had a great evening with my boy-friend and he just left to go home and get some sleep. I am getting tired myself and I will be going to bed real soon. I am doing alright and I am feeling pretty good tonight. I am watching t.v.,and relaxing. I have not done any SI today and I feel pretty good about it. I have program tomorrow and I am looking forward to going there;plus I will not let anyone get to me either.I am going to try hard to write in my journal tomorrow when I get home from program,that is a goal for me.I just wanted to let everyone know how I am doing. I will be going to bed real soon,and I will be back on the bus sometime tomorrow in the evening. I am taking care of myself. :bcatsmile:
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Post by Candy » Wed Jun 06, 2007 1:07 pm

I am getting ready to go to program and I am looking forward to it. I hope the friends that are not talking to me,do not bother me,but I am not going to let it get to me,cause I do not need to have any panic attacks over this which I had one so far over this.I am going to enjoy my day and relax. I did not do any SI last night after I got off the bus.Which was not easy for me,cause the nights are hard for me. I am hanging in there and doing the best I can. I will be back on the bus later on. :bcatsmile:
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Post by JadaKiss » Wed Jun 06, 2007 1:52 pm

Good luck at program today, hun.... Do the best you can, and no matter what happens you can get through it... I know you can. Just come home and relax and wait for your boyfriend to get there... I sense he helps you calm down a bit? :)
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