mental self harm

[Lipgloss Boost]

Does anyone take part in mentally harming themselves? It seems to be an uncommon subject.

For example, I'll go to websites where guys post pictures of beautiful women, and make remarks about them. Like how some are perfect, while others may not measure up when it comes to being less than curvaceous. This makes me feel incredibly inferior, but I am still drawn to such sites.

Just the other day I read a topic saying how hot many 14-16 year old girls are. I felt terrible, but still read the whole thing.

Seeing threads about couples and their pictures gets me down too.

I'm running out of material that bruises my ego. But at the same time I don't want direct insults. Any suggestions of what I can look at?

[Angl06]

I do the exact same thing too.

I'm never good enough... I'm always terrible. I can never be the "perfection" that I see in other ppl

((((HUGS)))) *if ok*

I'm always here if you want to talk

[marylou]

I can relate to what you mean. Except I grade myself against the other girls in my life. It's so annoying and I wish I didn't do it but I can't stop myself.
Somedays I get all ready to go out and I think (for like a second!): Yeah, I look good today. I'm in shape and I'm pretty, go me!
And then I go out my room and I see my flatmate, or I go into town and run into a friend, and I just feel so crap and inadequate next to them. And in my head I list all the ways that they are better than me and how I'll never measure up.

Not got any advice, just wanted to share how I feel.

[gui hong]

I can totally relate, though I'm working on not comparing myself to others. It's very hard, but eventually I hope we can all get to a place where our bodies and our looks are uniquely beautiful to ourselves and we are able to approach ourselves with love instead of "why can't you be like ______?" I grew up with that constantly in my face, and I understand why we do it to ourselves almost automatically.

That said, please keep this thread focused on sharing feelings and tips for loving yourself more. Please do not post links to any material that is triggering or harmful. That is not the purpose of this board.

And, LG, welcome to BUS

gui

[mallie]

Do you know why you look at things like that? as in what purpose does it serve for you.

Why do you need to feel inferior ?

[Lady Oracle]

i have that all the time. all i have to do is turn on the tv or open a magazine. sometimes everything i see reminds me of the fact that i am not perfect. i makes me feel bad, but it also motivates me to work harder to make myself perfect. i think everyone needs some sort of hero, but it can hurt to know youll never be like that.

[mallie]

Do you need to be perfect ? People in TV or in magazines aren't perfect, they have their flaws just like the rest of us.

What are the good points about yourself ? Are there ways to improve how you feel about yourself rather than by trying to be perfect ?

[esaeler]

Wow, I do the same thing.

I don't have any recommendations, though, sorry.

[marylou]

I don't know why I need to feel bad about myself! I don't know why I do it. It's so frustrating because for a little while I do think that I'm fine, and then I go and crash again and think I'm not. I don't know how to break the cycle.

[mallie]

Marylou, It could be useful to think about what thoughts go through your head when it happens. Just sort of slow down a process that is pretty automatic. Might help you work out where you can stop it.

[Bathelina]

I relate to how you feel, I always feel a little sad seeing couples and stuff, because I've never really had a boyfriend or anything, and I always feel like everyone else is better than me... So I guess I know how you feel

Hope you're alright
Hanna ######