help pls

[senga]

I know ppl have already asked this. But how do I get rid of the hurt and sad I feel if I don't self harm? Just now cutting seems the only answer, but I can't as I have 2 wonderful kids.

[BringMeToLife]

I understand.
I also have a child and I for me that seems to make it worse as you have someone that is relying on you.
there's lots of stuff around the boards on coping.

For me I use music, writing, oil/insence burning, going for walks, coming on the net and talking.

[Colimbi]

This has helped me in the past. You can replace "fear" with almost any negative feeling.

"I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death
that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain."
--- Frank Herbert, Dune - Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear

Oh, I forgot to say. I repeat this untill I feel the worst has worn of.

[morganna]

have you tried writing down how you feel? that sometimes helps me. distrafcting yourself from the pain you feel inside is the best way. try reading, exercise, playing with your children or watching a dvd. when you get an urge stop what you are doing and get out of the situation and do something different. it is hard but it is possible