giving someone tools?

steady hands · Post by **steady hands** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 4:46 am

I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas as to how I could do this. I know who I want to give my tools to, but don't want the person seeing them, or finding out about my SI. does anyone know how I could possibly give someone my tools, so I can't use them anymore, but making it so that they don't know what they are, or at least can't see them?

xx gretch

cipher · Post by **cipher** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 6:19 am

Hey -- I've never done this so have no useful advice...but wonder if you could duct-tape them into a box and ask whoever to look after the box, then you wouldn't need to offer an explanation (you wouldn't have to anyway, but maybe this would make it easier??). I don't know, maybe someone else has a practical suggestion...Take care though, :)

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Forget Me · Post by **Forget Me** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 11:34 am

you could wrap it in about 10 layers of duct tape and paper and plastic bags and things, and on each layer write things like "oh, come on, you said you wouldnt open it!" and "please stop now..." so that they would feel guilty and stop after a couple of layers. it'd be like a guilt-trip pass-the-parcel.

t_k · Post by **t_k** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 12:59 pm

Put then inside a bunch of cakes and cookies and things and tell the person you're on a diet and that the cookies etc are symbolic of your struggle with calories.

And then hope like hell the person doesn't eat them.

Maybe my idea isn't the best...

balletomane · Post by **balletomane** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 5:24 pm

Find someone whom you really trust and put them in a locking box if you have one.
You could make up a story about what it is and why you can't have it at home. (a gift for someone and you don't want them to find it? Something fragile?)

good luck.

Space_Man · Post by **Space_Man** » Tue Sep 27, 2005 9:29 pm

Might I ask why you want to do it this way in the first place—as opposed to simply throwing-away your tools yourself?

This sounds like a recipe for a Pandora’s Box scenario, if ever there was one!

Alone_I_Break · Post by **Alone_I_Break** » Wed Sep 28, 2005 12:54 am

Put them into a box that has a lock and dont give them the key.

plantt · Post by **plantt** » Wed Sep 28, 2005 3:04 am

Space_Man wrote:Might I ask why you want to do it this way in the first place—as opposed to simply throwing-away your tools yourself?

This sounds like a recipe for a Pandora’s Box scenario, if ever there was one!

*nods* what about wrapping them up & tossing them in a dumpster?

t_k · Post by **t_k** » Wed Sep 28, 2005 7:40 am

^^I once chucked mine in a gutter once.

2 hours later I was back there looking for them.

Maybe it's the same for them...

Space_Man · Post by **Space_Man** » Wed Sep 28, 2005 4:16 pm

Bury them; inter them in the ground and have a little “funeral”—mourn them, if need be, and then let that little “ceremony” mark a new starting point in your life…

Just a thought...

plantt · Post by **plantt** » Wed Sep 28, 2005 4:29 pm

t_k wrote:^^I once chucked mine in a gutter once.

2 hours later I was back there looking for them.

Maybe it's the same for them...

--tossing them somewhere on the ground imo it'd be quite likely they'd still be there. so toss them somewhere more difficult to get. put them inside a dumpster. ideally one in a relatively public place where you'd not be likely to climb inside to get them back out. put them in some office trash can... ideally as the office was just closing for the night. etc

près de vous · Post by **près de vous** » Wed Sep 28, 2005 5:29 pm

last year i decided to get rid of my tools, so i put them in a jar of water and then put them in the freezer. i thought this would be more helpful to me cause i could have gotten my tool back from someone, but it would take ages for the jar to defrost enough for me to get the tools out (infact they're still in my freezer. maybe you could try freezing your tools.

Tamrick · Post by **Tamrick** » Wed Sep 28, 2005 7:13 pm

You could also lock the tools in a strong unbreakable box and just give the key to a friend - then neither your friend nor you could open it. You could also just throw the key away totally - it is far easier to get rid of a key than it is to get rid of a whole box (just make sure you keep no spare keys!)

Space_Man · Post by **Space_Man** » Wed Sep 28, 2005 7:24 pm

près de vous wrote:last year i decided to get rid of my tools, so i put them in a jar of water and then put them in the freezer.

That's kind-of a neat idea...

Small · Post by **Small** » Thu Sep 29, 2005 2:23 am

thats the question you should ask first.

If you're anything like me you will try to get them back or buy new ones.

If you give your tools to a friend, would you then want to face the idea that you would want them back off them, and may be desperate when you do - Gods know how you might act then, what if you end up begging. Your friend would get suspicious and start to ask questions you may not want to answer.

If you want rid of your tools, just get rid of them, then there is no-one else involved. It avoids revealing things about yourself that you don't want to.

Also, a box without a key can be opened if you are determined enough. if you want rid, then simply get rid. I hope you last longer than I would.

steady hands · Post by **steady hands** » Fri Sep 30, 2005 12:23 am

thanks for posting. my reason for not throwing my tools away was as Small said, i'd just buy new ones, or go back and get them. although the whole freezing them in a jar was an awesome suggestion, but with my current living arrangements (a family of four that doesn't know about my SI) it'd be kinda hard to put them in a place that pretty much everyone uses. I think i'm going to put them in a film canister or a tape box for a video camera, and then wrap it in A LOT of duct tape, that way, if I do get them back, or if the person decides to open them, it'll be hard, and i'll probably give up. or by the time they're out, the urge will be over.

xx gretch

solidhairmass · Post by **solidhairmass** » Sun Oct 02, 2005 5:11 am

I just wanted to say how cool I think it is that your name is Gretchen

woot.

disastercake · Post by **disastercake** » Sun Oct 02, 2005 8:46 pm

Space_Man wrote:Bury them; inter them in the ground and have a little “funeral”—mourn them, if need be, and then let that little “ceremony” mark a new starting point in your life…

Just a thought...

That's a really good idea, I should do that. But, I kind of need mine...

smr89 · Post by **smr89** » Mon Oct 03, 2005 2:37 am

I didn't read all the replies here so sorry if any of this is repetitive. Anyway, I did this very thing. I gave my razor blades to a guy that was a close friend of mine. I didn't hide them though because at that point he already knew about my cutting. So basically I just handed them to him. He ended up throwing them in a bush near where we were standing. (I hope no animals or kids play near there!!!! Thinking back on it, that probably wasn't the best idea....) I think its good to give them to someone you trust because then you can't just go and get them. My advice would be that if you're at all ready you should talk to them about it. It helped me a lot to have other people that knew and held me accountable for it. It actually got better once I started talking about it. If I hadn't had that I don't think I could have made it this long w/o si'ing (6 months)

steady hands · Post by **steady hands** » Mon Oct 03, 2005 3:46 am

solidhairmass wrote:I just wanted to say how cool I think it is that your name is Gretchen woot.

haha. that's wicked. I haven't met or talked to very many people with the same name as me.

smr89, it wasn't repetitive, and was very helpful. I'm pretty sure that I can trust the guy i'm giving my tools to, and if he figured out, or knew what they are, he probably wouldn't just chuck them somewhere.

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