Not being loved

[LT]

I've never been on this part of the board before normally stay on the bodies under siege bit cause i'm new. Anyway i was wondering if anyone knows any good ways to deal with the fact that person you love doesn't love you back and also the feeling of being rejected.

[VowsOfSadness]

its hard to be turned down especially when you put so much into loving a person. Just remember that you did everything you could, you can't make someone love you. And you are you, if he/she doesn't go for that then it wouldn't have worked out anyway because you have to be loved for yourself.

"It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye.
You don't die from a broken heart - you only wish you did."--Anonymous

[Divinity]

Well, I don't have any great wisdom. But I just wanted to tell you that I can empathize. I am going through the same thing myself right now. I just made a decision to let myself cry and feel the pain of sadness. What can you do? Some things are beyond our control. I will tell you that the sadness will ease away in the next few days and you will begin to feel like you can conquer the emotions...but I know how you feel. So, here's a virtual hug...

[LT]

Thanks, i know it sounds so pathetic and theres loads of other people with ten times worse problems than me but its just something i had to get out and say. The fact i feel used is something which hurts, i actually think i love her which i feel i've never have for anyone before. This post is so stupid and worthless i really am pathetic.

[Divinity]

No your not...I've felt that deeply before. It's very painful to let go. It feels very desperate...and desperation is an emotion like anything else. It can be agonizing! I'm just saying all that so you know I feel ya! You aren't pathetic. It's okay to love beyond your capacity, it makes you wonderful! Maybe she was as confused as you...maybe she doesn't know who she is either or what she wants, that's why you feel used. You know, it doesn't define who you are. I have to tell myself that right now too...I absolutly hate this guy for doing the same thing to me. I feel all that anger because I am hurt and I somehow feel like it's about me, that I'm rejected or not good enough. But I have to remember he's an idiot, I'm okay. Even though I liked that idiot. It's a big let down, I know.

[LT]

It angers me that i was there for her now she doesn't seem to want to be there for me i opened myself up to her and i mean i told her things i wouldn't tell anyone else which is something i never do. I guess i'm scared cause now i'll have to start over finding someone else who i can really trust and really open up to. When everyones gone i will have no one and that really scares me because in them times i feel i will fall apart.

[Divinity]

Maybe she is scared she won't be able to support you, so she has pushed you away. Maybe she is overwhelmed.

But in any case, at least you have people on the boards that care...and ultimatly you will find someone to trust again. As for now, just hang in there, it gets lonely sometimes, I understand that for certain.

[LT]

Yea maybe thats it, i just feel i'm losing everyone like my friends i feel so distant from them all it's probably my own fault but it can be hard for me to be around lots of people. I have no social life what so ever. Thank you though it's nice someone understands all of this.

[Divinity]

Your welcome! Always. Isn't it odd how there is comfort in getting on line to socialize? I look forward to it sometimes, not just for myself, but I like the opportunity to encourage other people too...especially when I feel like crap.

[LT]

Yea i know what you mean i can express myself better through this way i think compared to actual talking i can never really open up that way don't know why. Coming on here has been a real help because everyone here knows what it feels like and understands.