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Without question I love my children. It is the only time I am able to have that feeling. Strange with so many people around me there are only two in the world I really feel love for.

Thanks for the question.

Good for you well done. Don't have much to say about emotions as I have on one or two that I recognise right now. Take care.

Music helps either listening or playing. I find playing much more engaging as it takes more concentration. I'm learning to play the piano and it takes all my attention to read the notes and use both hands. Ok using my left is still a work in progress but some times I work out a passable melody. As f...

Have you looked at the list of strategies at the top of the coping section there are lots of good ideas in there. I prefer writing, music, going for a drive. If it's really bad I go to a mall and wander about, there are lots of people so I'm not alone but I don't have to talk to them. Take care ...

Hey there, glad it went well. I know what you mean about the sleeves thing my doctor wanted to see - it was very uncomfortable. I guess from my point of view having the doctor and therapist in the know actually helps me stay safe. I make it a point to tell my therapist if I self-harm and I really ha...

Hi Karen and welcome to BUS. I understand there is a time when the coping skills don't seem to work for us. If I let myself get to the point where the relief I get using coping skills is outweighed by the relief I think I'll get from self-harm then I have to get some outside help if I don't want to ...

Good for you glad you talked to the therapist. Take care..

Thanks both of you I don't see this behavior in relation to stress with them. More I'm sure it's just being kids. You're probably correct that my own experience has made me sensitive. It is that experience that I don't want fro my childen. I also don't want to turn something innocent for them into a...

I've two young boys 6 and 8. They are a joy and mostly keep me grounded in reality - something I'm extremely thankful for. Perhaps it the fact I self harm but fro some reason I have a difficult time coping when I see one of the kids hit themselves. I remember as a kid tapping my head with a ruler, a...

Attitude. If I manage my attitude I can keep things in perspective and enjoy a healthier approach to life and those around me.

Makes a lot of sense. I think your feelings are entirely natural. Some SSRI's do have some unpleasant side effects. I know from experience. So letting the doctor know what your concerns are up front may save you a lot of grief latter on. I had change medications a number of times because they were n...

My doctor was very understanding. When she found out she most of all wanted to make certain I was safe and had access to the help I required. It was very threatening though. However, I had built it up more than it really was. In the end I recieved the help I needed and have another person who is the...

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Thanks for looking after us.

thanks for taking the time to share your experience. It is one that no one should ever have to go through but unfortunately too many do. What happened to you was incredibly wrong and not your fault. Please see, at least talk to, a therapist about what happened to you. I feel strongly that one would ...

Because it really wouldn't change anything. In the morning I would still have the same problems and new scars to hide.

I wish I did not feel like everything is about to blow up? It isn't - just feels that way.

Thanks for you insight. It is easier in this regard to stand outside looking in or rather back in time and seeing the pattern. However in the moment when your wrestling with alligators it seems harder to spot the point at which you slide into the pattern. There is that point along this continuum whe...

I've been thinking about slips lately. Not about having one but wondering why I get back there so often. Looking back I have to wonder if a slip is a single event for me or a longer series of choices I make that puts me at risk of a slip. To put it into broad catagories what seems to happen is: Feel...

Hi and welcome to BUS. As others have mentioned there is a good list of coping strategies on BUS. I try to remember that they are just thoughts and urges. When they get to be overwhelming, I write, build something, clean house, listen to music, sometimes all at once. It's quite a sight. Seems to wor...

I just realized that its been almost three months without SH. I've even had a number of days when I didn't think of it as an option. I'm liking this. I wish you all peace.