A coping survey for yourself

[Forget Me]

Name: Laura
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes
If so what is your motivation: i dont even know... it just seems like something i should not do. i am better at motivation if i dont have a good reason to do something.
Favorite coping skills: i dont have any... i just come on bus and do random stuff. pretty much.
Coping skills that work the least: err..... eating?
Safe places you can go: i dont have any.
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): school, people joking about cutting, days when everything people do piss me off.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: go for a walk, otherwise known as "to the bathroom", draw and angry picture, write out song lyrics, talk to people.
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): i actually dont have one. i am not a big planner.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: i dont count, but today i broke about 1 and a half weeks really badly.
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: just resisted. i didnt even want to that badly, but i was at the train station and i had just done something really stupid... i just felt like a fool.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): me being an idiot. humiliation. even though no-one knew.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): i dont have any. i hate depending on people. i know it's stupid, but i dont think i could call someone every time i felt bad. only 2 people irl know for sure that i cut. and one has probably worked it out.

[babyflutterby]

Name:cat
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: id like to but im not rely duin much about it atm
If so what is your motivation:
Favorite coping skills:dancein, hangin out wiv gd m8s, cumin on here
Coping skills that work the least: the red pen 1, it triggers me more, the rubberband 1 it dnt hurt or feel lyk cuttin
Safe places you can go: out, anywere just out
Identify stressors (be specific as poss):my dad, hes so negtive aout me, nutins eva gd enoth 4 him, skl the fact i hav no friends
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: well i dnt cut apart from wen im out,
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general):dnt rely hav 1
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: since last night so far
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: i dno, bin out wiv m8s or sumit, i dnt rely no
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): my blood lyk if i cut my finger on sumit, that triggers me alot, also wen im let down, my dad trigers me, also wen i c scars
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one):no1 atm the only 2 ppl i no hu no i cut iv fallen out with

[graceless]

Name: morven

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: kina

If so what is your motivation: that I'll never give it up

Favorite coping skills: being on computer

Coping skills that work the least: talking

Safe places you can go: no where

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): my life..all the unsolved shit

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: dont no

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general):being busy

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 11 days

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: being strapped to a bed

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): my hurt, being alone, wanting to feel free

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): susan I think...thats it

[Kamikaze]

Name: Owen
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: No
If so what is your motivation: N/A
Favorite coping skills: Leaving my house
Coping skills that work the least: Talking to people
Safe places you can go: None
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): Family and a few "friends"
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Go to sleep
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Eat!
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: Just under a week
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: Go to sleep
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): Stress, family, loneliness
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): None

[LuLu]

Name: Katie
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Trying to stop
If so what is your motivation: Friends, myself
Favorite coping skills: walking outside & counting stars
Coping skills that work the least: red pens
Safe places you can go: friend's house til he leaves for Navy
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): thinking about myself, future, parents & family being insensitive about various things
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Talking to friends or thinking about a crush
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Call Doug or Angela & stay out of my bedroom
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: between 50 and 60 days
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): stress, depression, sudden bad moods, not wanting 2 be on meds anymore
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Doug & Angela; Nick as a last resort-I no longer want him 2 see me sad(which oddly has helped me be happy a lot lately)because I care about him so much

[BlueStarSkyMonkey]

Name: Jen
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yeah
If so what is your motivation: my Mom, myself, my friends
Favorite coping skills: writing poetry, posting on messageboards
Coping skills that work the least: being alone in my room
Safe places you can go: my Aunt's house, work
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): work, lack of sleep, stress
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: work hard
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): i don't know
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free:
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: Went to sleep.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): Feeling like my life is out of control (being sick for long periods of time especially)
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Woody

[-Kel-]

Name: Kelly
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes
If so what is your motivation: Being alive for the people i love, being a good role model for my little sisters. showing my parents they can ruin any more of my life. showing Kay i am everything she said.
Favorite coping skills: Kay (but i wont have her for much longer)
Coping skills that work the least: elastic band
Safe places you can go: with Kay
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): my parents, my self hate thoughts, struggling at uni.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: go find Kay
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): find or email kay, go out somewhere eg cinema. listen to music.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: this is day 1.
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: instead of pretending it wasnt happening i should have tried my ways of coping and ignored the thoughts.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): my dad, abuse as a child. self hate. death, going to hospital.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Ian (bf) Kay

[Cheez]

Name:
Chris
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI:
Yeah
If so what is your motivation:
My housemate, she's been stopped for weeks but is finding it hard when I'm still doing it.
Favorite coping skills:
coding, I can get lost in a program for hours and not think about anything else.
Coping skills that work the least:
journaling, I tend to focus on the negative stuff and that just makes me feel worse
Safe places you can go:
my bedroom, tis my little area of peace.
Identify stressors (be specific as poss):
finances, I was almost made bankrupt last year and its been a struggle ever since, high workload at work isnt helping either.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use:
browse the web, go for a walk, talking to others in the office.
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general):
I don't really have one, I share an office and have nothing with me I can hurt myself with at work, at home I just hide in my room and try and do something else.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free:
na
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:
avoided the argument I had with a friend.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss):
arguments, focusing on worries, bad self image. lots of stuff really.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one):
I have a couple of great friends, the only two I've told about my SI, they have been really helpful to talk to about stuff.

[rosie605]

Name: Stephanie
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: trying to reduce i suppose

If so what is your motivation: stopping before my husband finds out

Favorite coping skills: coloring, exercising, going for a drive

Coping skills that work the least: rubber bands

Safe places you can go: work, pamela's house

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): moving away, finding a job,

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: talking to some one on another topic

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): don't have one

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free:

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: more people aware of the problem so that i have more people to talk to

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): children who are going through the same things as I did, flashbacks of my childhood

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): pamela, kathleen

[pointeless]

Name: Suz

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Stop

If so what is your motivation:
- College (having to wear long sleeves in a boiling hot dance studio while u sweat it out is unpleasant and if any new cuts were to accidently be seen ie: show costume fittings etc: I could risk losing my place at college after already having had a suspension and a formal warning),

- Dance Career: Nobody wants a dancer with huge ugly scars, or would trust there children into the care of a dance teacher with huge scars all over them from SI (misconceptions) I'd continue to wreck and sabotage the one thing I'm living for... so I gota try and stop...

Favorite coping skills: Listening to loud bashy music and screaming along, beating pilliows, writing, drawing, colouring, dancing,

Coping skills that work the least: using a rubber band,

Safe places you can go: (I'm currently trying to find a childrens play tent to call my safe space to fill with a huge duvet and pillows and a battrey powered night light - a little childish and silly but I think it might help)

Identify stressors (be specific as poss):
Career/college pressure,
My Ocd

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: urm... not sure... could use some ideas??

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): I don't have one for college as I've only really stopped trying to SI this summer break but I really should work something out... general is distraction distraction distraction by all the favourite methods I mentioned

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 30 Days

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss):

-Recieving grades from college,
-Family gatherings - being compared to my cousins,
-Failing at a dance move - a failed piroette/period of muscle stiffness and poor flexibility/particualr movement I can't perform/ or perform aswell as I'd like,

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): There's Hannah - but I don't like to bother her with my problems she's got enough of her own... there's nobody else really...

[GlassWings]

Name: Laurel
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Not really... I guess I'm not ready yet.
If so what is your motivation: n/a
Favorite coping skills: Chewing my nails... that way I'll be less likely to really make a mark just in case.
Coping skills that work the least: rubbing my arms and legs. It makes me even more 'itchy' and numb. O___o
Safe places you can go: Erm... this forum. Keeps me busy and the computer is in the living room so I can't SI anyway
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): Feeling like I'm just looking for attention... that makes me angry with myself and frustrated that I'm so stupid about it.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: I draw ugly lines on my paper at school... that usually relieves some tension.
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Uh... I rely on my own willpower, I guess. I'm going to have to work on that...
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: It would have been eight months but I started up again yesterday. : (
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: I could have told my best friend I wasn't okay. She knows but she doesn't know I started again.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): I'm not sure, I just start feeling bad. I guess I'll have to find out.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Just my friend mentioned above.

[teacher2B]

I'm going to do this for the stupid eating disorder thing that keeps trying to run my life because si isn't as much as a problem for me any more (three slips in over 1.5 years)

Name: Brenda
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: um...yes...I think so.
If so what is your motivation: I can't help others if I'm messed up myself. I'd rather be fat than depressed (I'm not either, but sometimes it seems like that's the choice I have.) There are so many better things in life to worry about than food and weight and being perfect. My body is a gift from God and I shouldn't try to destroy it.
Favorite coping skills: destracting myself; reminding myself of my motivation; asking a friend to remind me of the truth; realizing that I stay the same weight whether I worry about it or not; running (when it doesn't turn into an obsession); reading
Coping skills that work the least: running (when I let it turn into a way to punish myself); clothes shopping (wonder why? ); surfing the 'net
Safe places you can go: the living room
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): a fight with my parents; failure of any kind; clothes shopping; feeling full; weighing myself
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: finding a friend who understands and being honest
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): accountability from friends
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: not long--it's been a rough summer, but I've been in pretty good recovery since December 28, 2003
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: for si--not had the blade in my room; for ed--forced myself to eat breakfast and lunch even though it's a saturday and no one noticed
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): fighting, tension, failure, weight, food, failure, failure, failure
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Mandy, Julie, Malinda, Beth, Mollie, Matt, Emily, Steph, Jen, Alyson--ok, so I have a lot of people who know and care

[DecemberLivy]

Name: Livy
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: My SI is not that out of control... so not really, but when I do get a bad urge to cut I try not to
if so what is your motivation: i just think of my friends, and i want to live life not float through it
Favorite coping skills: music seems to really help to calm me down, i also play sims2 or another stratergy game to take my mind off things
Coping skills that work the least: watching TV, i dont want to sit still and do nothing
Safe places you can go: my bedroom, the little livingroom, if i want i can sit alone in the garage, i do sometimes
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): when everyone is happy and i'm not i feel even more awful, when my older brother hits or kicks me
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: i doodle, loads, on the front of my book/paper/pencilcase it helps to take my mind off things. one i got really trigged in english and i spent the entire lesson after that drawing grim reepers on my english book, was quite fun actually lol
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): i just remember that urges wont last long, and in a few moments i'll be ok and i just need to breathe and resist
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: about a day or two... but i wasn't stopping because i wanted to, i just had no reason to cut, if there is, i probably will cut
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: i could have not reached for my razor, i could have slept but i didn't
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): bloody pictures always trigger me quite badly, but talking about SI doesn't strangly, i get really trigged when my brother beats me up, i nearly always cut after he does
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): david. he is the only person who wont fuss over me

[ArchyOpteryx]

Name: archyopteryx

Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: y

If so what is your motivation: not want pain to get that strong that i need to si

Favorite coping skills: read, movies, breathe!, why do i feel this way?, ME time, ask for support on bus, drugs

Coping skills that work the least: alcohol, sex, googling old girlfiriends

Safe places you can go: home, back porch

Identify stressors (be specific as poss): no me time, no me space, no me power, no me control, no me money, baby whining incessantly

If at school/work name good coping skills to use: long lunch break, bus, cartoons on internet

What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): none

If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: like 2 mos

If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: take lots of mind numbing drugs? no? um... i don't know

Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): feeling alone, stressed. um.. too general i know. um... sick, exhausted, sleepless nights, overworked, wife needy, baby needy, everybody needy, no time for me needy.

Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): bus only

[Lovesx3Requiem]

Name: Ana
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Yes
If so what is your motivation: I don't want people to see scars
Favorite coping skills: Squeezing ice, writing, 5 minute rule
Coping skills that work the least: rubber band
Safe places you can go: sadly don't have any
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): mom drinking
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: writing/rubber band
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): i don't know?
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: n/a
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: nothing
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): hearing about people cutting, when people say "oh, i've seen worse"
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): i have a couple

[Frippy]

Name: Cara
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: yes..trying.
If so what is your motivation: I guess i recognise it is not a good way of coping, bf concerned, it worries friends and family, would not go down well at work, and I'm afraid if I don't it will get worse.
Favorite coping skills: distraction, fighting with cat, calling friends/bf, bath
Coping skills that work the least:not eating
Safe places you can go: friends house, boyfriends, for a walk, ahve a bath
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): work, responsibility required at work, people dying, worrying about friends, feeling of letting people down. exhaustion.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: talking, generally too busy at work to deal
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): call bf.
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free:
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: called for help.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): crying, letting people down. Bad news.
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): Ian, Ewan, Lindsay

[isis19]

Name: Becca
Are you currently trying to stop SI? Yes
If so, what is your motivation? Disappointing/hurting my friends/family
Favorite coping skills? writing poetry, playing basketball, talking to my best friend, playing with my dogs
coping skills that work the least? doing nothing/dwelling on my problems
Places you can go? Bestfriend Jp's house, Amber/Dinorahs house, rec center, BUS
Identify stressors(be specific as poss)? not being liked, feeling inadequate/stupid, being alone, failure, my dad, seeing others hurting inside
If at school/work name good coping skills you can use? talking, keeping busy with customers and work
What is your currennt safety plan (for work/school/general)? call Jp/Amber
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been SI free? 4 months
Identify triggers? Hearing about rape/sexual assualt, others hurting, letting others down, being overwhelmed with family/work/school, people yelling, crying, failure, bad news
Contact friends? Jp, Amber, Dinorah, BUS

[what_if]

Name: Nat
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Yes, stopping
If so what is your motivation: My mom
Favorite coping skills: Talking to either my mom or my sister, listening to music, coming on BUS, reading...
Coping skills that work the least: Trying to forget about it
Safe places you can go: Anywhere where I'm not alone
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): Failing at something (even little things), upseting people i love, feeling like everything is going wrong.
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: Getting away from people (going for a walk), or sometimes the opposite...staying around friends.
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general): Dont have one
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: I havent been counting, but perhaps a month (feels like a hell of a lot longer though)
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: Well, i slipped once, so...perhaps going and talking to a friend or family member about how i was feeling at the time.
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): My friends talking about their SI in graphic detail/showing my their cuts, seeing others in pain, seeing scratches or cuts (even non-SI related ones) on others...
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): My sis and my mom mainly.

~ Nat

[silvertears]

Name: Mindy
Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI: Yes
If so what is your motivation: God
Favorite coping skills: Prayer
Coping skills that work the least: Writting the process
Safe places you can go: friends house
Identify stressors (be specific as poss): rejection, lonieness, anger
If at school/work name good coping skills to use: blue chip
What is your current saftey plan (for work/shool/general):
If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free: 21 days
If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd: stay away from know trigger feelings
Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss): internet ...
Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one): only got one.... guess I could find another

[pretty]

<b>Name:</b> pretty
<b>Are you currently trying to stop or reduce SI:</b> stop
<b>If so what is your motivation:</b> desire to be healthy, happy and free from this
<b>Favorite coping skills:</b> answering before questions and arguing myself out of it, drawing what I would have si'ed, writing lists of what's bothering me and then reasoning it out. reading.
<b>Coping skills that work the least:</b> distractions.
<b>Safe places you can go:</b> bedroom, park if weather is good, library if weather is bad.
<b>Identify stressors (be specific as poss):</b> making mistakes at work, deadlines, tiredness.
<b>If at school/work name good coping skills to use:</b> hiding in the loo for five mins and focusing on breathing and saying calm things to myself, making and drinking a hot drink. calling a.
<b>What is your current saftey plan (for work/school/general):</b> don't really have one, just try to use coping techniques that I know work. not carrying tools with me is really important.
<b>If you are not currently SI'ing how long have you been si free:</b> nine months but three days since I slipped. only one slip though
<b>If still SI'ing what could you have done to change the outcome last time you SI'd:</b> tried coping stuff. read. kept self away from potential tools.
<b>Identify triggers (be as spec. as poss):</b> anything relating to being at school, lots of family stuff, being reminded of failing in the past.
<b>Contact friends (people you may call when you are upset or have a slip, it is good to have more than one):</b> a, bus people if i want to be specific, text k or b or l, if i want to be distracted/not talk about si and don't mind waiting for a reply.