What makes you safe?

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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What makes you safe?

Post by whypie » Wed Apr 26, 2006 6:27 pm

What makes you feel really safe? All warm and fuzzy and like nothing could hurt you?
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Post by whypie » Wed Apr 26, 2006 6:28 pm

For me it's being with some friends, snuggled up, eating something, chatting and laughing. No tough topics to discuss, just being carefree.
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Post by Neviah » Wed Apr 26, 2006 8:21 pm

Ben.. being anywhere near Ben.

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Post by *.*Black_Star*.* » Wed Apr 26, 2006 9:22 pm

hugs from a certain someone or being with friends having fun and being carefree really.

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Post by Skyeler » Wed Apr 26, 2006 9:47 pm

my wife.


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Post by Scatterbrain » Wed Apr 26, 2006 9:51 pm

the last time I felt really safe was last weekend, watching a movie with my boyfriend. He was just holding me and it felt like nothing could hurt me. I even fell asleep on him, and I can never fall asleep anywhere besides my bed... I also feel safe when certain other people hug me or just talk with me.

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Post by barnabygirl » Thu Apr 27, 2006 8:58 am

I dont think i have ever felt safe ,,,
but i imagine that id feel safe if i knew that someone really looked after me,,, and stoped me from doing everything WRONG,,
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Post by delicateshadow » Thu Apr 27, 2006 2:26 pm

sometimes in therapy, towards the end of the session, curled up on the couch under the blanket....soft and safe and sleepy and nurtured....when I'm understood and have released lots of emotion and feeling and can relax and rest...
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Post by treasure » Thu Apr 27, 2006 2:34 pm

i don't usually feel safe when i want to, but sometimes curled up in bed with a teddy bear, i feel as insulated as i can be. :star:
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Post by angelic212 » Thu Apr 27, 2006 4:43 pm

i feel safe when: im with my mom,
and if she is not around and im home by myself i feel safe being with my doggie he likes to be carried like a baby and he falls asleep on my arms and also when im laying on my bed or on the couch watching tv or a movie, he falls asleep on my chest this is when i feel safe,

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Post by dbms » Fri Apr 28, 2006 5:01 pm

Attitude. If I manage my attitude I can keep things in perspective and enjoy a healthier approach to life and those around me.
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Post by ViolinPlayingGoat » Fri Apr 28, 2006 9:59 pm

one of my friends when he hugs me
being in the dance studio at school, it is a nice place and i feel happy there
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Post by ~bluehaze~ » Fri Apr 28, 2006 10:32 pm

I feel safe in my girlfriends arms

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Post by balletomane » Fri Apr 28, 2006 10:34 pm

being alone.

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Post by Help_Me9219 » Sat Apr 29, 2006 1:54 am

being near my boyfriend
my bother (not really just really really close frinds) when he talks to me
crying
my therapist understanding me because no one else does
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Post by OverTheWorst » Sat Apr 29, 2006 10:27 am

Being in the arms of my fiance. I know he wouldnt let anyone or anything hurt me then

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Post by Forget Me » Sat Apr 29, 2006 10:29 am

zac (boyfriend) and simon (friend)
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Post by pointeless » Sat Apr 29, 2006 1:11 pm

closest thing I think i've ever felt to being safe is when i'm around my best friend h...hanging out,eating chocolate cake or junk, watching some movie or doing a pointless bordem thing like throwing pennies in a glass jar while discussing completely random nothingness and lounging round all comfy and normal..accepted - I know she's always looked out for me..
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Post by falling... » Sun Apr 30, 2006 5:00 pm

being with my friends
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Post by Miss Scarlett » Sun Apr 30, 2006 9:38 pm

Wrapped up in a blanket watching a movie with my husband.

But only if I rent the movie. He rents terrible ones. :tongue:
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