healthy rewards?
healthy rewards?
Does any one have some suggestions for safe, healthy rewards I can give myself? Food, like chocolate, works, but I tend to get some funny ideas about food if I use that too often. I'm guessing the best way to keep from abusing any one reward is to have a whole bunch of different ones. Ideas?
1. smells. anything you like the smell of. (some good incense or after-shave maybe?)
2. things that "feel" good. a new shirt with a nice texture, or even just a small square of silky cloth (or whatever) to rub between your fingers.
3. getting a book/movie/dvd/cd whatever (can rent them or get them from the library very cheaply).
4. a physical activity you like (for me, it's running)
5. phoning/e-mailing a friend just to talk.
if i think of more i will add them. these are just some of my favs.
jamie
2. things that "feel" good. a new shirt with a nice texture, or even just a small square of silky cloth (or whatever) to rub between your fingers.
3. getting a book/movie/dvd/cd whatever (can rent them or get them from the library very cheaply).
4. a physical activity you like (for me, it's running)
5. phoning/e-mailing a friend just to talk.
if i think of more i will add them. these are just some of my favs.
jamie
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I like little things that my responsible voice tells me not to do:
jump on a bed, do cartwheels, sleep in late, go singing in the rain...
When I am going to spend money I buy a book that I wouldn't have ordinarily, a CD or something similar. Recently I went to the ballet and I actually bought a souvenier.
They are mostly things that I always want to do, but I'm much too "sensible" for
jump on a bed, do cartwheels, sleep in late, go singing in the rain...
When I am going to spend money I buy a book that I wouldn't have ordinarily, a CD or something similar. Recently I went to the ballet and I actually bought a souvenier.
They are mostly things that I always want to do, but I'm much too "sensible" for
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Baths! My bath here is crap, so I shower, but when I really need comforting I go over to my sisters and have a nice long soak in the bath. Bubbles or oils or other yummy-smelling things definately help.
I tend to use food rewards too sometimes so I understand how this isn't always appropriate. Perhaps something like a special tea? You can get all sorts of wonderful herbal teas that are yummy and healthy and just having it put aside as special can make you feel like you're pampering yourself when you allow yourself to brew up a cup.
Picking or buying flowers - having fresh flowers in the house is pretty cool. It can smell good, and brighten up a room.
I tend to use food rewards too sometimes so I understand how this isn't always appropriate. Perhaps something like a special tea? You can get all sorts of wonderful herbal teas that are yummy and healthy and just having it put aside as special can make you feel like you're pampering yourself when you allow yourself to brew up a cup.
Picking or buying flowers - having fresh flowers in the house is pretty cool. It can smell good, and brighten up a room.
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-Taking a drive to the beach or some other place I enjoy that I don't go to frequently.
-Stickers. May sound kind of immature, but stickers make me smile so I reward myself with them somtimes.
-Sleeping late
-Getting a massage
-Taking a day off and just spending it doing nice things for myself
-I agree that scents can be rewarding...try looking into aromatherapy
-Baking cookies for me and my friends
-Buying myself a print of a photo or painting I like or having a photo I've taken enlarged and framed.
-Buying a new pair of socks (Nice soft socks on my feet is rewarding to me, anyway )
-Coffee/Tea/Hot Cocoa
-Get flowers sent to yourself
-Stickers. May sound kind of immature, but stickers make me smile so I reward myself with them somtimes.
-Sleeping late
-Getting a massage
-Taking a day off and just spending it doing nice things for myself
-I agree that scents can be rewarding...try looking into aromatherapy
-Baking cookies for me and my friends
-Buying myself a print of a photo or painting I like or having a photo I've taken enlarged and framed.
-Buying a new pair of socks (Nice soft socks on my feet is rewarding to me, anyway )
-Coffee/Tea/Hot Cocoa
-Get flowers sent to yourself
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if you go to a training college you can get manicures or massages or facials for proper cheap, like a few quid or summat. Even if its not a very GOOD manicure the experience of treating yourself can still be nice y'know. I dunno if youve had a facial before but they're truly amazing, most relaxing an refreshing experience ever!
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I buy myself a really trashy celebrity magazine that I would never normally read.
I love handcream too. You can buy a pot and just put a little on when you need a treat.
I love handcream too. You can buy a pot and just put a little on when you need a treat.
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"if I don't let myself be happy now, then when?"' - jimmy eat world
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"if I don't let myself be happy now, then when?"' - jimmy eat world
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I bought myself a yoga mat today and i am feeling good about it. I am resisting the urge to go buy icecream right now, have to say im succeding. When im not feeling so stressed i do want to go get a icecream cone *not a box of icecream* just cause i like tiger tail icecream and havnt had it in a very long time.
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