I’m so confused (Help!) anyone

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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I’m so confused (Help!) anyone

Post by oneWayOneLifeOneLove » Sat Nov 12, 2005 4:33 am

This is probably really stupid but I was hoping maybe some1 could help me


I have been trying 2 stop cutting since the beginning of the school year and for a while it was going great and I lasted about a month. But than last week I ended up cutting myself and ever since I haven’t been able 2 really avoid cutting or if I do I end up being in a really bad mood and not wanting to be around people untill I SI again. And I don’t no what to like I really want to be able to avoid SI but than I also don’t to be bitchy and in a bad mood all the time
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Post by Licentia Poetica » Sun Nov 13, 2005 9:59 am

You can't just expect yourself to cut out SI from your life completely just like that. SI is a coping mechanism, you have to replace it before you can function properly without it.

I'd encourage you to find someone you can talk to and deal with the problems you cope with by cutting. Once you understand why you SI, it will be easier to combat your behaviour & the feelings you get from going without it.

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Post by oneWayOneLifeOneLove » Sun Nov 13, 2005 4:28 pm

Thanks you for helping me
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Post by toXic » Mon Nov 14, 2005 5:44 am

same advice from me... when i get in the mood to SI the thing that helps me the most is talking to someone else, whether it's in person on the phone, or even just online.

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Post by oneWayOneLifeOneLove » Wed Nov 16, 2005 4:21 am

Thank u Mike 4 helping me i will try to find some1 i can either call or talk 2 on line next time i have an urge :angel:
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Post by disastercake » Sat Nov 19, 2005 1:34 am

Don't beat yourself up for slipping. Just acknowledge that you slipped, that it might happen again, but you're not going to let it deter you from your goal. A month is really good, and when you feel like cutting, just think back to how good you felt when you weren't cutting.
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Post by Brokenwings11 » Sun Nov 20, 2005 2:39 am

Congrats on not SI-ing for a month!

A little advice from me. Right now, I haven't cut for 10 MONTHS. And it's been a mixture of good times and crappy times the whole way. You're not perfect, and no one should expect you to be perfect. I've been able to improve because 1) I got help from several people: my therapist, my psychologist, my friends and my teachers or peers; 2) I went through therapy and I'm on meds; and 3) because my friends have never let me down, and still support me. The next time you have an urge, TELL SOMEONE. I'm not sure about your home-life, etc, but tell someone. Talk to your guidance counselor at school, your friends or close relatives, or even call up one of the national teen hot-lines. It's okay if you sometimes 'fall', but remember that you can always get back up again. PM me if you ever need to talk. :bcatsmile:
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Post by oneWayOneLifeOneLove » Thu Dec 01, 2005 2:28 am

Thanks every1 for helping Talking to some body helped some what but i guess i just kind of feel bad or weird talking to other people bc than i feel like im bothering tham and boring them. But thanks again everyone it really means alot to me

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with its share of wrong ways and dead ends
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they only tell u were youve been

Hugs are always welcome :D

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