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do your parents know about you SI??

Yes , by accident
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43%
No, i hope they never do
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43%
No,but i want to tell them
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2%
Yes I told them
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11%
 
Total votes: 122

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Post by SplinteredGirl » Thu May 24, 2007 11:12 pm

i know when my parents found out it was hell. had to go to counceling and all that crap .. but i was so far into it i didnt want to stop.. or even considered it an option.. i guess im just wondering if the teens or maybe even the adults have parent who know or they want them to know

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Post by dncn4lyfe77 » Fri May 25, 2007 1:19 am

my friend called my mom and told her. Its good she did, though i was mad at her for quite some time.

It got me to withdrawl from school on medical leave and take care of myself
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Post by xmcrx37 » Fri May 25, 2007 1:23 am

I think my mom is starting to get suspicious. I dont know what to do.
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Post by Never Again » Fri May 25, 2007 1:39 am

when i went i/p the first time, my mom was in the emergency room with me, and i had to wear that stupid johnny/robe thing with short sleeves. she saw. i tried covering up with a sheet, but that only did so much. she didnt say anything, but her eyes filled with tears. i overheard her saying on the phone to my older brother that i had tried to kill myself. which wasnt true. at that time, anyway. regardless... i was put i/p by my tdoc for being su. but cutting does NOT = trying to kill yourself, as we all know.

we've never talked about it since. unless you count her giving me sweatshirts and such to cover up my scars if i'm over her house and she has guests. :roll:

my sister in law is the only one that actually has talked to me about it, and shown me any respect regarding my problems. she's so cool, i love her to death. funny, she's the only person irl i'm actually close to... hmm...
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Post by half/hearted » Fri May 25, 2007 1:55 am

I voted "Yes, by accident" since there was no "I told them voluntarily" option. I told my mom with the help of my T, and mom told my dad (without my permission, no less >_< ).
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Post by dncn4lyfe77 » Fri May 25, 2007 2:02 am

I hate that >< my mom did the same thing

My dad refers to my SI as "that cutting business"

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Post by blue_the_puppy » Fri May 25, 2007 3:01 am

she knows. she doesnt really talk about it. i havent cut in awhile, but it used to be one of those 500-pound gorillas in the living room - we both knew it was there, but never talked about it.

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Post by Licentia Poetica » Fri May 25, 2007 3:03 am

You might consider adding the option "Yes, I told them about it". Believe it or not there are some parents who are supportive and understanding about it.

My mother knows because well.. I couldn't really hide it anymore. I do hide anything fresh, but if she sees by accident it blows up into a huge argument.
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Post by Scatterbrain » Fri May 25, 2007 3:12 am

I didnt vote because there was no "yes, I told them" option. My parents know because I told them a couple months ago. I was hoping for support and hoping they would help me find a T to deal with this, but none of that worked out... It hasnt been an issue because we dont talk about, and I still lie and say I am fine... It was really scary to tell them, but they took it pretty well.

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Post by mushroomhead » Fri May 25, 2007 12:00 pm

Mine know.
I told them.
I would suggest adding a "I told them" option, seeing as there isnt one at the moment.
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Post by miffy » Fri May 25, 2007 12:04 pm

I thought about telling them for a bit, but i am glad i didnt. I hope i never have to talk to them about it. They dont understnad anything about me, so i doubt the'd get it.


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Post by Stripe » Fri May 25, 2007 12:23 pm

I didn't vote, but I told them
They don't know I still SI though, they think it stopped 3 months ago
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Post by amyfairy » Fri May 25, 2007 2:54 pm

yes, by accident.
it was horrible
and i still wish they never had to know

i think i hurt them :(

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Post by marshmallowfluff » Fri May 25, 2007 5:24 pm

Mine found out my accident too...
My mum read my diary. bleh.
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Post by chickenbug2 » Fri May 25, 2007 5:54 pm

mine kinda know by accident. some family members told them and i really wish they hadn't. sometimes it's kinda awkward now

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Post by daisy_chain » Fri May 25, 2007 6:27 pm

They knew, but think i stopped over a year ago.
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Post by silver_smurf » Fri May 25, 2007 9:43 pm

My parents and family don't know, and I really don't want them to know. I know my mother wouldn't understand. I'm old enough that I am completely responsible for myself, and I don't think telling my parents would in any way be benificial.

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Post by raindreamer » Sat May 26, 2007 1:21 am

i didnt answer the survey
struck me that 'know' is a weird word to use

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Post by nzgurl » Sat May 26, 2007 4:36 am

I live away from my parents now as im at university so i havent told them i just don't want to add stress thats not needed :-? It sucks tho cause now i have to watch what i say to my mum :(
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Post by Quiet little Angel » Sat May 26, 2007 9:30 am

i don't think my parents know... and i really hope they never will... i want to tell people, but not them... we don't have a normal relationship, so i don't trust them with that kind of information... i mean, when i told them i'd been seeing a T they never ever talked about it again... i even told my mom 6 months before telling my dad and she told me to not tell my dad... so kinda screwed up relationship, telling them about SI would just be way too much...
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