"cutting season"

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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"cutting season"

Post by theboldeditalics » Fri Oct 21, 2005 1:34 am

"Cutting season"-as it is widley referred to (in my area) is coming up. You know, winter. The months of around Nov. to Feb.


Well, as you all well know...

Winter requires long sleeves...

which makes SI sooooo much easier...


I'm extremley nervous.


I basically just want some comforting and things to calm down my nervous energy urgy mood.

and typically, the winter makes my SI suuurrrge for some reason.
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Post by treasure » Fri Oct 21, 2005 5:02 am

not much advice sorry... i find reading while wrapped up in my doona or sitting with a hot drink can help me enjoy the colder weather.
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Post by kickingmyself » Fri Oct 21, 2005 8:38 am

It's turned colder here, and my first thought was that I can wear long sleeves all the time, would be easy to SI. Got to stop thinking like this...

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Post by mallie » Fri Oct 21, 2005 12:16 pm

A while ago, notevenpretty made a thread about coping with winter, some of the ideas on there might be helpful for you.

With it being easier to hide SI, I can understand that the reasons for holding back might be reduced. Remember that spring and summer are going to follow winter, and new scars may not be something you'll appreciate then.

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Post by theboldeditalics » Sat Oct 22, 2005 12:02 am

Remember that spring and summer are going to follow winter, and new scars may not be something you'll appreciate then.
Thanks, that's sure something to keep in mind!
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Post by Blake 1 » Sat Oct 22, 2005 3:07 am

theboldeditalics wrote:
Remember that spring and summer are going to follow winter, and new scars may not be something you'll appreciate then.
Thanks, that's sure something to keep in mind!
yeah that's a good point. i need to keep that in mind.
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Post by Skyeler » Sat Oct 22, 2005 6:14 am

move to California?

It's what I did...


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Post by Jia » Tue Oct 25, 2005 7:12 pm

First snow has come here today. I also feel the winter coming (in my mind). The advice above to remember that spring and summer come again was good. It may be hard to remember, as it may seem very far away, but then, when summer comes.... Well, good advice.

Good luck on coping with winter, eveyone!! :)
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Post by disastercake » Tue Oct 25, 2005 8:58 pm

I feel the same way about winter, but since it's been colder it hasn't been so bad. I'm not sure why, but I'm not urging and telling myself I can cover it up. It's a sign for me that I'm doing well with quitting. Plus, at home I have to do dishes and roll up my sleeves. I'm a short-sleeve kind of person anyway. Also, I tell myself that I want to be able to wear cool clothes in the summer, and not have to explain how I magically got all these new scars.
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Post by t_k » Wed Oct 26, 2005 7:27 am

It's coming up to summer here... Summer is so much more cutting season for me than winter because I just get frustrated about not bieng able to show much skin...
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Post by tumultuous_mathematician » Sun Oct 30, 2005 7:26 pm

Long sleeves also mean they rub up against the wounds. Which always is annoying...after the cut. You don't much care when you're doing it.

I say do something where you know you'll have to bare some skin every day or every other day or something. Like join a gym, or take dance lessons, or go to the pool...then that will make you think twice.

It's hard, though. You could also buy shirt with sleeves that are hard to pull up, or that fit a little too tightly.

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Post by KathyG » Mon Oct 31, 2005 11:04 pm

The first time I put on long sleeves this season, I felt the memories very strong. What an urge. Even with no good reason to, I felt I wanted to. It's been two+ months, I'm not going to, but...

At least here, long sleeve weather comes in short bursts. So, I can't hide for long.

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Post by sine nomine » Tue Nov 01, 2005 1:20 am

things to remember: urges are just urges. they do not control you; you get to choose what to do with them. always remember that you can choose to try other things.

things to try:
if you've got nervous energy, exercise or dance or clean house or something along those lines. do something physical to get the energy out. side benefit: exercise helps with depression and anxiety.

make your tools harder to get to. make your have to work for it if you want to act on an urge. that gives you time to figure out what's up.

use the before & after forum to help figure out the urges.

if you're depressed, try getting a full spectrum/daylight light bulb and spend time under it every day. i know this helps some people.
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Post by theboldeditalics » Tue Nov 01, 2005 1:25 am

Thanks sine,

before and after log? don't you need special permission for that?
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Post by sine nomine » Tue Nov 01, 2005 3:27 am

you just need permission to post, and i've just added you to the group.

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Post by theboldeditalics » Tue Nov 01, 2005 3:55 am

Thanks!! :)
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Post by Skellig » Wed Nov 02, 2005 2:29 pm

Here is a magic ticket; during the winter months it will transport you to some of the hottest places on Earth; forcing you to wear short sleves! Today you are going to....... Cloncurry Composite, Australia which was 83 farenheight earlier in the day.

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Post by snorkmaiden » Wed Nov 02, 2005 3:13 pm

..or else you can borrow my lovely lilac short-sleeved tunic & go work in the old folks home instead of me for a bit.... :D

..no? damn, i wanted a holiday!

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Post by theboldeditalics » Wed Nov 02, 2005 11:44 pm

hee hee 83 is cool for me anyway.

I'm in longsleeves today and it's 79 F.


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Post by kelly_girl » Thu Nov 03, 2005 4:38 am

Dark times of the year..makes me really depressed.
We enjoy warmth because we have been cold.
We appreciate light because we have been in darkness.
By the same token, we can experience joy because we have known sadness.
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