Anyone ever lost a loved one to SU?

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Anyone ever lost a loved one to SU?

Post by *Stella* » Mon Apr 11, 2005 1:31 am

Hi everyone. I was wondering if there is anyone out there who has lost a loved one to suicide. My mom killed herself 3 weeks ago. I guess I am hoping to find someone to talk to who has gone through a similar situation. I know it may be hard to talk about, but if anyone would be willing to share I would like that very much. :redstar:

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Post by mallie » Mon Apr 11, 2005 3:12 am

Hi Moonstone.

I'm sorry about your Mom, it must be very hard for you right now.

I lost someone to SU, my brother, many years ago. I'm happy to talk to you if you need someone.

Love Mallie.

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Post by DarkTigress » Mon Apr 11, 2005 5:19 am

My mother lost her father to an apparent suicide when she was 18 after her sister died and I've lost a couple friends, either direct or indirect. I'm always here if you need to talk either through pm, e-mail or aim. Be safe, ~DT
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Post by Licentia Poetica » Mon Apr 11, 2005 10:08 am

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I'm sorry about your mum moonstone.

I lost one of my very best friends to su last september. I have some idea of the guilt and pain you must be in.

Feel free to pm me if you want to chat.

Hang in there,
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Post by maisie » Mon Apr 11, 2005 1:31 pm

sorry to hear about your mum moonstone, i hope you're okay.

i lost my sister to SU, almost 2 years ago now, and it does get easier with time, i promise. ditto what mallie said, i'm happy to talk if you ever want to.

take care,
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Post by bonita_05 » Mon Apr 11, 2005 10:03 pm

hey sweetie~~

i lost my sister to su 3 years ago tomorrow, if u need to talk i'm here

**hugs**

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Post by *Stella* » Tue Apr 12, 2005 10:24 pm

Hi. Thanks to everyone for replying back to me. I am so busy right now my head is going to explode, so I can't write much now. I will try to get back to the board later tonight or tomorrow. I would really like to talk with everyone. Thanks again!!!! :blueheart:

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Post by cocolovett » Thu Apr 14, 2005 12:21 am

hey, im really sorry about your mom.
i lost one of my best friends to SU 6 months ago as of yesterday & its killing me.
ive also lost my mom, but that was not to SU. it was from natural causes.
i know its not the same, but i believe i have an idea of what you are going through.
& i would love to talk to you if you think it would help or if you just want to talk for no reason.
take care of yourself sweety,
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life just keeps getting harder. i never get a break. i want a family. ive just had 2 people that are close to me die within weeks of eachother. i have to live with my dad for one more month which seems like forever from now & everyones always trying to control me & i hate it. i just wish i had a little freedom & could do what i want to & be my own person.
i think my goal is to make it through this next school year & then move in with a friend (that wont control me) & then i guess ill see what happens from there. i think this goal is my first big goal that im actually serious about... & it took 18 years to just be able to do that............

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Post by Katkitty » Fri Apr 15, 2005 12:04 am

My aunt. My dad tried when I was thirteen. He died very nearly three years, ago not SU that time though. Am here, look after yourself, gve yourself the time and space you need xxx

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Post by Invisible_tears » Fri Apr 15, 2005 12:37 am

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom Moonstone.
I lost my Uncle to suicide just over two years ago, and it was the worst experience of my life. I'd love to talk to you if you wanted to, I think maybe if I'd talked about it more when it happened I'd have been able to cope better, so anything I could do to help you at this time I'd be more than happy to. Take care of yourself honey, I'm here if you need/want to talk about anything. Take one day at a time *hugs*

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Post by *Stella* » Sat Apr 16, 2005 1:25 am

Hi everyone. Sorry I haven't been to the board much at all. I 've been so busy, and then I got sick.
I feel like I'm in total denial right now. I mean I can talk about the fact that it happened, but I'm so numb about it emotionally. Anyone else experience that? I am having sleep & concentration problems though, which are normal I guess. My anxiety probs are increased also (have GAD, panic and social anxiety disorder). Being the messed up individual I already was, I would expect that I'd be having a complete breakdown, but it's just not hitting me. I cried a lot when I was at home with my dad right after it happened and at the wake...but since then I've only cried once or twice. I keep waiting for it to hit me like a truck. The cemetery was still closed for the winter so I have to go back up to Maine in a few weeks for the actual funeral. That really sucks..like we all have to do it all over again. Anyway, I know that it's affecting me in some ways, but it's just like not real or something. I guess I can't force it. I know a girl who's mom died in a car accident 8 years ago and she told me she's still waiting for it to hit her and she's still in denial. i don't want that to happen. It seems that in order for me to get through the grieving process, I have to start to deal with this at some point.
I have an enormous amount of things to get done right now, maybe my brain has shut off my grief so I can get it all done. I don't know. I'm kind of rambling here huh? Anyway, i would appreciate hearing how you guys have dealt with this. Thanks.
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